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To say no to covid vaccine for DS?

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Clarabell77 · 20/10/2024 08:55

My DS10 has asthma - mild albeit a chest infection 14 months ago ended up in an overnight in hospital on a nebuliser/steroid and he’s had to have a steroid once during that time for another infection.

He’s been identified as being at risk and offered a Covid vaccine. I’m not sure whether to allow him to have it as I’m sure he’s had Covid quite a few times when we’ve all tested positive at home - can’t test him as he won’t let me near him with a swab. He’s had mild symptoms, even when ours weren’t.

He’s had the flu vaccine twice and taken unwell within weeks on both occasions so I’ve opted out of that one this year. Does anyone have any thoughts on the Covid one? Ideally someone who has actual knowledge, not from YouTube, I’m not a covid denier or anti vaxxer.

AIBU to not get him the vaccine?

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PandoraSox · 20/10/2024 14:14

Loudhousefun · 20/10/2024 14:08

Why does this always have to be about vaxxer vs anti vaxxers? Its really not……its about doing own individual research and making an informed decision which suits your family and their health needs. Risk vs benefit is key……stop labelling everyone who isn’t taking a particular vaccine as anti vaxxer…..their body, their choice and the same goes if you choose to take it.
Everyone is allowed an opinion and a choice based on that opinion, furthermore people should feel able to voice those opinions without being judged- are we really so naive to say that we’re worried about influence from either side, it’s insulting frankly that mumsnet would remove posts worried about the consequences- whatever happened to critical thinking and knowing or hoping that everyone has this ability? 🙄

I think the issue is that some people are linking to dubious sources of information.

If people don't want the vaccine, fine. But spreading disinformation to discourage others is not fine.

Funnily enough, I am watching an old episode of ER. One of the plotlines is that a patient believes AIDS is a "scam". Familiar, huh?

Thisismetooaswell · 20/10/2024 14:13

Nanny0gg · 20/10/2024 14:11

Did you read the book by the developers of the vaccine? Explaining how it was able to be brought out so quickly

Again, that's not the point

AutumnLeaves24 · 20/10/2024 14:12

QuietlyConfident · 20/10/2024 11:12

By contrast the people you always get on these threads who say they've only ever had flu once in their life and they know that it was flu because they were unable to move from their bed for a week have obviously very little sense of what a wide ranging family of viruses flu is, and the range of possible severities.

It's extremely unlikely that anyone has "only had flu once".

Rubbish

Thisismetooaswell · 20/10/2024 14:12

PandoraSox · 20/10/2024 14:02

Read about how long it takes to develop a vaccine, the licensing process (for others, not this one) and how much data is usually available before a vaccine is released to the general population

Do you know why it normally takes so long for new medicines to be released to the general population @Thisismetooaswell ?

Yes. But that's not my point. What I'm saying is that because it takes so long, and testing continues whilst the licence is being applied for, by the time a vaccine hits the public we usually have 5-10 years of data about it.

Nanny0gg · 20/10/2024 14:11

Thisismetooaswell · 20/10/2024 13:58

I did a lot of reading before making my decision. Every instinct in me was crying out not to have it. Stupidly I went against my gut feel and had the AZ vaccine and developed Rheumatoid Arthritis. None of my children have had this vaccine, nor will they, including my youngest who has a plethora of health issues. Read about how long it takes to develop a vaccine, the licensing process (for others, not this one) and how much data is usually available before a vaccine is released to the general population. We still don't have long term data as this vaccine was only released 4 years ago. What we do have is much more short term data than we usually would due to the rollout to just about everyone. It's not worth the risk for me

Did you read the book by the developers of the vaccine? Explaining how it was able to be brought out so quickly

OchonAgusOchonOh · 20/10/2024 14:10

Thisismetooaswell · 20/10/2024 13:58

I did a lot of reading before making my decision. Every instinct in me was crying out not to have it. Stupidly I went against my gut feel and had the AZ vaccine and developed Rheumatoid Arthritis. None of my children have had this vaccine, nor will they, including my youngest who has a plethora of health issues. Read about how long it takes to develop a vaccine, the licensing process (for others, not this one) and how much data is usually available before a vaccine is released to the general population. We still don't have long term data as this vaccine was only released 4 years ago. What we do have is much more short term data than we usually would due to the rollout to just about everyone. It's not worth the risk for me

And I got psoriatic arthritis from a very mild dose of covid. Auto immune diseases are frequently triggered by a virus. A vaccine can also trigger them.

Nanny0gg · 20/10/2024 14:09

Clarabell77 · 20/10/2024 12:05

The first time he got the flu vaccine he ended up with severe tonsillitis, he was very ill, so bad we had to take him to A&E as we didn’t know what was wrong. He’d never had tonsillitis up until then. The second time he wasn’t quite as ill but still sick enough to be off school, cough, wheeze etc. I don’t know for certain it’s linked to the vaccine, could of course just be coincidence, but it made me wary.

