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To be sick of sneezing and spending £20?

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ghicks · 19/10/2024 19:54

Anyone else? I feel like everything costs more and more and I’d just like to moan about it. Every day it seems to be something else!

OP posts:
minipie · 20/10/2024 17:22

I thought this was a CoL version of spend a penny… like a big wee every time you sneeze

Blanketyre · 20/10/2024 17:21

Actually I shopped in Waitrose for the first time last week as I was in a new city and in a hurry to get home. If you stick to the special offers and Essentials brand, it wasn't too bad. Easily comparable to Tescos.

Wexone · 20/10/2024 17:20

RhaenysRocks · 19/10/2024 22:06

Yep. I was saying this to my dad today. Single parent to two teens. I bought 4 items in Primark today for DD, just jumpers for the winter..£55. quick lunch after her class this morning (it's a 40 minute drive home) so £20 there, plus fuel and a coffee I had while her class was on, beat part of £100. I know there's a lot there I could not spend but I work hard, I'm a graduate, I ought to be able to buy a few cheap clothes, lunch and coffee without worrying too much!

I earn a nice salary too and agree with ya until the cheap clothes bit. no I buy stuff to last and have reduced considerably want clothes I buy..buying less but better is my motto now. therfore then I can try and save for the takeaway or dinner out for us know instead. everything is getting more expensive now and need to learn to look at second hand look at our wardrobe or mend what we have

WynkenDeWorde · 20/10/2024 17:19

Time was when DH and I used to shop in Waitrose, our nearest supermarket. Never really gave it much thought - yes, we were very fortunate to be in that position. Now it’s mainly Aldi and that’s fine. We pop into Waitrose from time to time if unavoidable but the prices are painful.

I also had the occasional coffee on my way to work when it was affordable but since Covid I haven’t been in the office so much, so that habit has largely faded away. But recently I just so desperately fancied a coffee after a frustrating day - went into a Pret and ordered a flat white and picked up a flapjack. £6.40 for two items. I nearly fell through the floor. Even asked incredulously how much they were as I couldn’t believe she hadn’t made a mistake 😦

PS I’ve just checked and their flat white has gone up again - to £4.05! Well, I guess it’s good I’ve got a thermos….

Biffbaff · 20/10/2024 17:07

I used to guesstimate the cost of my groceries at the checkout by counting my items and saying on average £1 an item. This was about 10-15 years ago when I was a student/young professional.

Went to M&S earlier for bread, milk, butter. Also bought greek yoghurt, strawberries, raspberries and a few bananas. I decided to assign £2 an item. That'll be £14, I guessed.
It was more than £16!

listsandbudgets · 20/10/2024 17:06

RamblasTapas · 19/10/2024 19:58

What are you spending on ?

Tissues judging from the thread title!!

Username19781209 · 20/10/2024 17:05

DickEmery · 20/10/2024 16:50

Yes it is infuriating. With all that fucking around, inaccurate prices, nectar prices, and just regular prices moving around so much, it's like a shit time consuming game that you never win. I've gone to customer service before and got them to honour the offer in circumstances where the entire shelf was stacked with something slightly different from what the offer ticket said, while there was not a single item that the offer related to.

I can tolerate the whole club card price thing but when your expected not to notice that you've not got your offers applied etc or be doing that much of a shop you forget the wraps were £1.50 not £2 as charged.

KatyaKabanova · 20/10/2024 16:51

DickEmery · 20/10/2024 13:06

I agree with that. Also "needless spending" is exactly what people do when times are tough and everything feels like a slog. You get your small pleasures where you can or else you'd go crackers. George Orwell documented this - people spending the last of their money on sugar rather than virtuous but dull food. It is dispiriting to leave the supermarket £100 lighter and only have boring everyday things to show for the work that went in to earning that £100.

I was literally going to quote George Orwell! The rich can live on brown bread and carrots to cut back, but if you're poor, you put the kettle on, you have cake. You need something to cheer you up!

MerryGrimaceShake · 20/10/2024 16:50

KatyaKabanova · 20/10/2024 16:48

General Strike 😂! Yes, the last one was such a rip roaring success. Back to work for less money.

We at least had the balls to try 😜

But ;est continue to sit here getting fucked from every possible angle instead huh? Looking forward to when we all get to retirement age and benefit from the amazing pensions.

Oh wait, we won't, because by the time we get there the older generation, who will be dead, will have made sure they fuck that up for us with their last breath, too.

DickEmery · 20/10/2024 16:50

Username19781209 · 20/10/2024 16:44

Oh this boils my piss
I brought eggs from Tesco on Thursday the offer said X amount but it scanned as X I queried it and it was a mixed pack not the large but the mixed pack was basically mixed in with the large and it wasn't obvious what the offer was
Feel like they are constantly trying to trick us.
There obviously not but it feels that way.

Yes it is infuriating. With all that fucking around, inaccurate prices, nectar prices, and just regular prices moving around so much, it's like a shit time consuming game that you never win. I've gone to customer service before and got them to honour the offer in circumstances where the entire shelf was stacked with something slightly different from what the offer ticket said, while there was not a single item that the offer related to.

RabbitsRock · 20/10/2024 16:49

Wish DD15 could grasp the value of money. She really needs to look for a job as she’s asking for stuff all the time. Even places like Maccies aren’t a cheap option anymore. And the cost of a takeaway is astronomical!

KatyaKabanova · 20/10/2024 16:48

MerryGrimaceShake · 19/10/2024 20:38

It feels like something has got to give in the UK soon, surely? We can't all go on like this???

We used to have big enough balls to crack out a General Strike and now we just.... sit here and take it????

General Strike 😂! Yes, the last one was such a rip roaring success. Back to work for less money.

