Friend in trouble, police at my door.

Exactly. Let’s get the dad or mum to go screaming at the friend that she/he is going to hit and kill her. Only fair right.

Absolutely, so on the argument of some here, it'll be Absolutely fine for this 10 yo's older brother/dad to approach this woman and scream and threaten her he's going to hurt and kill her, and then in retaliation people from her family threaten them..
And so on infinitum?

It did stop anyway. They lived down my
own street. Once I changed schools we had some space and it all went away.

I’ll never side with an adult screaming at a child that they want to hit and kill them over some words no matter how mean those words are.

You’re a grown ass adult. Act like one. leave the childish shit to the children and teach not abuse.

Maybe they should have, the bullying might have stopped!

People taking matters into their own hands in response to what they consider as too much tolerance by the state….

Do explain the parallel here. I don't see it, but obviously these are the kids that weren't put in their place like this woman did.

Or the civil unrest earlier this summer?

Finally some sense. The other people defending the physically/verbally abusive mum on here have lost the plot. It is never ok to threaten to kill someone. Especially a child. 10 is definitely still a child last time I checked.

On the basis of some accused slight. Do any of us know the facts here? Until concrete facts are presented with evidence - all else is pure speculation. What a shame to slander a young boy without even knowing the full situation.

If there are better ways to combat racism and bullying why is it still rife in schools then? If it's not sorted after a few decades then the mechanisms to deal with it aren't working are they.

Sorry, but schools are to blame for having way too much tolerance for this. Stop enabling them by blaming the parent for being at her wits end and taking matters into her own hands. I'm surprised people haven't learned anything about the anger this creates in a lot of people after the incident resulting in a global reaction resulting in civil unrest a few years ago.

No.

My son and I have both dealt with racism and I never threatened to kill the kid.

I'm not going to teach my son that's how things are handled and I'm not going to enforce awful racial stereotypes by looking unhinged.

No to mention this doesn't happen in a vacuum. The kid wasn't born racist. I think there are better ways to combat racism.

Forgot to quote post.

This happened at drop off in the morning. Depends on the school but in the playground at our school there’s one teacher on the gate, then the others are all inside the classroom. Dinner ladies are already in the kitchen. No CCTV as it’s a primary school. So with regards to the parent incident there may not have been many staff at all who saw the whole thing, knew the context and spoke to the mum afterwards.

Ditto the child incident- they said that the teachers didn’t notice but the teacher has eyes on 30 kids, I bet kids sitting on the same table know what’s going on though.

Don’t assume that someone else will always step in.

Not sure why the replies go off like they do sometimes on Mumset, you’ve made it clear what happened.

As some others have said either ignore or make a post where you may it clear this will be your only response , your friend is an adult, you were not aware of any plans she had to confront this child, you were aware of the issues your friends child was having and this in itself is not acceptable, and neither is your friends behaviour to a child.

this is being dealt with by the Police from the school report to them. You have made a statement to them, because they presented at your home. Add that the whole experiencing is upsetting and ask that people bear in mind that children should be protected at home and school and if anything comes from this , which can be in anyway positive, that you hope the children are supported and not in anyway further affected and tormenting by these events , end off, leave the chats x, wishing you well x

OP, your friend did not like (rightly) another child bullying her child, your friend then bullied a child shouting and threatening to kill him. Your friend is 1000% times worse imo, as an adult you do not bully anyone more vulnerable them yourself and should have the emotional intelligence not to snap.

This mother does not know what the school have said or done, or what the boy has said her daughter has done.

I would go on the WhatsApp group and say you are equally as shocked as others at the incident this morning and removed the person as quickly as you could to defuse the situation.
You should as state that you have given a statement so can not comment further.

The boys mother you send a message saying please do not contact me and any further communications will be reported to the police, as you have done nothing wrong and she is bullying you.

OP said that the boy was bullying her out of sight of staff.

Bullying in school id expect the teachers / dinner ladies etc to be the witnesses.

If no adult is ever hearing it then I doubt many if any children are either. Bullies are crafty after all.

This playground incident has both other parents and teachers as witnesses the children are not needed other than the kid who’s been threatened.

Your friend sounds like a fool. Threatening a child in a school playground is utterly bonkers. In all honesty this is why children are behaving badly and bullying others. Some do not have good role models.

In that case I hope that you/ your kids never either get bullied or threatened by an adult saying they were going to kill them in a school playground. A wall of silence works both ways.

That was a good message. I hope you also told her that it wasn't you that reported to the police, though. in fact I'd have told her that it was the school. Because a) it's obvious anyway, and b) the school has big enough shoulders (and the LA/Academy's backing) to cope with any fallout. You should not have to carry the can for them. I'm a retired teacher so I know that the school would expect to carry the responsibility for their action

Your friend is unhinged and should be held accountable for her actions, her husband is an excuse not a reason. We all navigate things in life but threatening to kill a child and running around playgrounds hunting for children is not acceptable behaviour in an adult under any circumstances. Her terrible behaviour are not a solution for a child's comments and behaviour towards her daughter.

In terms of others blaming of you, ignore it or as others have said defend yourself. Leave the school to deal with it all, probably this will end with the boys family pressing charges against her. Her poor daughter already bullied at school and then her mum embarrassing her.

How exactly is your friend 'threatening' you? Had the school dealt with this racist behaviour as appropriate, none of this would have happened. They are at fault here.

Presumably the ‘witnesses’ in that case would be other kids? I’d advise my child not to get involved, yes

I would hope at minimum she receives a caution.

Yup and it is all the schoo's fault for not dealing with it.

Nothing will come of it. Courtwise. At worst. She may be banned from entering the playground for a limited period.