Is DD weird?

No weird is obviously not kind not sure why you are focusing on is she weird / that's childish talk.

There are a lot of threads lately with an odd tone. I mean it's obvious isn't it her friends think it's more normal to shower at least once a day! It's not so hard to understand their viewpoint.

Most people shower every day if going in to work / school. I have two baths a day. I bathed the children every day when little. I think you can alternate day hair wash if you want to but I'd say it's more usual to shower daily yes.

Haven't read the full thread so it's probably been mentioned but if your dd has started her period I would really be telling her to shower daily on those days op. Period does stink especially in the heat.

Daily washing is certainly not harmful, what a load of rubbish 🤣

We’re not talking about a full body exfoliation, face mask and pamper every day, but at the least washing under arms/face/genitals should be done daily. Not just for smelliness but as a basic hygiene routine.

Er, no 🤣 I’m one of those many people who don’t leave ‘poop’ smeared over my arse (or arm) when I go to the toilet!!

Yes. This.

This is getting ridiculous! What if they told her her breath smelt and she was weird for only visiting the dentist twice a year and only brushing her teeth twice a day? Obviously, her breath really must smell, right, because teenage girls never say anything mean or untrue to other girls, so clearly she needs to go to the dentist every month and take a toothbrush to school so she can brush her teeth after every lesson - makes as much sense!

”Weird” is a teen comment on everything. Don’t like chocolate? Weird! Haven’t been to Spain? Weird! Favourite colour is green? Weird! Don’t like cats or dogs? Weird!

You are one of those poop don’t stink people.
Good for you.

Ummmm…..no! 🤣 Your DS (and you?) need to see a doctor about your digestion issues!

I feel very sorry for your son, even on the tiny off chance he doesn't smell ripe by Wednesday he must feel bloody awful. I had a mother similar to you, she didn't consider basics like washing and clean clothing necessary. I spent my childhood/teenage years feeling generally grotty and itchy in places I didn't want to know existed.
You are probably lining your son up for a lifetime of confidence issues (I am definitely overly clean now and wash jeans after every wear because I remember feeling dirty and I most definitely smelled terrible)
It extends to my house which I keep immaculate at all times, the loo, kitchen etc are cleaned daily and I feel panic if I see dirt on the floor.
All because my mother left me filthy as a child.

But if you're the one being subjected to comments and you're 13, you don't think" it's them not me", you believe it is you.
And in this case it may well be her, some parents are blind to the smell of their children and also don't have to spend all day sitting right next to them in lessons. Maybe she does smell, lots of teenagers are much more sweaty than adults because of all the hormonal changes.
There's a very simple solution, clean shirt every single day, good anti perspirant deodorant and daily shower.

Layering deodorant isn't good for your skin and neither is washing it every day

There seems to be a blind spot here

And why anyone thinks that it's ok to bully someone because gheir washing habits don't match your preference I just don't know

I can't imagine not showering daily, but I wouldn't be telling people that's what I do. I guess it's normal in your house if you are asking if it's weird?? I'm terrible for only washing my hair twice a week but it's waist length and takes forever to dry but I shower at least once a day, more often twice, as does my partner, but he hair washes daily too

It is more grim than weird. Periods, she needs to shower daily. That's what her friends are probably thinking.

She’s not weird. Some teenagers will find any excuse to pick on someone. I was picked on relentlessly as a teenager despite never doing anything really weird or wrong. The problem is them not her.

I have a baby, not a teen. No teens in my family. I don't know if anyone in my family would smell because we all shower everyday. Everyone sweats unless you have some kind of disease that stops you from sweating. Layering deodorant isn't great for your skin.

Yanbu. We don’t shower/bath every day in our house (maybe if necessary in summer), it’s bad for the skin but we’ve just been conditioned as a society to think it’s gross not to. If we smell or are dirty/grubby then we shower or bath, probably once every 2-3 days. My kids have sadly realised that this isn’t the norm so they don’t mention it to friends but there really is nothing wrong with not showering every day if it’s not necessary.

Honestly girls can say these things - they may not be trying to be unkind but just trying to be funny and it can be common for friends to make fun of each other.

I have 2 teenage girls who shower every day for what it's worth but it is simply what they are used to. I don't think they'd smell if they skipped a day and if one of them is tired after a holiday or something, it isn't seen as a big deal. Showering twice a day is excessive unless you do a sport in my opinion. My girls wash their hair once a week while some of their friends wash it every other day and that isn't seen as a big deal either.

Although, honestly, I'd say maybe look into getting her one more shirt for Friday or rewash one of them. I know it might not smell but wearing it all day at school means it just isn't likely to be clean or very hygienic even if it doesn't smell all that horrible.

I'm not gross. I don't mind having a body that farts and sweats and pees. We all do. Showering every other day and wearing clean clothes is fine.

My DS said-

if you had some poop on your arm, would you just wipe it away with a tissue? it would smell right? You would want to clean yourself with soap, right? Or would you just leave the poop smear on your arm.

he was explaining why he liked to shower after a poop.

So, those not washing for days … you’ve got the poop smear right there on your bum … for days.

I have a bath twice a week, it's amazes me that people smell so much they have to shower every single day. It must cost a fortune in electricity and water, a 5 minute power shower is about 75 gallons of water (a bath is 80) so think how much electricity and water you are using if you all have showers every day. Bad for the planet too.

They obviously never thought dd smelt or they would certainly have mentioned it by the sounds of them! So tell her to say perhaps they need to wash more because they smell more!

I think that every other day is gross. Just shower every day. It's not like you have to drag a tin bath into the kitchen ffs.

Shower every other day is fine if she doesn’t have greasy hair but she does need to wash underarms with soap and water on the non shower day. Just putting more deodorant on isn’t enough. Also, with the school shirt, can’t you just was one in the week? Think I only had 3 or 4 shirts but they were washed and always clean on.

Kids will pick at anything. Why doesn’t she shower everyday?

Christ no you don't pander to bullies. They'll find something else to try and feel superior about next. My teen DD doesn't shower everyday, she does not smell in the slightest.