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Public proposals

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Redruns · 21/10/2024 15:47

Why?

I'm sure in most cases you must have at least discussed it beforehand, no one's making a spectacle like that without reasonable certain knowledge of the outcome.

Why does anyone think other people should be involved in their personal moments?

I'm always happy to hear about an engagement and offer congratulations and well wishes, but find being forced to be part of the proposal makes me shudder.

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HelloCheekyCat · 21/10/2024 15:57

We saw two on our recent trip to Disneyworld, luckily both women said yes and looked very happy. would be very awkward if not because they always have a photographer on hand to capture the moment

Brefugee · 21/10/2024 15:55

my fb memories today reminded me that we saw one at half time in a home game 7 years ago. I hate it.

KimberleyClark · 21/10/2024 15:54

bifurCAT · 21/10/2024 15:50

lol, narcissists

Yes, it’s narcissistic and manipulative, and cowardly if you are not convinced the person you’re asking would say yes if you asked her in private.

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Redruns · 21/10/2024 15:53

OrwellianTimes · 21/10/2024 15:48

No one is forcing you to be part of their proposal. When has that ever happened to you?

if you’re a passer by, just move on and leave them be.

Well the one that's really got my toes curling was during the run briefing at parkrun.

I'm not taking about ones where a couple have their moment alone in a public place, but where they've deliberately sought an audience. E.g. at a party or dinner, at a football match.

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thursdaymurderclub · 21/10/2024 15:52

We did New York a few years ago, and up the Empire State building we went, we couldn't move for camera's and self sticks and groups recording proposal after proposal.

Groups of 6 or 7 people all getting the right angles for their 'surprise proposal'. it was ridiculous.

LlynTegid · 21/10/2024 15:51

I've yet to know of one where the prospective fiancee has said no. I'd smile if they did.

I view such over the top proposals as part of the trend to inflate events. See also milestone birthdays for example.

bifurCAT · 21/10/2024 15:50

lol, narcissists

EggnogAnd · 21/10/2024 15:50

It's ghastly. There's on that was on Youtube from aeons ago of some dope in a baseball cap proposing at half-time in a US basketball game in the middle of the court. The woman looks horrified and runs for the door without saying anything, and the team mascot, some furry chipmunk or raccoon or something, just puts his paws over his eyes. Which pretty much expresses my own opinion.

OrwellianTimes · 21/10/2024 15:48

No one is forcing you to be part of their proposal. When has that ever happened to you?

if you’re a passer by, just move on and leave them be.

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