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My dad is a massive conspiracy theorist and it's so frustrating

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patrilla · 20/10/2024 09:37

Can anyone relate and how do you not make it drive you insane ??

He's visiting at the moment and it's just all doom and gloom constantly.

He's so extremely negative about literally everything and everything is proof that we are controlled by this elite group of people who just want to make sure we are controlled and destroyed.

Everything is a rip off and we have no liberties. We are all just sheep being ripped off and we are all really dumb apparently.

Say we need to pay for parking or we need to be careful not to drive in yellow boxes, as we can get fined- he takes all of it as a sign of control. If a place doesn't take cash, it's also a control thing and we are so dumb for going along with it all.

It's literally every little thing. Everything is so shit now and the world is ending. Don't even get me started on a nuclear war being absolutely imminent.

It's exhausting to be around.

Does anyone else know someone like this ? How do you deal with it ?

Don't even get me started on Covid. It's just everything. Everything is questioned, everyone is corrupt. Apart from the people spouting this stuff. They're the only ones telling the truth.

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thepariscrimefiles · 20/10/2024 21:05

JubilantTurquoiseGerbil · 20/10/2024 19:06

They are often one and the same. I grew up with Evangelical Christians and many are full-on conspiracy theorists, especially where it concerns Trump, Democrats, Covid, and so on.

How on earth do Evangelical Christians justify supporting Trump when he is a proven adulterer and adjudicated rapist?

Setting aside all the racism, attempts to overturn the election and his complete unfitness for the office of President, surely Evangelical Christians are hot on chastity and faithfulness in marriage?

wastingtimeonhere · 20/10/2024 20:11

Couldyounot · 20/10/2024 15:17

I don't understand the anti-5G stuff. I can't even get National Rail Enquiries to load in a main station with 5 bars of 5G signal, so it's clearly not that good

Ahh, that's because it's not for phone signals but frequencies to infiltrate brains to control..😉

JubilantTurquoiseGerbil · 20/10/2024 19:06

gladrefrain · 20/10/2024 17:35

They would rather believe that someone 'they' are controlling everything rather than believe that bad stuff can happen randomly to a lot of people!

Yeah. I do think evangelical Christians and conspiracy theorists recruit from a similar group of people. Except Christians have a much more positive message that someone good is in control and all will be right in the end, and conspiracy theorists have a miserable message that very bad people are in control for undefined nefarious reasons. I guess they meet similar psychological needs in the people who believe ( to think things aren’t random and someone’s in control), but the Christian message is much more positive and makes people happier.

They are often one and the same. I grew up with Evangelical Christians and many are full-on conspiracy theorists, especially where it concerns Trump, Democrats, Covid, and so on.

pestowithwalnuts · 20/10/2024 18:10

A friend has a dh like this..bores the tits off me
I just tell him I'm not interested and if he won't shut up I start talking to someone else or leave.
It's like the fanatical vegans..they feel compelled to tell you why they are vegan and why you should be too.
I'm a woman on the menopause so fuck off to the far side of fuckery and then fuck off some more

BadSkiingMum · 20/10/2024 17:41

crackofdoom · 20/10/2024 12:41

Basically, oil companies- chief among them Texaco and Exxon- Mobil- were doing their own research into carbon emissions as early as the 1970s, discovered how much damage they were causing and deliberately buried it, funded misinformation campaigns etc.

There was a good BBC series on it called "Big Oil versus the World" recently- I watched two episodes, could swear there were more, and then it disappeared from iPlayer. Clear evidence of conspiracy!!! 😱 or its time on iPlayer had just ended Might be on YouTube though.

I think that’s completely believable.

Isn’t it already fairly well known that tobacco companies played down research about the dangers of smoking?

gladrefrain · 20/10/2024 17:35

They would rather believe that someone 'they' are controlling everything rather than believe that bad stuff can happen randomly to a lot of people!

Yeah. I do think evangelical Christians and conspiracy theorists recruit from a similar group of people. Except Christians have a much more positive message that someone good is in control and all will be right in the end, and conspiracy theorists have a miserable message that very bad people are in control for undefined nefarious reasons. I guess they meet similar psychological needs in the people who believe ( to think things aren’t random and someone’s in control), but the Christian message is much more positive and makes people happier.

