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Neighbour cheating on husband AND being awful. Is revenge ever worth it?

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CornishIrish · 20/10/2024 21:03

So, this is really a general Sunday night WWYD question.

We have neighbours behind us who own a field. Since they moved in to our little otherwise chilled out village they have been total nightmares. Knocking out our phone lines right before Christmas last year and causing general hassle.

Just in the last few days our lovely but not super attentive, gardener cut into a bit of the boundary hedge. We said we would replace it but they have since sent a super threatening letter saying they will take us to court if we haven’t made good the hedge in 30 days. Poor gardener is so upset. The hedge looks over absolutely nothing. A bit of grass. They’d have to go out of their way to see it.

Anyway, I recently saw her out in the forest near us with a fella who wasn’t her husband and they were being super, er, friendly with each other. Apparently they have been seen on other occasions too.

So, to finally get to the AIBU bit… Have you ever taken petty revenge i.e. grassed up a cheater for your own nefarious reasons and how did it work out and is petty revenge ever justified?

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5128gap · 20/10/2024 22:17

What makes you think its Mrs Neighbour that's the driving force behind your issues with them? What if its Nr Neighbour who's the arse and she's all "leave it Bernard, it was an accident" but he's having none of it? Grass her up and you're doing Bernard a favour. If he's your nemesis you'd have better revenge letting him be the village cuckold.

ludicrouslycapaciousbags · 20/10/2024 22:08

It's all very Rivals.

Do you live in the Cotswolds OP Hmm

Errors · 20/10/2024 22:06

I would do it OP. Fuck them. Hopefully it means they will move

Entertherubicon · 20/10/2024 21:49

Oh, I so would take advantage of this God given opportunity to get rid of the pair of them for good.

Post an anonymous note to the husband and if you see her at it again, take a snap & post it to the pair of them separately. Hopefully they'll split and be gone from your peaceful village forever.

BabyCloud · 20/10/2024 21:17

You have to continue to live there so make sure whatever you do doesn’t make it harder for you.

SquirrelSoShiny · 20/10/2024 21:16

If you were truly skilled at vengeance you would have been carrying a paparazzi style camera and caught some front page style snaps.

(Yes, I may have been watching Rivals this weekend!)

ToddLafondlah · 20/10/2024 21:14

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CornishIrish · 20/10/2024 21:13

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No. I was looking for a scarf DD dropped on a walk and they were walking on a parallel track and then stopped to have a particularly slurpy snog. I tried to keep in my breakfast and ducked.

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Redruns · 20/10/2024 21:12

Surely there's no requirement for you to even have a hedge?

I think I'd find a way to let her know it's not in her interests to cause you any more difficulties.

Jojimoji · 20/10/2024 21:10

Drop heavy hints to her about how you've been watching the wildlife in the forest. Wiggle your eyebrows and smile knowingly. Hopefully she'll understand the subtle blackmail and be more neighbourly.

ToddLafondlah · 20/10/2024 21:07

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ThreePointOneFourOneFiveNine · 20/10/2024 21:07

erm… if they split up that my result in them having to sell the house to divide assets so you’d get rid of them. I’m not sure I’d have it in me to deliberately sabotage, I’d just quietly hope that he found out and I got rid of them without me getting involved.

Edingril · 20/10/2024 21:07

No because I am not a child, I would be more worried about myself if it did make me feel better

Coldfinch · 20/10/2024 21:05

I would. They sound a nightmare. Make sure it’s anonymous because they’re both probably nuts.

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