Is DD weird?

False equivalence

Teeth should be brushed twice a day

Bodies should be washed a few times a week - daily washing can actually be harmful in sone cases

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Have you seen the threads on here about showering daily vs less frequently? Have you read this thread? Grown women get weird about this so why should teenagers be any better? There are people who think showering every day is a necessity and anything else is dirty. There are people who swear that they only need 2 showers a week and that they smell delightful.

Teenagers are the more likely to get whiffy than adults because of raging hormones and teenagers are a lot more likely to care what their peer group thinks. I’d make sure she has a fresh shirt for every school day and tell her that if it really bothers her she can tell them that she’s swapped to daily showers and they were so right and she feels better for it - whether she actually does swap or not.

If you’re smelly maybe, but lots of teens don’t shower daily - and you’d never know.

Probably a good moment to have a chat with your daughter about some of these things:

• over sharing personal information with people and learning to navigate conversations with friends and acquaintances
• is it time to shower more often? I think playing sport three times a week, plus weekend activities and being a teen, it's a moment to think about this
• buying a fifth shirt for school and teaching your child to start managing their own washing etc. It's a good opportunity to hand over some responsibility and control to her.

I wouldn’t say weird but it is unhygienic, especially for a teenager.

Does she also not brush her teeth daily? These are just basic daily hygiene things.

Honestly! “DD should shower 15 times a day and then she needn’t worry blah blah”. Why the af would she let insecure bullies dictate to her what she should do? What if they said her eyes were a horrible colour? Should she get contact lenses? They say she’s short so she has her legs stretched??!

You don’t pander to bullies! I very, very much doubt these girls are kindly telling DD she smells - because I’m sure she doesn’t! These are insecure teen girls picking on something ‘different’ to make a ‘gang member’ feel insecure and themselves feel better.

Maybe your teenagers do... Mine dont and nor do my nieces and nephews.

Perhaps your family are unlucky with body odour?

She's. It saying don't help her with hygiene

She's saying ignore the crap virtue signalling done under the banner of hygiene

She’s not weird and they’re very nasty.

Unfortunately, this is the trouble with teenage girls, some can be very bitchy.

I hope your DD is ok.
Please reassure her that she is normal and in no way weird.

Love your view - tell OP to not help DD with hygiene.

I think some people shower too often! I don't shower everyday either. I think some people are weird about it and think they must shower every day or they'll stink. Probably easiest way forward is to let DD shower daily if she wants to but her friends don't need to know about her shower habits really

I think they could be maybe trying to tell her that she needs to shower more often ? Obviously much nicer and kinder ways to tell her but they are teen girls they can be quite mean unfortunately. Can you pick up another shirt so she has a fresh one everyday or do a midweek wash

3 days?? So he could go Mon Tues wed wearing the same uniform with no shower until wed night? That's a choice I wouldn't make

She probably is among the less usual but it's not a bad thing. Scientific advice is that it would be better not to shower every day but culturally most people have got into the habit of washing every day and so the mindset that less than that is 'dirty'. Teenagers (and some people) will often attack anyone who does something different.

Saying that, I remember going into classrooms at school and university in the afternoons and they would often stink. Mostly I assumed it was kids not using deodorant or changing their clothes often enough but maybe they just were stinkier.

You should in theory be able to go a couple of days without a shower and without changing outer clothes. I know plenty of people that do.

Greasy hair! The horror! Tell your dd to get over it?

Where does it stop? Greasy hair - not showering every day - having hairy legs - having frownlines - not having perefct eyebrows

Just leave all these girls alone. Let them be sweaty once in a while or have greasy hair. Who cares if they don't?

And presumably you don't know how often or not they all shower?

This issue is simple to fix.

1. DD showers daily
2. Monday school shirt washed for Friday. (In sink if no laundry done mid week)

If these 2 things change. Then mean girls can say what they like. But your DD knows they are wrong.

My DD is not a mean girl, but tells me she has a friend who looks to have greasy hair and the other girls comment. The mean girls could be making it up
or
they notice something you don’t.

My father never wore deodorant in his life and certainly didn't bath or shower every day. He never smelt of BO.

My husband is like this - literally never smells but still showers daily because it just feels a bit gross not to!
Whilst mean, I do wonder if these girls are trying to let DD know that she smells a bit? A quick shower and clean shirt every day seems perfectly reasonable to make sure she’s fresh.

I smell nice, though. As do 99% of teenagers these days.

How do you know? Maybe he's a kid that you've never noticed smelling.

You don't sound very nice anyway.

You're the parent of the kid we can tell had a lesson in a room in P1 after lunch. By summer, we'll be able to track him across the school from a distance of 20 foot-plus.

I know Mums are sometimes taken the piss out of for thinking their sons' shit doesn't stink, but in your kid's case, it's the whole of him.

I don’t think she is weird (as long as she doesn’t need to be washing more often) but I think it’s always easier to fit in with the crowd with something like that because it’s now made her a target for bullies and is likely to get worse.

My kids from age 5 showered every day..I often shower twice a day if at gym etc my son who us 13 showers every day and again after football..every second day is a bit gross tbh