On holiday next week and I’m fat

Don’t go climbing any walls … seriously just have a blast! Happiness is a frame of mind and not a dress size ❤️

Mantra: I have a body. I am wearing a bikini. Therefore, I have a bikini body.

Yes.. Sometimes you just want to feel good in your own skin.

You never know... You could lose the weight on holiday! I never got my bikini bod but someone lost weight in Turkey. Must have been the movement.

I’m about to give birth to DC3, after which I will be 3 stone overweight (again).

I always start off a size 12 but finish exactly the same weight, to the pound, afterwards.

I have also booked to go to the Maldives 4 months postpartum- I will still be fat, I will not look fabulous in a bikini- BUT I will be in the Maldives with my DH and 3 gorgeous children. I know which one I’ld rather! 🥂🏝️

This 1000% do not give it a second thought. Have a great holiday.

Are you actually overweight bmi wise?... I don't think anyone will care!

All this advice is good. Wear clothes that give you joy... lovely colours etc and a chiffon cover up for poolside... Genuinely worth looking at some of the influencers on Instagram etc who are a bit more curvy. Veronica Freunde for example, who is just magnetic and has a lovely smile... I realised she's fatter than me but she looks so much more cheery, all you think of is how sexy and gorgeous she is!! With this particular lady I also found that she had a really tough life with a disabled husband and it made me feel ashamed about how stressed I got about my flabby tummy!

Nobody will notice or care. Enjoy.

I’m away in 2 weeks time OP and could have written half of your words myself (with the exception of going to see my daughter as I was blessed with 4 boys who all live with me 😂).

I’ve put on 3 stone since having my little boy in August 2023 and feel awful, huge and ugly. I’m now a size 20/22 top and 18 bottom whereas I was a size 16 on both before pregnancy, so I feel absolute trash… not comfortable, disgusting and awful in myself. I struggle to lose weight, but had been a size 16 for 2 years before pregnancy. So wishing I had got onto my diet and stuck to it (albeit hard with my health conditions) over the last 6 months!

Have an amazing time visiting your daughter xx

Think back to all the holidays you’ve ever been on before. Can you remember what any of the random strangers on the beach or by the pool looked like? Most likely not, because you were too busy focusing on yourself, as others will be too busy focusing on themselves to think about or judge you.

There are worse things to be in life than fat. How lucky you are to have a loving family and be able to go on an adventure of a lifetime. I promise you that when you’re on your death bed you won’t be looking back and thinking about how fat you were on this trip.

Have the best time.

Same! Last time I wore bikini was like 19. Even as slim I had tankini with shorts or swim skirts.
I was eying up some of the more coverage swimsuits but they feel too much fabric to me and not comfy for me to swim in

I haven't worn a bikini in years but on my last holiday I saw all sorts of shapes and sizes rocking a bikini - some of them made me feel positively thin! 🤣
However, like a PP said I'd forgotten all them 10 minutes later.

No one cares. If they do their opinion isnt important anyway. Cover up because it's important to protect yourself from the sun, not because you are too large for a bikini. If you must wear a bikini then a bikini body is just that, your body in a bikini.

You are more than your dress size.
And frankly if someone else's biggest problem is how you look, then good for them. Most people have plenty of other stuff to worry about.

If you’ve got slimmer arms and legs, wear things like dresses to show them off.

You can get swimsuits that are like dresses that come out at the hips and give you more of a slimmer looking tummy.

I assumed you were going to say you were twice the size that you are!

I love tankinis and also swim skirts even though I've heard them described as frumpy on MN. Personally I wear them because I feel like I'm displaying my fanny in a regular swimsuit but they have the bonus of covering a multitude of sins.

I hope you have a great time on your hols x

Seriously? Not helpful at all

Op every year I do make a real effort to look good in my holiday clothes and feel my best. Guess what? It makes not a blind bit of difference to the holiday, what I do when I'm away or how my family feels. Also nobody cares. Not one person has ever even commented on my bikinis let alone my body in them! Oh and I've just taken a load of my summer clothes to the charity shop so the 'look' I had carefully curated last year got really boring really quickly! Do not worry, enjoy your trip life really IS too short.

This is very true. I know we all have Main Character Syndrome but realistically we see people of all shapes and sizes all the time and they just blend into the background.

Try the swim dress. It works great on belly because it's not tight fabric so it might give you confidence you need to enjoy