But tonsillitis is an infection, surely?

So a coincidence

Have you actually spoken to a doctor? Or his asthma nurse?

AutumnLeaves24 · 20/10/2024 14:09

itsgettingweird · 20/10/2024 10:52

Really Confused

Well o get the flu jab as my ds carer.

Use to get covid for that reason too.

Yesterday we went and he was offered covid jab too as at risk but I'm not entitled as his carer this year.

So I don't think they are begging people with unused vaccines!

@itsgettingweird

if you want it, try booking directly through the NHS Covid injection scheme. Locally the surgeries have been refusing it to people who are actually eligible, most have then just booked it through the NHS scheme. No idea why the surgeries have been doing this 🙄🙄

Loudhousefun · 20/10/2024 14:08

Why does this always have to be about vaxxer vs anti vaxxers? Its really not……its about doing own individual research and making an informed decision which suits your family and their health needs. Risk vs benefit is key……stop labelling everyone who isn’t taking a particular vaccine as anti vaxxer…..their body, their choice and the same goes if you choose to take it.
Everyone is allowed an opinion and a choice based on that opinion, furthermore people should feel able to voice those opinions without being judged- are we really so naive to say that we’re worried about influence from either side, it’s insulting frankly that mumsnet would remove posts worried about the consequences- whatever happened to critical thinking and knowing or hoping that everyone has this ability? 🙄

PandoraSox · 20/10/2024 14:02

Read about how long it takes to develop a vaccine, the licensing process (for others, not this one) and how much data is usually available before a vaccine is released to the general population

Do you know why it normally takes so long for new medicines to be released to the general population @Thisismetooaswell ?

Thisismetooaswell · 20/10/2024 13:58

I did a lot of reading before making my decision. Every instinct in me was crying out not to have it. Stupidly I went against my gut feel and had the AZ vaccine and developed Rheumatoid Arthritis. None of my children have had this vaccine, nor will they, including my youngest who has a plethora of health issues. Read about how long it takes to develop a vaccine, the licensing process (for others, not this one) and how much data is usually available before a vaccine is released to the general population. We still don't have long term data as this vaccine was only released 4 years ago. What we do have is much more short term data than we usually would due to the rollout to just about everyone. It's not worth the risk for me

AutumnLeaves24 · 20/10/2024 13:58

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@Hereforaglance

Give us all a good laugh.

the sheep would like to know what you think 'the scam'was??

OchonAgusOchonOh · 20/10/2024 13:55

Hereforaglance · 20/10/2024 12:25

No i did independent research that did not involve social media on.top.of that i used my eyes and ears and came to an. Independent decision

Can you provide us with some links to the sources you used?

Also, eyes and ears is simply anecdotal. That is not research.

PandoraSox · 20/10/2024 13:52

Tekphobebruvva · 20/10/2024 11:30

“Anti vaxxer” is a handy (yet wholly inaccurate) slur for the uniformed to throw at those of us who did our own critical thinking.

It’s up to you what you do to your own body of course and by all means encourage (coerce) or guilt trip others. It’s their choice after making their informed decision.

Asking people to do their own research on this thread - in this case - means find the answers to their questions, their own evidence, and not to start a new career as a researcher in order to develop vaccines. I’d have thought that was fairly obvious.

These threads always remind me there’s no arguing with stupid. And you can call me all the lazy slurs you like, it’s QED.

Oh the irony of this post!

OchonAgusOchonOh · 20/10/2024 13:48

Tekphobebruvva · 20/10/2024 11:30

“Anti vaxxer” is a handy (yet wholly inaccurate) slur for the uniformed to throw at those of us who did our own critical thinking.

It’s up to you what you do to your own body of course and by all means encourage (coerce) or guilt trip others. It’s their choice after making their informed decision.

Asking people to do their own research on this thread - in this case - means find the answers to their questions, their own evidence, and not to start a new career as a researcher in order to develop vaccines. I’d have thought that was fairly obvious.

These threads always remind me there’s no arguing with stupid. And you can call me all the lazy slurs you like, it’s QED.

Obviously you don't need to start a new career as a researcher to do your own research. However, in order to do any form of valid research you need to be able to interpret the findings in scientific papers. You need to understand how to discern whether the research was rigorously designed. You also need to be able to judge the quality of the outlet the research is published in.

If you don't have the skill set to to that, you don't have the skill set to do your own research.

gamerchick · 20/10/2024 13:45

howdoIrecover · 20/10/2024 09:11

I work in pharma, please do not give your baby the Covid jab.

