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To say no to covid vaccine for DS?

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Clarabell77 · 20/10/2024 08:55

My DS10 has asthma - mild albeit a chest infection 14 months ago ended up in an overnight in hospital on a nebuliser/steroid and he’s had to have a steroid once during that time for another infection.

He’s been identified as being at risk and offered a Covid vaccine. I’m not sure whether to allow him to have it as I’m sure he’s had Covid quite a few times when we’ve all tested positive at home - can’t test him as he won’t let me near him with a swab. He’s had mild symptoms, even when ours weren’t.

He’s had the flu vaccine twice and taken unwell within weeks on both occasions so I’ve opted out of that one this year. Does anyone have any thoughts on the Covid one? Ideally someone who has actual knowledge, not from YouTube, I’m not a covid denier or anti vaxxer.

AIBU to not get him the vaccine?

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Longma · 20/10/2024 13:25

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Clocloxx · 20/10/2024 13:24

ilovesooty · 20/10/2024 13:03

I see the anti vaxxers are here. Thankfully MNHQ has deleted some of their propaganda.

Since when is pointing out that myocarditis is a side effect of the covid jab means you're a anti vaxxer?

Echobelly · 20/10/2024 13:11

Whu · 20/10/2024 09:05

Just wondering why you are stating an awful outcome if he gets covid when OP has said he has already had covid with only mild symptoms?

Having only had mild symptoms so far is no guarantee they won't be more severe in future. I've had covid at least 3 times now and it's always been mild but I do know people who have had 2-3 mild bouts and then a severe one and/or long covid.

poetryandwine · 20/10/2024 13:09

PandoraSox · 20/10/2024 13:07

The risk of myocarditis is very, very, very low.

Yes, overall from the vaccine about 1/10,000. Somewhat higher in young men but not likely to be serious, reference above.

OchonAgusOchonOh · 20/10/2024 13:08

Berlinlover · 20/10/2024 09:02

I got the Covid vaccine in 2022 due to the insane and draconian restrictions in Ireland at the time. I haemorrhaged for two days after the vaccine and was diagnosed with very advanced uterine cancer in 2023. I’d strongly advise you to say no to the Covid vaccine.

While I am sympathetic to your diagnosis and wish you well, it is extremely irresponsible of you to claim your advanced uterine cancer was due to the vaccine. There is absolutely no way it could have advanced that fast in a year.

You don't say where you haemorrhaged from but if it was uterine bleeding, that would have been associated with your cancer.

PandoraSox · 20/10/2024 13:07

loulouljh · 20/10/2024 12:52

Research the risks (myocarditis for example). Then don't allow it.

The risk of myocarditis is very, very, very low.

poetryandwine · 20/10/2024 13:07

I have also been watching, @Annabellouise - hopefully someone will let us know if we have missed it

poetryandwine · 20/10/2024 13:06

New Research. A study published on 26 Aug 2024 in J Amer Med Association, a top peer reviewed international journal, suggests that young men have ‘considerably fewer’ cardiac sequelae if they develop pericarditis or myocarditis after Covid vaccine than after a Covid infection.

In other words, Covid itself also predisposes young men to these conditions and the results are (much) more likely to be serious. Furthermore it is well documented that Covid predisposes the young to heart attacks and strokes, with rates spiking by about 30% after infection, as well as less serious cardiac disease The vaccine is not known to do this.

Annabellouise · 20/10/2024 13:05

SemperIdem · 20/10/2024 10:42

As what, a receptionist?

Has the op of this post (working in Pharma) actually replied? I’m scrolling but can’t find and I’d be interested know what information they have. Thank you.

LakieLady · 20/10/2024 13:04

crumblingschools · 20/10/2024 10:46

Don’t think I know anyone who has had flu many times.

A boss where I worked many years ago died from flu. It was such a shock and very quick, family had to agree to have life support machine turned off only about 5 days after he had left work feeling ill with flu.

I don't think I do, either. I last had flu in late 2009, and the previous time was early in 1993, so twice in over 30 years. People forget that it can be fatal, and a colleague was hospitalised with it in 2009.

I had Covid, albeit very mildly, just when the first lockdown was announced. I've never had it a second time, but have been vaccinated every year since 2001. My SIL and BIL, who don't "believe in" vaccinations, have had it several times. BIL was dreadfully ill with Covid in the autumn, and they were talking about admitting him to hospital, but he started to improve.

ilovesooty · 20/10/2024 13:03

I see the anti vaxxers are here. Thankfully MNHQ has deleted some of their propaganda.

Medstudent12 · 20/10/2024 12:54

Clarabell77 · 20/10/2024 08:55

My DS10 has asthma - mild albeit a chest infection 14 months ago ended up in an overnight in hospital on a nebuliser/steroid and he’s had to have a steroid once during that time for another infection.

He’s been identified as being at risk and offered a Covid vaccine. I’m not sure whether to allow him to have it as I’m sure he’s had Covid quite a few times when we’ve all tested positive at home - can’t test him as he won’t let me near him with a swab. He’s had mild symptoms, even when ours weren’t.

He’s had the flu vaccine twice and taken unwell within weeks on both occasions so I’ve opted out of that one this year. Does anyone have any thoughts on the Covid one? Ideally someone who has actual knowledge, not from YouTube, I’m not a covid denier or anti vaxxer.

AIBU to not get him the vaccine?

You say he took unwell within a few weeks due to the flu vaccine. Maybe it prevented getting flu and he just had a regular barn door cold virus. If my child had asthma they’d be having the flu and Covid vaccine no questions asked. I’m a doctor but not giving you medical advice just saying what I’d do if it was my child.

loulouljh · 20/10/2024 12:52

Research the risks (myocarditis for example). Then don't allow it.

