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To think my friendship will need to end due to Israel/Palestine?

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VioletW · 21/10/2024 13:20

I've been close friends with a Jewish woman for ten years. We went on lots of trips together, lived in two different countries at the same times, been there for each other through all sorts.

Anyway since she moved I see her once or twice a year, the second time usually being Christmas. She always looks me up at Christmas and I'm anticipating the same this year.

My position is that I disagree with the October 8 attacks and also what's happening in Gaza is horrific. I've been to demonstrations about this, even bumping into two other Jewish friends at these.

I've seen my friend posting online that these demos are 'Anti Israel'. All of her posts are in support of fighting anti semitism and she has never posted about Palestine, although she works for a humanitarian organisation. AIBU to think this simply ends the friendship?

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MiraculousLadybug · 21/10/2024 13:27

If you're completely unwilling to see her point of view then I suppose it's over. It doesn't sound like there's any issue from her to you though, does she know you've been to demos and still wants to be friends? If so it sounds like she's willing to overlook your foibles so maybe do the same? Also, it's October 7th.

Whalewatching · 21/10/2024 13:26

Could you possibly both accept that you hold different opinions and agree not to discuss it? Or has her view ‘put you off’ her?

I hold different opinions to so many people, I also have some opinions that are not mainstream. I’m making a conscious effort to not let it completely cloud my view of some friends and don’t get into discussions about it if I think it will. We can’t always knock around with identically aligned people.