MerryGrimaceShake · 20/10/2024 16:48

The "No fun outside the essentials brigade" aside, even the essentials/basics are extremely expensive.

Government/NHS/Your nan are nagging us all to eat healthy and buy fresh and don't buy anything that would bring any joy, but fresh veggies (that, in fact, are shit quality at purchase go off the very next day next day) and "decent" meat cost an extortionate amount.

Despite everywhere making record profits.

showersandflowers · 20/10/2024 16:48

We tried to have a "no spend weekend" with the toddler this weekend, extra hard because it was raining but no spending on day out activities etc. Still spent £40 of snacks/ buying coffees to duck out of the rain while in town/ bottles of water and cheap meal deals while out etc. (can't stay in the house with toddler, it's chaos). It's so frustrating. If we'd also gone to soft play/ swimming/ cinema or whatever it'd have been much more!

Eloise768 · 20/10/2024 16:47

My Hoover broke today and my kids spilt something on the carpet so I also needed to get new vax liquid. £200 later 😭😭😭😭. It’s ridiculous and something has got to give. I could have bought a cheaper Hoover but I wanted a good one! (My last one was a cheap one and lasted a year!)

even “not leaving the house” days are costing stupid money 😂😂😂

RabbitsRock · 20/10/2024 16:46

I took that literally OP!

MerryGrimaceShake · 20/10/2024 16:45

ByCoolWriter · 20/10/2024 11:40

Everything is dear now but to be honest a lot of these examples are just things that people don't seem to recognise they shouldn't be spending if money is tight.
No money.... shouldn't be buying coffee from coffee shops.
No money... shouldn't be eating out even if it's just a cafe snack.
No money... you don't need candles they're not essential.

Folk need to write down where they are frittering stuff away.

I agree going into shops and easily dropping 20quid on food etc and it is tough but a lot of these examples are needless spending.

Yes yes lets all sit in our dark cold houses all winter and literally have no fun or joy in life.

🙄

Username19781209 · 20/10/2024 16:44

Milkand2sugarsplease · 20/10/2024 16:41

We've taken issue with Tesco (and I'm sure the other supermarkets) and how they do their offers.
The number of times DH has to go to customer service because one or more of their offers hasn't gone through on the till.

And they way they now restrict which flavours or items in a range that are now in the offer. You can have 2 for 2.20 but there's one flavour that isn't in the offer but they'll not make that completely clear on the shelf. It's just naughty marketing and they're hoping people don't realise or are in a rush to get out of the store, or only notice at home and just forget about it.

Oh this boils my piss
I brought eggs from Tesco on Thursday the offer said X amount but it scanned as X I queried it and it was a mixed pack not the large but the mixed pack was basically mixed in with the large and it wasn't obvious what the offer was
Feel like they are constantly trying to trick us.
There obviously not but it feels that way.

Blanketyre · 20/10/2024 16:43

Milkand2sugarsplease · 20/10/2024 16:41

We've taken issue with Tesco (and I'm sure the other supermarkets) and how they do their offers.
The number of times DH has to go to customer service because one or more of their offers hasn't gone through on the till.

And they way they now restrict which flavours or items in a range that are now in the offer. You can have 2 for 2.20 but there's one flavour that isn't in the offer but they'll not make that completely clear on the shelf. It's just naughty marketing and they're hoping people don't realise or are in a rush to get out of the store, or only notice at home and just forget about it.

I use the self scanner and check every single thing that I scan to double check the offer, as I agree they seem to leave the offer labels on the shelves after the actual offer has run out.

Milkand2sugarsplease · 20/10/2024 16:41

We've taken issue with Tesco (and I'm sure the other supermarkets) and how they do their offers.
The number of times DH has to go to customer service because one or more of their offers hasn't gone through on the till.

And they way they now restrict which flavours or items in a range that are now in the offer. You can have 2 for 2.20 but there's one flavour that isn't in the offer but they'll not make that completely clear on the shelf. It's just naughty marketing and they're hoping people don't realise or are in a rush to get out of the store, or only notice at home and just forget about it.

Raindropskeepfallinonmyhead · 20/10/2024 16:39

Agreed. Everything is so fricking expensive now. Actually l sneeze a lot and even tissues cost more now!

Blanketyre · 20/10/2024 16:37

Username19781209 · 20/10/2024 16:35

Same it's fucking awful.
We've taken to avoiding the supermarkets as much as possible this has led to some very strange evening meals where we might have toast or a bagel that's hanging around the kitchen rather than going to buy an actual meal. The more visits to the supermarket we do the more we spend.
We have good jobs we can afford to add the odd extras we want into the trolly but it gets rediculous.

Same here.

I think I might go back to online shopping even though delivery is 7! At least I'll just stick to a plan then.

Username19781209 · 20/10/2024 16:35

Same it's fucking awful.
We've taken to avoiding the supermarkets as much as possible this has led to some very strange evening meals where we might have toast or a bagel that's hanging around the kitchen rather than going to buy an actual meal. The more visits to the supermarket we do the more we spend.
We have good jobs we can afford to add the odd extras we want into the trolly but it gets rediculous.

Alwaystired23 · 20/10/2024 16:30

Thunderlegs · 19/10/2024 20:59

I popped into m&s for a few bits today and threw a couple of extra 'nice' things in the basket - came to £54. I know it's m&s but geeze. Won't do that for another six months.

I do that about once a month..pop to m&s to get us a nice dinner on a Saturday. By the time I've added a few treats, it's £50 odd.

Cantbelieveit888 · 20/10/2024 16:29

The only way I don’t end up spending is not going out. It’s ridiculous…. I’ll be out for pick up/drop off and milling around waiting in the shopping centre…. Next thing I’m carrying two bags with items that’s not even for me?! How on earth!!!!