Clarabell77 · 20/10/2024 12:51

Mylifeiswrecked · 20/10/2024 12:31

I have attached the definition from the Green book on clinical at risk groups to help you make your decision. (Systemic steroids are oral tablets or IV not inhaled steroids.)

Thank you, this is really helpful.

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beeloubee · 20/10/2024 12:49

I'm friend with two guys and one lady whose teenage children died due to the covud vaccine. Ernest ramirez jr and Sean Hartman are two teenagers who died shortly after.

Also I know an 11 year old boy who developed issues with occult tethered cord after pfizer. He's now in a wheelchair.

I myself am vaccine injured. Look at the recent daily mail articles on covid vaccine injuries and read the comments. That will tell you all you need to know.

Also look at the covid vaccine side effect articles on pubmed/ncbi...a catalogue of global medical papers.

Firestace · 20/10/2024 12:45

My friend is a very sensible paediatric nurse with a child. She won’t allow her child to have the nasal flu spray because of what she has seen while nursing

Well go on then, care to share what she's seen? If she's ever worked in A&E, MAU or an inpatient ward she would have sure seen children with flu itself, although there's plenty of credible research and data on that so someone's anecdotes need not be taken as gospel. Anaphylaxis can happen to those children who have a previous unnoticed allergy, but this would be dealt with immediately by whoever is administering the spray- so be interested in what she refers to and with what frequency, ideally with some sort of credible data? Surely you know this is you're happy to post with such confidence on a thread from a parent asking for advice?

Asking questions and looking further into things and doing research via the proper channels does not mzke a person a conspiracy theorist my word mn getting better taking a vaccine because the govt the tv and social media tells you to or in some cases bribes you to makes you a sheep with no independent thought

I agree, plenty of people don't do this though, they just believe without question stuff they hear that suits their preferred narrative.

poetryandwine · 20/10/2024 12:45

Hereforaglance · 20/10/2024 12:38

Asking questions and looking further into things and doing research via the proper channels does not mzke a person a conspiracy theorist my word mn getting better taking a vaccine because the govt the tv and social media tells you to or in some cases bribes you to makes you a sheep with no independent thought

What is your definition of ‘research via the proper channels’?

AyrshireTryer · 20/10/2024 12:45

Clarabell77 · 20/10/2024 12:42

I honestly haven’t forgotten, we lost a family member and knew people who passed away from it too. We all got our vaccines when invited for them, the only reason I’m questioning it for my son is that he’s had covid several times and it’s been a mild cold, passing quickly.

And will it be mild next time?

Clarabell77 · 20/10/2024 12:42

AyrshireTryer · 20/10/2024 11:57

I can remember the fear.
I can remember the number of the dead increasing day after day.
I can remember the hope when the vaccine was discovered.
How quickly we forget.

I honestly haven’t forgotten, we lost a family member and knew people who passed away from it too. We all got our vaccines when invited for them, the only reason I’m questioning it for my son is that he’s had covid several times and it’s been a mild cold, passing quickly.

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Hereforaglance · 20/10/2024 12:38

Asking questions and looking further into things and doing research via the proper channels does not mzke a person a conspiracy theorist my word mn getting better taking a vaccine because the govt the tv and social media tells you to or in some cases bribes you to makes you a sheep with no independent thought

NinaPersson · 20/10/2024 12:35

Clarabell77 · 20/10/2024 12:29

I am definitely not anti vaccine. We’ve all had our vaccines other than my reluctance over these for the reasons I’ve stated and I absolutely take the points put forward from everyone who has posted something sensible.

I agree. I’m not anti vax, my children and I have had all of ours, except my children don’t have the covid or flu jab because I don’t think they are at a risk of either My friend is a very sensible paediatric nurse with a child. She won’t allow her child to have the nasal flu spray because of what she has seen while nursing

crumblingschools · 20/10/2024 12:32

I know 2 youngsters with Long COVID, one contracted before vaccines were on the scene so can’t be linked to that. Their lives have been blighted, unable to go to school, live a normal life, it is horrendous.

Clarabell77 · 20/10/2024 12:31

Howmanycatsistoomany · 20/10/2024 10:34

He’s been identified as being at risk and offered a Covid vaccine.

YABU to ignore the advice of actual health professionals and instead ask a load of randoms without so much as an O level in biology on Mumsnet for advice about this.

Edited

Fair point - I was more looking for advice from actually health professionals on here though - I am ignoring the clearly anti vax/covid denier comments.

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Mylifeiswrecked · 20/10/2024 12:31

I have attached the definition from the Green book on clinical at risk groups to help you make your decision. (Systemic steroids are oral tablets or IV not inhaled steroids.)

To say no to covid vaccine for DS?
Clarabell77 · 20/10/2024 12:29

ExtraOnions · 20/10/2024 10:33

I’ve had my Covid vaccine this year, and my flu one .. I have them every year. I think vaccines are one of the greatest things ever created by mankind.

When I look at the suffering of the generations before us, the early deaths, and the lifelong disability caused by measles, German measles, Polio etc. The joy that my daughter won’t go through that.

My grandma was one of 13, 3 of her siblings died in early childhood due to things now preventable due to vaccines and anti-biotics.

You anti-vaccine types would still have people dying of smallpox..

I am definitely not anti vaccine. We’ve all had our vaccines other than my reluctance over these for the reasons I’ve stated and I absolutely take the points put forward from everyone who has posted something sensible.

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