Toomanywars · 20/10/2024 16:26

rockstarshoes · 20/10/2024 12:50

I think a lot of this is based on fear!
So people would rather believe that COVID was a hoax than believe that a new virus that initially no one knew how to treat was running wild!
They would rather believe that the US Gove blew up the Twin Towers than believe that a random terrorist group could literally fly a plan into a building at any moment!

They would rather believe that someone 'they' are controlling everything rather than believe that bad stuff can happen randomly to a lot of people!

Very true. Conspiracy theorists are very fearful people. Mental health seems fragile in many and their echo chambers of the 'ones that are awake' don't help.

Abhannmor · 20/10/2024 15:35

yeaitsmeagain · 20/10/2024 10:59

It's just the government and the banks that are the issue - everyone else, including large capitalist corporations, are all kosher.

Because the idea that the government could be being paid off by the big corps is too complex a thread for them to follow.

Edited

Yea the government and evil corporations and capitalists like Soros and Zuckerberg are all out to get us.

Luckily Trump and Elon Musk are coming to the rescue! For no apparent reason....

SinnerBoy · 20/10/2024 15:30

patrilla · Today 15:08

My dad told me there's a video where Hillary Clinton kills a child - apparently it's clear as day and the fact she's not in prison is because she's part of the elite.

Oh dear. People like that can never show you the video, even though they've seen it, as it keeps getting taken down, before anyone can see it. Except them and other conspiracy delusionists, who also never manage to show anyone.

twomanyfrogsinabox · 20/10/2024 15:17

They spend their time in their social media echo chambers where they talk to the other enlightened ones, who know what's really going on because they are so smart while the rest of us are dim, but will eventually realise the truth and become enlightened like them. There is absolutely no reasoning because they know they are right, Fred Bloggs on the internet said so, so it must be true.

Couldyounot · 20/10/2024 15:17

I don't understand the anti-5G stuff. I can't even get National Rail Enquiries to load in a main station with 5 bars of 5G signal, so it's clearly not that good

Abhannmor · 20/10/2024 15:13

Gulp ...my brother. Although he is fairly easy going in person , online he comes across as a real Grassy Knollington. We literally don't have time to watch or read all the stuff he shares. You need to interest your dad in some hobby or activity that gets him off the computer. Because I've learned there is no use arguing 😱 with people who are emotionally invested in these theories.

patrilla · 20/10/2024 15:12

everything is proof that we are controlled by this elite group of people who just want to make sure we are controlled

That's not exactly a mystery is it? I mean let's face it, they could stop a lot of suffering in a heartbeat but they don't. It's easier to control the downtrodden. I can see why conspiracy theories are gathering pace because social mobility is being eroded.

I think it's just the result of the system we live in ( capitalism ). And I agree with you in the sense that it's not a great mystery that money talks.

That's the other thing that frustrates me with him. He thinks because I don't buy into his extreme theories, that I completely agree with everything the government says. Which is also not true. Just because I don't believe some rich Jews are pulling all the strings, doesn't mean I agree with absolutely everting that goes on.

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patrilla · 20/10/2024 15:08

My dad told me there's a video where Hillary Clinton kills a child - apparently it's clear as day and the fact she's not in prison is because she's part of the elite.

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TreeMelody · 20/10/2024 15:03

BobAintMyUncle · 20/10/2024 11:51

I had a friend who got swept into conspiracy theories during the lockdowns. She was adamant that I was going to drop dead on 12th February 2022 due to being vaccinated.

She messaged me on the 13th asking if I was still alive, and if I was still alive she “would bet everything she owns and loves” that I have a plethora of serious health issues. I responded and told her I was alive & healthy and she said “you must be one of the lucky ones that they injected with saline.” 🙄

Although, she was thrilled when I actually caught Covid as that is PROOF that the vaccine doesn’t work. I said “I thought I was injected with saline?” and she told me that I had obviously received a “watered down” version of the vaccine, designed to kill me slowly… I should be dead by 2025 apparently.
My only symptoms were a slightly sore throat & a perfectly manageable headache. She told me the headache was the start of an incurable brain disease as a result of the vaccinations I’d received throughout my life & the sore throat was because of air pollution due to the diseases the government are releasing into the atmosphere.

