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Hate weekends

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Londonideas · 19/10/2024 19:26

Single no kids. Feel so lonely at the weekends. All my friends are in relationships and most have kids. I just don't know what to do with myself at the weekends. Feel so sad tonight on yet another lonely Saturday night.

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WhitneyBaby · 19/10/2024 19:54

Do you like to go to the cinema, I love to do this on my own?

helpimgoingcrazyhere · 19/10/2024 19:53

You could also look into what Meet Up groups are in your area. I think they are great for making new friends.

balzamico · 19/10/2024 19:47

You need to try and give yourself something to look forward to on each day of the weekend. For me that would be a hike or time in the garden, a nice meal (even if I have to cook it) a glass of wine, special food.
Go to a local rugby match? Join a walking group? 10 pin bowling?
Go to a cat cafe (might not be necessary if you have your own cat) volunteer at a cat shelter or any of the homeless charities?

Clingfilm · 19/10/2024 19:44

Have you asked your friends to meet up? I'm married with kids but would happily meet up with my single friends if they asked!
If I were in your situation I'd either get a dog, or a second job in a pub/bar.

Maria1979 · 19/10/2024 19:39

Londonideas · 19/10/2024 19:30

I don't have any passions or hobbies. I'd like to but I don't know what I'd like. Maybe I just need to start trying things. I haven't got loads of spare money but I've got a bit.

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You need to try out things you might like. Look what kind of activities are available in your area : arts/theatre/sports/walking groups/reading groups etc. Surely you must know what type of things you usually enjoy; try that in a group setting and I'm sure you will find others who like yourself are lonely. I am lonely too but I have an autistic son at home so I can't really meet people and I've lost most friends because of his handicap. But I always try to find joy in small things:a walk,a good meal, a good book, some good chocolate...

MrsTerryPratchett · 19/10/2024 19:33

Exactly! Try stuff. My best thing is running group. It's free and it has all the tings for good mental health:

Getting outside
Fresh air
Company
Exercise.

After a few months we started going for coffee etc. so it became social as well.

I FUCKING hate running BTW. Actually hate it. But I love running group.

Firestace · 19/10/2024 19:33

I'd also recommend joining clubs or some sort of hobby group, I've met lots of friends this way. When I was younger I played netball, and when I had DS I set up a crafting club at the local pub; sounds twee but they let us use a room for free as people tended to buy a drink once there and it was a really lovely mix of people. Some super into crafts (I love crochet and actually started it to help teach others but it morphed into a more chilled group) and some not at all but enjoy chatting.

Also agree with asking friends, sure have to ask in advance but many with enough notice I'm sure would love to!

BabyCloud · 19/10/2024 19:32

Shopping? Visit a museum? Go to the gym/an autumn walk?

Solo cinema trip in the evening? Book a theatre show? I’m aware most of these cost money but a cinema ticket is fairly cheap. Museums are usually free.

You could still ask your friends if they are free in advance.

RomeoRivers · 19/10/2024 19:32

Date for socials.

Pick out things that you want to do e.g. restaurants, theatre, wine bars etc then find a date to go with you. You might make some friends.

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Londonideas · 19/10/2024 19:30

MrsTerryPratchett · 19/10/2024 19:28

What do you love? What are your passions? Can you do more of those things.

I don't have any passions or hobbies. I'd like to but I don't know what I'd like. Maybe I just need to start trying things. I haven't got loads of spare money but I've got a bit.

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WeeOrcadian · 19/10/2024 19:30

What do you enjoy doing? Could you combine a hobby and something social?

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Londonideas · 19/10/2024 19:29

2024onwardsandup · 19/10/2024 19:26

Get a dog. You’ll have the best weekends.

I'd love to but I've got a very anxious cat so I can't.

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MrsTerryPratchett · 19/10/2024 19:28

What do you love? What are your passions? Can you do more of those things.

2024onwardsandup · 19/10/2024 19:26

Get a dog. You’ll have the best weekends.

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