To want to change my whatsapp settings to remove my last seen?

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Ponystories · 21/10/2024 08:24

My friend stalks me on whatsapp. She stalks everyone. She will send a message and then:
If you have been last seen but either not read or replied to her message she will get arsey. She will then regularly check your last seen. She will get arsey in that you'll either get a short reply or she will purposely wait ages to reply, like you did to her (her words).

She will comment that I was up late ie she saw my last seen at eg 1/2am

If I turn off my last seen she will get the arse. But I'm tired of her games and feeling like I'm being watched. I feel like I need an excuse to turn off my last seen. She will 100% ask me why I did it.

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DatingDinosaur · 21/10/2024 08:40

Ugh tell her to get a life. Ask her if she fancies you or something. Ask her why she's so invested in the minutiae of your life. Ask her why your last seen status bothers her so much. Tell her your life doesn't revolve around her and she doesn't get to dictate when you reply to her messages and even if she did, having a tantrum because she's not getting what she wants when she wants isn't the way to go about it.

TLDR; Do it. She's not worried about pissing you off and/or hurting your feelings so don't worry about hers. Just tell her if she asks why.

GrazingLamb · 21/10/2024 08:40

@Kitkat1523

The op can select who sees the ‘last seen/online’ status - ‘contacts except,

getthosetitsup · 21/10/2024 08:39

Do you really care if she gets the arse? She sounds like a massive pain in one.

Violetparis · 21/10/2024 08:35

Just do it and when she asks just say you have changed your privacy settings on all your apps to give you some space from it all.

Stepdad55 · 21/10/2024 08:34

Only use whatsap for family now but seems that some wont contact u if they see you arent online so how do u win🤔

Kitkat1523 · 21/10/2024 08:31

She doesn’t need to see it…..but do you want others to see it?
before I go to bed every night I check my 3 AC and my DM to see whether they been on WhatsApp that day….that way I feel they are safe and I can’t sleep easy….mad I know!

Bullaun · 21/10/2024 08:29

I literally don’t know anyone on WhatsApp who has their ‘last seen’ switched on any more. But I’d be ditching the weird friend either way.

AmbridgeGirl · 21/10/2024 08:29

If she asks tell the truth. No need to make up excuses. You don't like her checking up on you. She can't deny it as you have proof that she does.

Changingplace · 21/10/2024 08:28

Jesus she needs to get a life! Yeah 100% turn it off, and when she asks tell her straight that apart from the fact it’s none of her business you can’t deal with her weird stalker behaviour.

WYorkshireRose · 21/10/2024 08:27

Why is she your friend? I couldn't be bothered with someone like this.

ComeOnThenFanny · 21/10/2024 08:26

You have to be strong here. Tell her the truth - you're sick of being stalked on WhatsApp! Absolutely no way would I put up with that shit.

Whatever123456789 · 21/10/2024 08:26

Just do it.

Coolblur · 21/10/2024 08:26

Just block her and tell her why you don't need people like this in your life.
Why are you so worried about upsetting her?

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