To keep DD off school?

i bet they wouldn't dare ask or expect this of a member of staff !

Actually, schools are notorious for expecting staff to come in with legs hanging off. Usually guilted in with exhortations to think of the children.

One of my friends was asked to rearrange a consultation for a potentially life-changing condition because it was 3 months before SATS. Utterly callous and simultaneously ludicrous.

The child is still under care of the consultant. GPs have enough to do without clogging up their day with pointless reviews.

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Exactly ! how can any school or even a workplace think it's reasonable to expect someone especially a child who has been ill in hospital for a week come back into school /work a few hours after being discharged , i bet they wouldn't dare ask or expect this of a member of staff !
The one size fits all approach for school attendance gives me the absolute rage.

This makes me weep, the child is unwell and you have enough to worry about never mind worrying what you say to school. I actually don’t think I could have coped schooling children in England with this carryon. You are the mother and you decide when she is fit and well to return. Imagine yourself getting out of hospital on a Sunday and going back to work on a Monday! Hope your child feels better soon x

I remember when DS was first in hospital a nurse saying to me “don’t forget when they get home they are still ill, just not ill enough to be in hospital”

she said it in the respect of me needing to look after myself while he was in so I was well enough to look after him but it has stayed with me in respect to him being able to be back to “normal” too

Also remember if this is a long term health issue the school must make reasonable adjustments under the equality act.

First one I'd be requesting is authorised absences when's she's I'll without the need to keep proving she has a long term health condition.

Also things like missing PE of she doesn't feel well enough on the day - especially if it's after lunch and she may feel fine in the morning so not have a note.

Also a mentor she can contact if she needs some support physically or emotionally.

Access to a quiet room if she's unwell where she can access school work.

And as above a reminder to them of what the DfE actually says rather than their interpretation of it!

My son was in hospital for 8 days this time last year and also had a lumbar puncture, he stayed off another 2 weeks when we got home. Partly because he was still in discomfort from the LP, partly because of my anxiety about sending him back when he had been so poorly to need all that time in hospital. Our school were very understanding though and to be honest I don't think they wanted the responsibility or risk of him being so poorly again. Hope your daughter is well whatever you decide 💗

This sort of thing really pisses me off! Who do the school think they are to pressure you into getting her to school. If people are going to take the puss with attendance, they will do so anyway.

You don't necessarily need a sick note (nothing like also putting unnecessary pressure on the nhs when it's at breaking point broke) you just need some sort of medical info. For me, a screenshot requesting a doctors appt and the relevant text message was enough. The discharge papers should be enough. As long as you come across as a rational parent when discussing with them, they seem fine.

I wouldn’t send her in before the appointment then so you know what your both dealing with.

hope things go ok, make sure you look after yourself too x

No, keep her off until she is ready. It is OK to keep children off school for medical reasons. She has been in hospital for 6 days so please let her rest and adjust at home before school

With your mention of medication for school it sounds like she has a new for her diagnosis to deal with to?

personally I would use this week to get things sorted with school for after half term and let her fully recover for the next half term.

Well I wouldn’t be sending my child in after just coming out of hospital, I don’t care what twatty rules the school might have about unauthorised absence. Just ignore them.

Yes, ring in at 8, explain she is still not well/drained from her hospital stay and she will continue to be off. If you want/depending on the policy you can ring/email every morning to keep them updated. Say you will email them the discharge notes , or take them with you if they agree to a meeting. Don't let them keep the original, ask them to make a copy if they require one for her file.

You can't. We don't do them. Thats what the discharge letter is for. Although I did write a letter on headed note paper the other week, as discharge letter would be hours. And mum wouldn't go without it as she need it for school, the kid was 5!

Just use the discharge letter to prove she was in hospital. Schools are putting ridiculous pressure in parents. If she was in for 6 days she obviously needed to be there.

Keep her home until you are satisfied she’s well enough to go to school.
would you be going to work tomorrow morning if this was you?
if not then she shouldn’t be going to work either .

After 6 days as an inpatient I would keep her off all week.

whenever ds has been in hospital I have generally kept him off school for as long as he was in. They need time to recover and being ill is physically and mentally exhausting.

if worried ask if staff can put work online for her to do between now and the end of half term IF she is feeling up to it.

Is it not half term where you are?