To not want to visit a hospital ward filled with Covid?

She's feeling ill and lonely she's lashing out and isn't the best version of herself right now. She's probably scared she is going to die of it. It's not that long ago since deaths were reported daily people are still quite frightened. I was hospitalised with COVID and my family has to mask up and wear protective clothing. I was fortunate that they gave me a private room with a patio door leading outside so we could have the door wide open they did visit me and I was grateful tbh. Minimise your risks but you anbu to want to avoid being ill

This is a zombie thread from last October you’ve resurrected. Just FYI!

I think people with sub par mothers see things differently when they become mothers themselves. A good mum would prioritise you and your family at this stage. It would be different if she was dying!

For people pleasers and the just inherently kind person, it’s a hard lesson to learn as we age that we can’t always help everyone and sometimes even have to let others down. Sometimes you have a lot of duties and needs and have to prioritise.

Usually if you’re a parent your kids - of whatever age - come first and you need to look after yourself too. You can’t pour from an empty cup. At other times, wider family or even close friends take priority because of need or urgency. It’s sometimes a hard call to make. A friend recently had to choose which death bed to attend. Horrible but that’s life.

Absolutely don't go, and absolutely don't feel bad about not going. I am fit and healthy, and I've had all my jabs and boosters, and this round of covid has absolutely flattened me. I've been seriously ill for a week and am only just starting to recover. I've had it a couple of times before and it was just like a very bad cold. This variant has been something else! Don't risk it.

I disagree

I'm surprised they are allowing visitors.

MIL is in hospital atm and the ward is closed to visitors because of a Covid outbreak.

YANBU.
Protect yourself and your family. If you had Covid she wouldn't want you anywhere near her.
Can you facetime her? and it gets cut-off after 5 minutes due to poor connection.

If I had Covid I’d be telling people not to visit me.

I did with my Mom. She waiting for a free bed in a nursing home and the ward had covid so I'd spend all day with her as she had onset dementia. I had to wear a mask, the nurses had them but none of the patients did.

I had the worst relationship with my Mom out of my siblings because she was a narcissist who constantly went on at me, everything was my fault and she was too old to look after my child when asked but looked after everyone else's younger than mine children.

She was so close to all my siblings, they got daughter birthday cards with lots of love inside, I got generic cards with next wishes.

Not one of them visited her in hospital. Because she was scared and confused, I couldn't let her be alone. Ironically my name and face was the only one she didn't forget towards the end and she would cry and get distressed if "strange" people were in her room.

Other than one of the carers who was a 6ft 3 black man and he used to sit with my Mom and sing to her because she thought he was her Dad 😭

I don’t go out of my way to avoid it, but I wouldn’t be intentionally visiting a covid ward either.

I have never knowingly had Covid, and we had to do a lot of testing; but I went to see MIL in an elderly care unit, even though the staff informed us, there was Covid; because I suspected she was dying. She did die. I didn’t get Covid.

No way would I visit someone with covid unless they were seriously ill.

I wouldn’t go into a ward filled with flu or norovirus or covid.
And I wish they’d close the ward to stop the spread as well!

Yes.I think, just because you’ve had your vaccinations, doesn’t mean you’re not going to pick up goodness knows what, different strains of covid etc.Yesterday, a relative was going to visit my mum, said her partner had covid, had tested positive.She felt ok, no symptoms, as you mentioned this was avoidable, asked her if she could visit another time not worth chancing it.
Understand you can get it anywhere, however close proximity, knowing the person has been in regular contact with someone with covid, not worth the risk.

I think you make a good point here.

We all know that you could encounter covid anywhere.

But that's not the same as knowingly entering a place where there are definitely people with covid.

It's an important difference

I only wish everyone else thought the same and cared as much about not spreading illnesses as you do OP. Even if you had never had Covid or it had not affected you very much.

Yep, a five year old. Who I would not dream of taking anywhere near the ward - despite her so far being no more than mildly ill with Covid on any of the occasions. I guess that’s how you should feel when it’s your child…lol.

I would have thought your five year old is going to be your biggest chance of getting Covid in the long run. DS has a 6 year old and 4 year old. They have brought home every virus going, since they started nursery!

We were taking DS and family out for a meal last weekend. I said I wouldn’t go, as I had a cold and didn’t want to pass it to them. DS told me if I felt too ill, that was up to me, but he doesn’t care about colds or Covid - because the children bring so much home from school!

outsource the decision for a quiet life.

Ring 111 and ask them if it is advisable to visit given your history, they will say no and you can tell your Mum you would visit but you’ve been advised not to due to your high susceptibility to Covid. Or you could just tell her your doctor said that, if you are happy with stretching the truth,..

Flip, they’re not much use are they?

I guess if you want to perceive it that way and not really understanding the thread.

It wasn't snippy.

That's not snippy. It's a statement of fact.

It is