As in big.....

topaz27 · 20/10/2024 13:40

Vaccines are like insurance. You don't necessarily expect the worst will happen, but you take out the insurance when you don't think you can deal with the worst without any help.

You might not take out contents insurance if you could afford to replace all your contents and you'd quite like an excuse to buy new furniture and clothes. You'd take it out if you would be screwed if you had to replace it all because you're living paycheque to paycheque.

I've just had my flu vaccine. I was a bit unwell for a few days. That was the price of my insurance. I've had the flu before, and I couldn't physically move. I hallucinated. Because I don't want that scenario to happen again, I take the insurance (the vaccine). I may not avoid it completely, but I won't have as bad a time if I didn't take the insurance.

If I'd been offered a Covid vaccine as well, I'd have taken it too. Why? Because I do know people who have had mild Covid (and repeatedly). I also know people who have died from Covid, and people who wish they'd died from Covid and are a suicide risk. That's something I'm prepared to insure against - where I think the worst-case scenario is bad enough for me to justify the cost (feeling mildly sick for a few days).

Children don't get offered the Covid vaccine easily, so some doctor somewhere has decided your child is higher risk for things going south if they get a nasty strain. There are different strains - just because your child has had a different one before and it hasn't been terrible doesn't mean he would have a mild reaction next time.

I'd get him the jab without hesitation.

AsFunAsEnglishWeather · 20/10/2024 13:35

Get it - there's a reason he's been offered it and the NHS wouldn't incur expense for nothing.

I am clinically vulnerable. Last year both DH (unvaccinated owing to age below threshold for seasonal boosters) and I had Covid. I was a lot less ill than him. It's worth it.

AllThePotatoesAreSingingJingleBells · 20/10/2024 13:34

thegirlwithemousyhair · 20/10/2024 09:27

"nothing to do with the jab".

You cannot make that assertion. You are not in a position to know.

I think she probably can. Enough women have had the Covid jabs now for a link to have been noticed - an upsurge in unterine cancer in women who have had the vaccine would have been noticed by now if there had been.

I’m sympathetic but it’s like saying I had a Covid vaccine and then a week later I fell and broke my arm. Very bad luck. No evidence to suggest a link.

OchonAgusOchonOh · 20/10/2024 13:32

Tekphobebruvva · 20/10/2024 11:01

Just one of those unfortunate things in life nothing to do with the jab, good luck with the treatment.

How absolutely insulting and dismissive. How can you possibly know? This is dangerous, disingenuous and utterly flippant. “Nothing to do with the jab” FFS.

Comments like that should strengthen anyone’s resolve into thinking twice before they accept any jabs or numerous boosters.

Do you really think that uterine cancer could have gone from zero to advanced in a year?

OchonAgusOchonOh · 20/10/2024 13:31

Lomoto · 20/10/2024 10:51

Absolutely would not give my child the covid vaccine. I thank God I said no when we were offered it. You only need to look at what is coming to light with Covid vaccine injuries. I'm angry I got it.
Not anti vaccine and have had other vaccines but would not with this one.

The covid vaccine is no different to other vaccines in terms of side effects. The reason we are hearing so much about them is the sheer scale of the vaccine rollout.

PandoraSox · 20/10/2024 13:30

Clocloxx · 20/10/2024 13:24

Since when is pointing out that myocarditis is a side effect of the covid jab means you're a anti vaxxer?

The trouble is anti-vaxxers fail to add that a)it is a very, very, very rare side effect and b) most people fully recover with treatment.

But that is not as fear-inducing, is it?

PandoraSox · 20/10/2024 13:29

Forgot to quote poster I was replying to!

OchonAgusOchonOh · 20/10/2024 13:28

Tekphobebruvva · 20/10/2024 10:44

There’s no way I’d accept this for a 10yo asthmatic or not.

I urge you to do a lot of your own research though. There are a lot of fanatical people on here who will attempt to guilt you for simply considering whether or not to have it rather than just blindly accepting it.

The vast majority of the general public are not qualified to do their own research. They don't have sufficient knowledge of statistics to interpret most research papers. Equally, they don't have the knowledge to distinguish between a good academic source and a disreputable one.

That said, government policy on vaccination is based on populations, not individuals. Some people will react badly to any medication. They are in the minority but obviously not great if you are one of that minority.

Clarabell77 · 20/10/2024 13:28

AppleKatie · 20/10/2024 12:16

The flu jab did not give your son tonsillitis?

seriously, step away from the internet and go and chat to an actual medical professional about your concerns, I think they could help.

Yes, the flu vaccine could have caused the immune response in his tonsils/tonsillitis.

As I stated in my OP, it’s advice from people who have knowledge of the subject that I’m looking for, it just so happens that I’m using the internet to get that advice.

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