He hasn't asked me to be his girlfriend...

Hello! I am need of some advice.

I started dating someone just over 4 months ago. We were dating 'exclusively' from the off; on our first date both of us noted that were weren't dating anyone else at the time. This was my first date since the end of my last relationship (I don't date easily, only if I know of someone / already have my eye on them, etc). I saw this guy at the gym and knew 'of' him and was extremely interested in him (still am!).

Forward just over 4 months since this date, we have seen each other weekly and spoken everyday. Since this time, lots of life events have happened (got a PhD, started a new job, etc) and it's been so lovely having him 'there' through it. I love spending time with him and actually feel like I may.... 'love' (ahhh) him.

We have recently booked a European trip to explore xmas markets (Mid December). He has met some friends, and I have met his sister. we share similar interests and appear to want the same things from life / each other / a relationship (i.e.. being a team etc).

Anyway... I am starting to feel a little twitchy and vulnerable as he hasn't asked me to be his GF yet. I have subtlety brought this up and h noted that he wants something 'long term' but isn't in a rush. He appears to be a genuine guy so I am inclined ot believe this and accept it, yet, at the same time, I cant help but feel anxious / vulnerable about it. AIBU to think this should be happening soon, or, is it one of those things where everyone is different and I need to respect that?

Not sure what to think and its been making me feel a little inseure.

Additional info: he has a large group of friends who are 'well known' etc., whereas most of my friends have moved away so I don't have a solid group of friends around (lots of individual people dotted about). Not sure how this is relevant but it feels like important to note as something I wonder whether we are on the same 'level' in this sense (which, again, worries me).

Is he waiting to meet my parents? Is he realising that I cant offer the same social opportunities as he can? :(

Thank you in advance.
27 year old singleton in deep with a 31 year old guy.

She said:

Additional info: he has a large group of friends who are 'well known' etc.

Which suggests that he is, too.

So accept some people have different expectations in relationships?

Me too. Me and my now DH established we were boyfriend and girlfriend around the 3 month mark – we were both going off on 2 weeks holidays one after the other and wouldn't see each other for a month.

It mattered to me, and a group of weirdly bullying women on the internet would never make me feel stupid about it either.

Maybe it’s regional then! I’m an 80s child and despite having a few long term relationships as an adult, and an (ongoing) marriage, I haven’t been asked to be someone’s girlfriend since I was in about year 6!

What on earth is this? In my day, if you were dating someone more than once they were your boyfriend or girlfriend.

I'm an 80s child and I would be feeling the same as the OP.

I was definitely asked to be a girlfriend in my last few relationships, after a few dates, sleeping together, feelings developing etc.

I'm an 80s child and I would be feeling the same as the OP.

I was definitely asked to be a girlfriend in my last few relationships, after a few dates, sleeping together, feelings developing etc.

The whole post is odd IMO.

It sounds like there's a few more stages to a relatively these days.

If you were born before 1995 then:

• You go out together more than once = pretty much instant girlfriend/boyfriend/exclusive and everyone knows that
• You move in together or you get engaged

If you're born after 1995:

• You meet someone and start 'seeing them' on more than one occasion
• You have a discussion about 'being exclusive' some point down the line
• You officially become boyfriend/ girlfriend on Instagram (high commitment level)
• You move in together and/or get engaged

No, not necessarily, but an odd thing to drop into a post, otherwise.

That does not indicate famous.

She also said she 'knew of' him, prior to speaking.

She also said she 'knew of' him, prior to speaking.

She said:

Additional info: he has a large group of friends who are 'well known' etc.

Which suggests that he is, too.

She said:

Additional info: he has a large group of friends who are 'well known' etc.

Which suggests that he is, too.

She didn't say he was famous.

In what way is he famous, OP?

It sounds like there's a few more stages to a relatively these days.

If you were born before 1995 then:

• You go out together more than once = pretty much instant girlfriend/boyfriend/exclusive and everyone knows that
• You move in together or you get engaged

If you're born after 1995:

• You meet someone and start 'seeing them' on more than one occasion
• You have a discussion about 'being exclusive' some point down the line
• You officially become boyfriend/ girlfriend on Instagram (high commitment level)
• You move in together and/or get engaged

It sounds like there's a few more stages to a relatively these days.

If you were born before 1995 then:

• You go out together more than once = pretty much instant girlfriend/boyfriend/exclusive and everyone knows that
• You move in together or you get engaged

If you're born after 1995:

• You meet someone and start 'seeing them' on more than one occasion
• You have a discussion about 'being exclusive' some point down the line
• You officially become boyfriend/ girlfriend on Instagram (high commitment level)
• You move in together and/or get engaged