Is DD weird?

Deodorant and body spray don’t wash your feet, bottom or genitals.

Agree.

Nose blindness is a thing.

Her peers have done her a favour.

OP, what is the objection to a daily shower?

Everyone should shower every day. I have this argument with my DC every day. It's just polite!

@pastaalover is it that boomerang smell that you get from the shirts for not being cleaned very well, normally I wash for 45 minutes but my DD for she was doing me a favour by putting the washing on and put them on for a 14 minute wash😂
She wants to try and get new friends!!!
I am a 90s girl, so I had So!, impulse and deodorant.

I think people who don't shower each day are dirty ....we all pee and poo and we all sweat, these areas need cleaned daily and not just a quick rinse either. Everyday pollution and grime stick to our hair and skin.....it's just better to shower each day.

Have you considered buying her a shirt next size up which she can wear on Friday if she wants to? You'll need to get it anyway in due course so it might help to get it now.

Think you should wash the Monday shirt for Friday

Because the problem probably is that the pubescent child does smell, and very obviously if a child plays football three times a week and the mother hasn't mentioned that she's skint, living in cold, damp conditions, or in any ither way exposed to deprivation, there is hot water in the house.

Your situation was uncommon and it is shameful that you had to live in those conditions. Hopefully you are doing better now.

It's not weird at all. Many people shower more often than needed, which wastes water and is drying for their skin. So long as she looks and smells clean, she is.

This thread 🤯

This poor girl is being bullied.

I know loads of people who don’t shower everyday. I don’t. I don’t have time to wash my hair every day. I have lived with loads of different people, gone on various holidays with people, travelled and stayed in peoples houses etc and trust me not everyone showers everyday! And no people do not smell. This thread is ridiculous.

I was in a similar situation. I don't see the appeal in deliberately having cold showers, but I preferred to be clean and cold than cold and filthy - wash with kettle water, then quickly under the shower hose, £2.99 from Woolworths as I remember, for hair and body (or the kitchen tap when I moved into a different place with no hot water for a couple of months).

Spent far too many years being forced to be the dirty kid at school to do it as an adult, frankly. I heard all the bollocks about how showers were something silly rich people did. And the 'Greaseball' nickname, I heard that one a lot.

Most homes have combi boilers where a shower is a few pence and even an electric shower is only about 20p. Some people live in horrific poverty in the UK but the vast majority of the population do have access to hot water without it being a choice and immersion heaters are largely a thing of the past in most homes.
OP hasn't indicated at any point that access to the shower is an issue, just her DD chooses not too.

Yes, I do but I'm still not 'conditioned', how are they connected?

So you have enough hot water to take a shower?

@JockTamsonsBairns Because OP has not indicated that they dont have hot water or that access to it is a problem so its not unreasonable or privileged for people to assume hot water is available.

What if there's no hot water? How is it simple to shower?

Honestly, the only thing that stinks here is the stench of MN privilege.

Just have a daily shower? Are you all for real?

Years back, when I was a lone parent to DS1, I couldn't afford to switch the hot water on. Our electricity was on a prepayment meter, and we were always on the emergency setting.
I chose food over topping up the meter.

We lived in a cold, damp flat, with no access to hot water.
Why are you all saying, "just take a shower"?

Genuinely, I don't understand?

Exactly - I would consider it very bad manners to get into bed with someone unwashed, even if I didn’t actually smell.

I still dont understand why she doesn’t have a clean shirt every day though.

What happened 100 years ago is not really relevant to this child's dilemma though. The problem with this kind of scenario is that it was ever thus I.e some teen girls, especially young teen girls, comparing their behaviours and possibly mean with it.

100%
At school, kids get very close to each other. Girls especially get close, often swapping clothes, fixing hair & will notice dirty hair, body odors.

Teachers often lean close to children, & notice.

It’s natural for humans to not linger around odors, maybe make comments to hope to change behavior.

So maybe an adult can bathe less as aren’t getting so close to others. But teens generally get very close in school to whisper, work together etc

(Being physically close at school is why kids get nits & adults don’t)

She needs to shower every day and probably needs to use an anti perspirant/ deodorant, and no body sprays. She should also have her uniform blouse changed daily.

Stale body sprays and deodorant on top of sweat, period smells, feet - yes, she will smell.

Please don't encourage her to skip showering daily.

Humans have been making soap for thousands of years and scented oils and other hygiene products are some of the oldest examples of chemistry in the historical record. Before then, various plants containing high levels of saponins would have been used. Multiple religions focus hugely upon hygiene and communal baths are a feature of the archaeological record across the globe, not just in the English pre-war period.

Cleanliness has always been a human concern.

Yes agreed, it’s not the having the daily shower that is competitive. It’s the holding the daily shower/ daily washed towels/ pants under jammies etc, to be some collectively agreed standard of hygiene (it’s not) and calling people who don’t or who disagree, some of the MN (or schoolgirl) bingo terms of ‘vile’ ‘gross’ ‘grim’ or ‘disgusting’ in attempt to shame them.

I don't think she's weird, but I'd say it's "normal" to shower daily, and I make sure my children do.