I did the right thing, didn’t I?

You're a teacher, is mandated reporting not a thing there? Here (US) you'd have to report it. You wouldn't have had a choice.

I work in a school and understand the safeguarding policy of 'it's everyone's responsibility'. It is true. If we ignore things that don't sit right with us, and something happens to that child, how would we then feel? Dreadfully guilty and wondering what we could have done differently. You did the right thing, please don't allow your husband's opinion to make you feel bad, for doing what you thought and deep down still think you did, what was right.

Hmm I’m not so sure with this one, you are a person that could make our lives even harder at the moment.
Our Dd became very sick over the summer and developed what Drs think is Pans/pandas
Dd literally changed overnight from a happy, healthy little girl to having awful thoughts and screaming and shouting multiple times per day, The worry and upset and stress on our house has been devastating, as we scramble around desperately to get her help. When she goes into a rage, we cannot calm her down, we cannot reason with her, it’s horrific and the screaming and shouting must also sound horrific.
We are going through the worse time of our lives, to receive a visit would make things 100% harder.
Could you have knocked on the door yourself? Did you notice this child was happier/ok before? Our neighbours know our child and were used to seeing a very happy family around the neighbourhood. I would hope, have they heard us, that they would approach us if they felt worried at all and possibly try to, I don’t know, help?
I’m a teacher also.

You absolutely did the right thing. And maybe it will help this mum to access suitable help, I know in some cases it does.
Your DH didn’t want to report it himself- fine, but his comment towards you was so twatish that it would lead me to question the relationship with him. Sorry.

You were correct and did the right thing. Anyone could have reported it so she doesn't need to know. Your DH knows fuck all about safeguarding.

Btw if her child has SEN, the likelihood is that she also has some ND, which is why she blanks you.

You did the right thing by reporting it. I think one massive problem we have is that the cases that get reported is when social services gets it wrong. Of course it's true mistakes happen. Children are sometimes removed from their loving home completely unnecessarily, or left in a home to be beaten to death. However social workers are trained professionals, contrary to popular belief, they aren't going to rush in, take a child away and get the parents sent down, because some random neighbour phoned them. If there it's a problem they will see this and leave the family alone.

You did the right thing

I wish someone like you had reported my mother to Social Services when she was trying to kill me, I was already in care and this was during forced visits to her, social services didnt believe me when I told them what she was doing but they might have believed a neighbour. It took a judge in court for me to finally be heard but I'd endured over 2 years what I can only describe as torture.

You might have been saving another child who was going through what I had, you are brave and commendable and I wish there were more people out there like you sticking up for us little ones that have no one who cares about them.

I hope you’ve let your DH know how much of a arse he is OP.

Yes. Yes and yes again! Think of star Hobbs, Arthur Hughes and Sara sharif…. Maybe if someone had ‘stuck their oar in’ they would be alive.

Of course you did the right thing!

do you know how many adult survivors of childhood abuse say.
adults around me must have known. if only one person had taken the time to report it. Even if nothing had come of it I would have known now looking back SOMEONE cared enough to try to help.

it is heartbreaking to see the deep pain of an adult who needed and desperately deserved help looking back remembering how no one ever even cared enough even to make a phone call.

on the flip side of the coin if there’s nothing to take action on then S/S will bugger off and leave them alone.

either way it is our responsibility as adults in society to protect our vulnerable members. If it turns out we were wrong nothing comes of it but if it turns out we were right that could potentially change the landscape of that vulnerable persons life forever.

Safeguarding is EVERYONE’S responsibility. Unfortunately far too many people don’t want to ‘get involved’ or ‘stick their oar in’, your OH included. How many horrific cases do we hear about when neighbours must have heard horrific abuse and did nothing? It beggars belief that people still just shrug their shoulders and do nothing. If you have concerns, report it. SS will investigate and can decide either way if intervention is needed. You did the right thing and your OH is an unsupportive shit.

This. So many people heard her and did nothing. You did the right thing. Don't let anyone make you doubt that.

I reported my neighbour and she asked if it was me. It was awful but it needed to be done. It's better to report and be wrong than risk a child being abused.

You’re a mandated reporter. You had to.
I don’t like SS because I don’t think they are fit for purpose. Whole thing needs changing. But whilst it’s all that’s available, you had to report to them.

Better to report and be mistaken than to keep quiet and be right.

Even if SS are ‘making her life a misery’ you still did the right thing.

Of course you did the right thing. Your ignorant DH needs to understand that too many children have been let down by people who could have acted doing nothing.

Look up Sara Sharif. I bet her family's neighbours now wish they had reported what they had heard.

You did the right thing. Your H is an arse!

Of course you did the right thing, the mother might even have better access to support now it's been flagged. Your OH sounds like a fool!

I can't get past a teacher saying a child is SEN. I'm not being pedantic but language DOES matter.

But moving on, yes you did the right thing.

The child might be absolutely fine, but you're not to know that.

You did the right thing

Your husband is not very nice to you

This is exactly why all local authorities have an anonymous safeguarding report line.

You did the right thing.
You had concerns over a child's safety and you told the appropriate service.
It has been investigated and the child is safe.

The world needs more people like you, who don't turn a blind eye or think things are someone else's problem.

Of course you did the right thing. Ignore the arse of a husband. Let's hope he doesn't need a bit of support or reassurance any time soon from you.

If in doubt then yes always report… but my 2 year old will often tell us to leave the room at bedtime repeatedly and then scream ‘come back don’t leave me mummy!’ (which we do, we just stand outside momentarily) so I wouldn’t have based on what you said!