On holiday next week and I’m fat

Are us fatties not allowed to have fun on holiday?

I remember fretting about how I looked in a swimsuit. Then I saw a family having a whale of a time- really enjoying themselves- regardless of the way they looked. I envied their freedom from self consciousness.

So I started trying to practice it.

Having fun on holiday mustn’t be restricted to people who have earned the right by looking good in a swimsuit. We know that doesn’t make sense.

Obviously we want to be at our fittest, but we also want to make the best of the body we have.

Not a single person other than you will give a flying fuck. So, since no one likes being alone you may as well stop giving a fuck too! Put your bikini on, enjoy yourself and watch the fucks disappear!

Oh OP, I can’t believe you are letting your body image over shadow your actual real life joy. I get you, I’ve done exactly the same but seeing it played out like this is so bloody sad :( Is this what women are reduced to - their weight is the measure of their value and their happiness?
what FUCKING BULLSHIT. Why is it so difficult to live in a female body?
When you are dead your body will rot or burn. Your soul will live forever in the minds of those that love you and it’s your soul that is going on this trip handily encased in flesh for safety :)

Mine does too- I have PCOS

OP you are the same height and size as me. I get how you feel but honestly, in my late 40s now and I just don't care anymore. I have a partner, kids and friends that love me. I buy and wear stuff that fits me and suits me. I try to eat well but I've never been thin.. even as a teen at less than 8 stone I was curvy. It's just not in my genes and it hasn't stopped me having two husbands, about a dozen boyfriends and plenty of flirting. The thing that makes the biggest difference to your looks is your smile and confidence. Head up woman! Shoulders back, tits out, great earrings and sparkly sandals.

Just don’t worry about it and enjoy yourself! Life’s too short.

You look.like you. Which is all that matters to the people who love you.

This is awful!! For god's sake...delay seeing her daughter that lives on the other side of the world to look better in a bikini? Fuck me...can you imagine that conversation?

I am sure your DD would rather have you visit, just as you are, than anyone else no matter how perfect their body. And that your DH would rather go with you, as you are, than anyone else.

That's what matters. Ignore those voices saying you need to be different. You are lovely just the way you are. Your DH and DD love you just the way you are. No need to change.

I'm in a similar position..going away on Thursday and was supposed to lose about half a stone but haven't.

I've found a bikini and beach throw/shirt looks much better than a one piece chic emphasises my menobelly more somehow.

But the comment a poster made re never remembering someone else's body is so true.
Just enjoy yourself, have a ball...I certainly plan to!

If you were on your death bed next week, would you care that you weren’t as slim as you’d have hoped?

What if it was DH or one of your kids?

Life is so much more.
No one else cares about your weight and neither should you.

I’m not dismissing your feelings as I completely understand how you feel.

I missed out on a lot of things thinking I was too fat and ugly but then I look back at the very rare photos of me and I actually looked great!

Go and have the trip of a lifetime.
Eat, drink, go to the pool and take photos.

Do not even think about your weight, you can deal with it when you get back.

Have a lovely holiday 💐

I was the same and I took a swim suit and I really regretted it once there as there were women of all shapes and sizes in bikinis and no one was bothered!

I would try and find a couple of bits that make you feel confident, I find you always loose a bit of weight on holiday as you eat better/ walk/swim etc more so just enjoy it!

I am alive.
I am healthy.
My body gave me my gorgeous DD.
I am living my best life.

Get a clmfy swimwear for yourswlf. What you feel good in. I had swimdress when size 20 and even got compliment from another women about it.
When you feel comfy, you will feel ok. Plus... The randoms will never see you again! 🤷

I wear 3/4 swim leggings and a short sleeve rash top which has a zip so I can keep the zip down to show off my bikini top so I'm not 100% covered up judt the bits I don't like. Makes me feel better im a bit covered up. Just get some swimwear you feel good in

Could you delay the trip abroad while you regain some dietary discipline? You might get more out of the holiday if you could shake off some of the weight ?

What do you consider fat and how old are you?

I am in the same boat! Never been this big on a holiday and feel like trash. It doesn't help that on our last holiday, a skinny pretty young blonde was eyeing up OH at every opportunity round the pool, following him into the pool etc. She obviously thought she had a chance even with me around, which makes me feel really unattractive and insignificant.

Agree with others, find some clothes ans swimwear you feel super confident in!

I used to feel like this every single year! I now have a swim dress which makes me feel way more confident and once I’m there I remember that no one cares, truly. You notice all your so called imperfections, others don’t. I hope you have a wonderful holiday.