Is DD weird?

I'd start showering daily as I'd feel those 'friends' would be the first to comment if I smelled.

Most people I know do shower daily. It takes ten minutes. I'd encourage.

Is there an issue that your daughter doesn't like the shower? Too cold? Fear of privacy? Uses school showers but won't use home shower? Etc. Is there anything you could do to help her enjoy it more? When she gets periods she will need to shower every day.

But another school shirt for her so she can have a clean one daily or do washings more frequently?

This. The showering is a red herring.

"Weird" is the kids' word for anything out of the norm.
A daily shower at 13 is the norm.
Why would you not tell your daughter to shower more often? Deodorant is not a replacement for washing.

Girls that age have a weird obsession with who is the most clean, I remember this happening when I was in school, and when DD was that age too. I distinctly remember my friend saying she didn't shower every day and she got berated, I didn't have the guts to stand up for her and didn't dare admit I also didn't shower every day. Your DD is definitely not the only one that doesn't shower daily.
What I have found though is some cultures do (a lot of afro Carribbean people especially, daily or 2x daily is the norm) and it is very much a cultural difference.

I'd be concerned about her friends as they don't sound like friends at all. They sound like bullies. Friends are nice to you, they don't call you a weirdo and upset you so much you don't want to go to school.

@pastaalover I think nothing is amiss with your DD‘s shower habits. Daily showers aren’t actually good for your skin as it takes the protective layer off. What do you think people did when they didn’t have hot shower facilities 70-80 years ago - they used to wash or rinse if needed but they didn’t necessarily smell.

kids can be unkind to each other so I‘d tell your DD to just nod and smile and let those girls find someone else to pick on.

They're saying it either:
A) Because they're teenagers and anything outwith group behaviour and norms is fair game for comment and teasing.
B) They're trying to tell your DD that she smells and needs to wash more often. You're her mum, maybe you can't smell it.

At that age, I used to have a bath every 12 hours 😂

If she doesn't smell and doesn't get greasy hair then she doesn't need to shower daily and every other day is fine.

I assume she had a quick wash?

Keep an eye out for puberty hitting harder and then she'll need to shower daily.

My sporty 13 doesn’t smell after not showering for 2 days, nor did her elder brother at that age. Some people don’t stink!
Her friends sound horrible.

They’re saying it because they are teens and what your daughter is doing is different to what they are doing. If she doesn’t need to shower everyday then fair enough - I’d just tell the friends that she does shower everyday now

I wouldn't say weird, not a nice thing to say. I would encourage her to shower daily though.

Of course she isn't.

Well, not for that, I mean, I don't know her, she might be weird, but her washing routine isn't.

It’s not weird at all if she doesn’t smell, but I’m a bit confused why her first reaction is she doesn’t want to go to school instead of saying she wants to start showing every day purely to fit in. Can she just tell them a white lie to shut them up - maybe she gets eczema and when she has a flare up she can’t shower every day. It’s a weird thing for her friends to get hung up over - I can’t say we ever discussed shower habits when I was at school.

Well the fact people have commented on it surely rings a bell that it is unusual not to shower daily.
At 13 I imagine she is starting to smell a bit funky on day two, rather than her missing school can't she just have a daily shower?

When you are a teenager, being different in any way is just latched onto as something that sets you apart. If both you and she are happy with every second day and she's not doing sports (for example) on the non-shower days, I don't see the issue really. It's not that unusual. Heck when we were teens, we'd have a wash every day but showers were a lot less often, probably twice a week! One bathroom, 4 kids, no chance of a shower every morning.

I don't think she's weird. Her friends aren't very nice though.
Having said that, it depends how active she is. Does she play sports? Is she washing on the days she doesn't shower? Wearing clean clothes?
My daughter did shower daily at that age, puberty meant she was very aware of her cleanliness and I think that's typical.

Obviously that's not a kind thing to say. Does your dd smell? If not then it's fine I would have thought.