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Driving with one hand on the wheel?

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PassingStranger · 21/10/2024 17:41

Somebody that I'm regularly a front seat passenger of drives with one hand on the wheel sometimes.

AIBU to keep mentioning it. They assume me all is fine and we haven't had an accident yet?

It makes me a little uncomfortable though.
They aren't doing anything else with the other hand, they just feel they don't always need both hands.
AiBU.

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coffeesaveslives · 21/10/2024 19:09

I pretty much never have two hands on the wheel unless I'm really concentrating on unfamiliar roads, or I'm doing a manouevre.

Willowkins · 21/10/2024 19:05

That's a fair point@bozzabollix there was little or no power steering in cars when I started driving.

ExitPursuedByABare · 21/10/2024 19:03

I have a knob on my steering wheel and always drive with one hand.

bozzabollix · 21/10/2024 19:02

Driving instructor here. So long as you are fully in control of the car you’re ok to do this. But you need to think about being fully in control, if you hit a pothole for example will the wheel be under your control still? How about at higher speeds?

Back in the day I was taught ten to two with feeding the wheel, something that takes you half an hour to turn a corner. Occasionally I’ll inherit a student from an ageing instructor and they feel great relief that they don’t need to do it anymore! The old way was to have contact with the wheel as much as possible, but with car tech being what it is now (who now doesn’t have power steering?) it’s changed, it’s literally about being in control and that is it.

CheeseWisely · 21/10/2024 18:55

If you kept mentioning that I only had one hand on the wheel I'd slap you with the other one.

I'm joking obviously, don't condone violence, but give it a rest OP. Do you drive yourself?

Seeline · 21/10/2024 18:52

Thebellofstclements · 21/10/2024 18:47

I've been driven be people who drive for loooong distances with both hands at the bottom of the steering wheel. I no longer travel long distance with them as I am a firm believer in ten-to-ten-past. It's so easy to fall asleep in a relaxed position.
If you don't like the driving style, drive yourself.

They recommend quarter to/quarter past these days so your hands aren't injured if the airbag goes off.

Foxxo · 21/10/2024 18:52

i'm part of a community of drivers, some of whom do race as a hobby (one who does it professionally) and its a standing joke that passengers should be more concerned if a competent/experienced driver has both hands on the wheel as it means they're anticipating need more minute control of the car rather than driving in a relaxed fashion... think about it.

weareallcats · 21/10/2024 18:47

I only have 2 hands on the wheel when I actually need them for turning, or whatever - I assumed most people gradually progress to this after passing their test and becoming more competent drivers. Didn’t realise there were people out there who stick to 10 to 2 forever.

Thebellofstclements · 21/10/2024 18:47

I've been driven be people who drive for loooong distances with both hands at the bottom of the steering wheel. I no longer travel long distance with them as I am a firm believer in ten-to-ten-past. It's so easy to fall asleep in a relaxed position.
If you don't like the driving style, drive yourself.

Foxxo · 21/10/2024 18:44

you dont need 2 hands. quite frankly you should be more concerned if someone does always have both hands as they're not a confident/comfortable driver.

TwoLeftSocksWithHoles · 21/10/2024 18:41

I understand, if the History Books are anything to go by, that Horatio Nelson drove his carriage in a similar manner - and, AND, he only had ONE eye!

BashfulClam · 21/10/2024 18:37

I steer with my knee whilst eating my McDonald’s! (Joke)

MargaretThursday · 21/10/2024 18:37

My daughter only has one hand. She is perfectly fine to drive, as checked by an official tester and her driving examiner. She passed with only two minors first time.

DancefloorAcrobatics · 21/10/2024 18:36

If it makes you feel unsafe or nervous, don't get into the car with that person ever again!!

OneTC · 21/10/2024 18:35

I drive mostly with one hand on the wheel and you'd be walking by now

dixon86 · 21/10/2024 18:33

It's not your place to comment. If you don't like it, get the bus

ElaborateCushion · 21/10/2024 18:33

BeachRide · 21/10/2024 18:31

What about the burger? 🤣

All joking aside, I did once see a woman driving to work one morning, putting on her lipstick while holding a mirror up and having a facetime conversation on her phone on the windscreen!

Unfortunately for her, a police van went past her on the other side of the road and the last I saw of it, it was turning round a roundabout to head back in her direction!

GasPanic · 21/10/2024 18:31

amothersinstinct · 21/10/2024 18:05

I actually read somewhere once that people who drive with one hand are actually more responsive to the movements of the car and therefore safer drivers vs the 10 to 2 ers who movements can often be Jerky and grip the wheel

I noticed this while watching the F1 yesterday.

As they approach the high speed S all of them were taking a hand off the wheel and waving it in the air in order to navigate the curves more smoothly.

PassingStranger · 21/10/2024 18:31

OK. Won't mention it again. That's why I asked AIBU, it seems I was.

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BeachRide · 21/10/2024 18:31

HateMyselfToo · 21/10/2024 17:51

Actually, if one hand isn't on the gear stick, its because I need it on the wheel while I hold my drink in the other hand

What about the burger? 🤣

ElaborateCushion · 21/10/2024 18:31

AIBU to keep mentioning it.

Yes - you are I'm afraid. You have two choices as a passenger now - get in the car and accept it, or don't get in the car if you consider it that dangerous.

You can't be policing someone else's driving.

My DH does this and I don't like it either. I tend to drive more than he does as generally I prefer to drive, but when he is driving I don't say anything. He's the driver. He's the one that makes choices about how he drives. Your options as a passenger are another matter.

If he was driving dangerously or going way too fast, yes, I would say something, but not repeatedly. If I felt his driving was exceptionally dangerous I would just stop getting in the car with him.

I agree with other posters that this is quite common in manual cars, particularly in traffic when you're having to change gear a lot. I used to drive like that when I had a manual and some of it has stuck.

Now I've got an auto I'm a two handed driver, unless I'm stuck in traffic, then I'm one-handed with my left elbow on the centre console arm rest.

Willowkins · 21/10/2024 18:30

I had a think about this and I drive with 2 hands on the wheel most of the time - obvious exceptions such as gear change etc. It's how I was taught and I've stuck with it but that was 30+ years ago though so I'm wondering if the rules have changed.

Ablondiebutagoody · 21/10/2024 18:28

Because I'm not a nervous Nerris, I mainly drive with one hand on the wheel. The other is either resting on the gear stick, my lap, passengers leg etc. Its fine.

timenowplease · 21/10/2024 18:28

YABU Op.

How else are you supposed to text?

Justcallmebebes · 21/10/2024 18:27

pictoosh · 21/10/2024 17:49

Do most people not drive with one hand on the wheel and the other resting on the gearstick?

This is how I drive, have done for over 30 years and touch wood, never had an accident

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