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To be shocked at how aggressively people drive?

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CheerfulBunny · 21/10/2024 17:35

Just moved into a small village and our front door opens onto the street which has a narrow path both sides. There are parked cars on our side of the street meaning that vehicles have to wait if another vehicle is coming the other way. Our house is listed so single glazed so can hear road noise much more now.
I'm absolutely flabbergasted at how aggressive the driving I've observed is - mounting the pavement, accelerating madly, revving engines, blaring horns. It's completely inappropriate to drive so fast from and to the end of the road where you could meet another vehicle head on. I honestly fear for pedestrians as well. I'd really be worried if I had a cat or dog (if it accidentally got out).
AIBU to be concerned? Why is everyone so impatient and angry behind the wheel now?

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Mishmashs · 21/10/2024 18:53

@BalletCat OMG that’s awful! Your poor horse and poor you. He must have done awful damage to his car hitting a big horse like yours. Hopefully the police take away his licence.

but yes OP, I’ve been thinking the same thing. Yesterday I hopped out the car leaving my husband driving, there was no one behind us. I got on the pavement and started walking and realised the slack of my seat belt had got caught in the door and it wouldn’t shut properly. So my husband leaned over opened the door and shut it again. Meanwhile someone had zoomed up behind hi and started beeping. So impatient for having to wait maybe 5 seconds for DH to free the seatbelt and move on! Beep beep beep.

BalletCat · 21/10/2024 18:48

AddictedToBooks · 21/10/2024 18:41

I'm really sorry about your horse, the poor thing and your trauma - I live near stables and will always stop and turn my engine off if a horse is coming towards me or I hang right back and drive a lot slower and just wait, if I'm behind a horse.

My husband is exactly the same as me, when he's driving near horses.

Too many people drive dangerously and stupidly and it's all ages and all kinds of people who do it.

I hope the person who caused your accident is found and prosecuted and that you recover well and soon.

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Thank you! So few drivers are safe around horses.

It was a very old man who claimed he didn't see us, which he obviously didn't because he didn't even brake there were no skid marks he just hit us at full speed. My horse was a huge draft horse, pure white and I was wearing hi Viz and waving at him shouting slow down. How the fuck he didn't see us is mystifying. He's either fucking blind or just was looking where he was going and was looking at something else. I hope they take his licence off him if the stupid old bastard is thatblind and dangerous. I hope he sees my horse on his bonnet every time he closes his eyes for the rest of his life, because that's all I see when I close my eyes now.

Now when people drive aggressively around me it makes me so so angry because they clearly won't ever give a shit until they kill someone. Like me or my horse!! I have a 4 month old baby, she nearly didn't have a mum and these people driving like wankers couldn't care less. Disgusting.

AddictedToBooks · 21/10/2024 18:41

BalletCat · 21/10/2024 18:33

It's honestly awful. Only 3 weeks ago I was riding my horse back to the stable, we have to go down a road in a village for 5 mins to get from the bridle path back to the stable, it's the only time we're on the road. In those 5 minutes, a speeding car hit us, killed my horse and nearly killed me.

Since getting back in my car and driving this past few days I've been very nervous of other drivers after the trauma of being run over and every time I've driven I've ended up in tears and had to pull over. I've been aggressively tailgated and had horns blaring at me for 45 going round windy narrow bends on a national speed limit road despite doing the speed limit on the straight stretches, I had a horn blared at me for slowing down to turn a corner !? I've been overtaken on a blind bend which scared the life out of me and cars have been so close to me I can't see their number plates in my rear view mirror. It's horrific out there.

I'm really sorry about your horse, the poor thing and your trauma - I live near stables and will always stop and turn my engine off if a horse is coming towards me or I hang right back and drive a lot slower and just wait, if I'm behind a horse.

My husband is exactly the same as me, when he's driving near horses.

Too many people drive dangerously and stupidly and it's all ages and all kinds of people who do it.

I hope the person who caused your accident is found and prosecuted and that you recover well and soon.

BalletCat · 21/10/2024 18:33

It's honestly awful. Only 3 weeks ago I was riding my horse back to the stable, we have to go down a road in a village for 5 mins to get from the bridle path back to the stable, it's the only time we're on the road. In those 5 minutes, a speeding car hit us, killed my horse and nearly killed me.

Since getting back in my car and driving this past few days I've been very nervous of other drivers after the trauma of being run over and every time I've driven I've ended up in tears and had to pull over. I've been aggressively tailgated and had horns blaring at me for 45 going round windy narrow bends on a national speed limit road despite doing the speed limit on the straight stretches, I had a horn blared at me for slowing down to turn a corner !? I've been overtaken on a blind bend which scared the life out of me and cars have been so close to me I can't see their number plates in my rear view mirror. It's horrific out there.