About DD's name

user873628 · Today 17:21

In laws hate the name Lottie and always have. They say it sounds like a Victorian servant and is ridiculous and refuse to use it. I find this rude, DH doesn't.

Don't worry, she won't get confused. My daughter was called at least 3 different diminutives (actually longer than her name) by Russian speaking in laws. She always knew her real name. (They're not Russian, but from a very much non Russian former Soviet Republic).

As an aside, one of her best friends is called Lottie, but Charlotte on her birth certificate and I made a huge blunder by calling her Charlotte - she was in floods of tears. I didn't know .....

My 10 month old goes by two names she responds to both. I don't think it's confused her at all to be honest. It's always been like that we have a nickname and her actual name. Everyone calls her both always has done.

I think it's ok for her parents to say Lottie and grandparents to call her Charlotte. I agree with your DH that it's not worth making a fuss about.

You’re mostly annoyed because they’re annoying - just rise above it.

She’ll easily, easily learn both names - honestly, you’re going to be astounded by her language acquisition skills and how utterly amazing the next 12 months of learning to communicate are going to be. Enjoy it. Don’t let a petty irritation grow.

My Grandma never used my name .. always used a nickname - she didn’t like the “British royal” connection as she was Irish Catholic.
My siblings have called me a different nickname since birth
I have always known my name.

I’ve always called me daughter by a version of her name nobody else uses .. again, this has all been fine,

You are worrying over nothing.

Sorry but you are being very unreasonable. They are calling her by her name. I could understand it if they were using a totally different name but they aren't.

My grandmother always referred to boobs as "Lotties". Maybe they're aware of this old-fashioned reference, which is why it may feel awkward to them. A bit like you insisting they call her Titty. Just a thought.

Her names is Charlotte. She needs to know that name first anyway.

My dd had no trouble knowing she had a long name and a short name. We used bother from the start.

What an overreaction 🤣😳

She won’t get confused, she won’t fail to learn her name and she won’t have any negative outcome from one set of grandparents calling her Charlotte and the rest saying Lottie.

You’re making this into an issue because it annoys you. Just let it go.

Completely agree.

You've chosen the name Charlotte and said you don't mind if you calls herself that do you must like it.

Mountain out of a molehill.

I can see why it irritates you, but I don't think it's a problem as such.

I have a full, formal double-barrelled name that was really only ever used by my grandparents (and my mother when I was in trouble!) and on official documents; a shorter version of that name that I use on a day-to-day basis, at work etc; and a further shortened version used by siblings and cousins and close friends.

It has aye been thus and I promise you, I've never wondered what my name is.

She might like the fact her grandparents call her by a name nobody else does. Kind of the thing they have together, a specialness. She might tell them when she’s old enough to stop calling her Charlotte because she prefers Lottie.

Don’t stress, it’ll right itself.

YABU and very precious. They are calling her by her name. It could be the other way round and you want to call her Charlotte and they abbreviate it to Lottie. Also fine.

It's not like they he said Charlotte is awful, we will call her Jemima. She isn't going to get confused.

It would also be fine if they come up with their own nickname and call her Boo or Monkey or Pickle or whatever.

I would use both so she is aware from birth that that’s her name.

I have a proper name on my birth cert and have always managed quite easily! To put it bluntly you created this problem yourselves as my mum did. I even answer to 3 different versions of my name and managed this from an early age.

I don't think she'll get confused, and she'll just associate them with calling her a different name.

But I definitely think you need to ask them to buy "The Lottie Project" for her for Christmas (Jacqueline Wilson). It'll be exactly right for this circumstance. 🤣

Her name is Charlotte. If you don't want people to call her by her name then you shouldn't have named her that.

I agree with this. YABU. Her grandparents are calling her by the name you gave her.

I might be the only one here who thinks YABU.

Her name is Charlotte according to her birth certificate

PIL’s are calling her the name you gave her and you have an issue

Lottie is a lovely name if you wanted to call her that, should of named her that

It is a nice nickname but it might be good for her to learn both.

You have a DH problem.

It very easy to change a baby’s name in the first year. You just have to have the birth certificate amended. I’d tell your ILs that as they have trouble remembering her name you’ve decided to change the birth certificate to Lottie to avoid further confusion.

I don’t think she’d get confused. Lots of little ones have various nicknames. Can see why you find it annoying though.

I don’t think she will get confused and it makes sense that she learns both names and know they apply to her. You don’t want her to end up in a dangerous situation when out with nursery, in hospital, or at school that would have been prevented if she had responded when someone said “Charlotte, stop” because they used the name on her birth certificate.

Let it go. Not worth your energy. When she is old enough she will tell them herself!

Your dh should say "Mum, we've called her Lotte, can you please use that" but it won't matter in the slightest to her that different people call her different names. dc are fine with that.