Safe to say we don’t talk anymore!

I have a near neighbour that I avoid because she says much the same sort of things.

Pippa246 · 20/10/2024 14:36

Kendodd · 20/10/2024 10:55

Oooh where can I buy one of these toddlers? I'd love one to brighten the house up and have checked the Wayfair website... nothing.

Well yeah cos it's done in secrecy innit - you need to be one of Hilary Clinton's gang to get in on it!

Soukmyfalafel · 20/10/2024 14:05

I hate these sorts of people too. Talking about it doesn't change anything, but

everything is proof that we are controlled by this elite group of people who just want to make sure we are controlled

That's not exactly a mystery is it? I mean let's face it, they could stop a lot of suffering in a heartbeat but they don't. It's easier to control the downtrodden. I can see why conspiracy theories are gathering pace because social mobility is being eroded.

With these people I just say yeah you're probably right, everyone probably agrees, but what are you actively doing to change it other than making other people feel hopeless with your rantings?

We all know powerful people don't give a shit about us and try to create division, but getting cult like and angry at others because they don't hold identical views is what they bloody want anyway.

SinnerBoy · 20/10/2024 14:01

gladrefrain · Today 12:51

I agree there are high levels of anti-semitism generally. The events since October 7th have shown me that in appalling clarity.

True, I'm not a supporter of how Israel has handled it, but I think that it was exactly what Hamas wanted and planned for. People seem to have a problem not understanding that not all Israelis, never mind Jewish people all over the world have different views on the war.

People seem to have no problem understanding that the British might support Labour, the Conservatives, Greens etc and have opinions broadly based on their ethoses. Or Republicans and Democrats in the USA, but have the opinion that "The Jews!" are a hive mind.

Farmgoose · 20/10/2024 14:00

Mysterian · 20/10/2024 10:33

Believing in bollocks because you're not bright enough to understand how things actually works is pretty common.

If one person believes in bollocks they're mad.
If a hundred people believe in bollocks they're a cult.
If a million people believe in bollocks they're a religion.

It's still just bollocks.

Amen. 😁
Some humans just need this to feel in control of their lives. It’s why we invented all the religions. Comforting and helps to deal with the human condition.

Nothatgingerpirate · 20/10/2024 13:53

Well, my husband is 75, I'm 45 and it's the same.
Never thought about it being irritating though, since I'm probably very similar, therefore the choice in marriage 20 years ago and other stuff.
😊

wastingtimeonhere · 20/10/2024 13:46

patrilla · 20/10/2024 12:24

My dad also believes in satanic cults that Hillary Clinton and the royal family obduct children to drink their blood as the fountain of youth or something like that. I don't really listen properly. It's absolutely wild and a lot of it comes from the US republicans.

And Hollywood/ Music elites are all paedophile satanists..

Ciaoamoremio · 20/10/2024 13:34

I know someone like this, it’s the only thing that really seems to animate her. Definitely not a low intellect thing, more a total lack of any interests or activities offline. In fact when asked about her hobbies she can only think of the internet and her favourite YouTubers.

It is strange that being a conspiracy theorist is not considered a mental illness, given how odd many of the beliefs are. You’d think they’d count as delusions.

Mamai100 · 20/10/2024 13:32

One of my good friends is like this. The way I've dealt with it is massively distancing myself. She still posts stuff online about this kind of rubbish. The sad thing is she never used to be racist, now she posts Tommy Robinson shite. I couldn't be around that but I guess it's not quite so easy when it's your dad.

quoque · 20/10/2024 13:27

@thepariscrimefiles Well, exactly - there’s no internal sense at all. But non of these positions or theories are internally consistent, are they?

Getitwright · 20/10/2024 13:12

It’s not a new thing really, believing in the frankly unbelievable. It’s just that there is a much wider range of weird and wonderful theories all whirling around on a much wider mix of communication outlets.

Not wanting to upset anyone, but think how many hundreds of years mankind all over the World has immersed itself into all sorts of religious beliefs, some still very mainstream. It can be a huge comfort zone many many, no matter how eyebrow raising or 🤷‍♀️ others find it, to the point of defining lots of cultures. But most folks extrapolate what they want from it, and try to live a moral, well balanced life.

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