Hate weekends

Meet ups for social stuff for singles

One of the best things I ever did fir myself was take up a musical instrument. It's now my main social life. I can't say that I absolutely love it but I love what comes with it. Most weeks l have three meet ups which all stem from it. I also tried running but I'm more of a solo runner. Might just take a few different things to hit on one.

Defo hobby. Best thing I ever did was find a hobby I loved. Made my time without DC (separated from their Dad) so much better.

id try the following;

• hobby, leading from the running one, bring your own boots is a walking group (think off shoot to ramblers for younger people) or you might have local. Very low cost.
• have a look what groups are in your area, dance, art or something else you’d like to try.
• pick something nice for yourself each weekend. Art gallery, coffee out, a monthly day trip.
• cook a new or favourite recipe.
• read (literally my favourite thing!) you can even visit the library for something to do.
• volunteer!
• Get organised and make plans with friends. I enjoy going out without my kids! I have a friend I meet for an early morning walk and friends where I meet for early tea to get out of bedtime! When I was in a relationship my ex worked and played footy on sat, often went for nights out so I would have been grateful for the company.
• Invite a friend for tea / visit a friend for tea.

Join some groups. I am in a walking group and my saturday’s now consist of good country walks and country pubs. Its a fab group

My weekends revolve around my kids’ social and sporting events (that and my husband’s many DIY projects). Much as I love my family, sometimes I miss having the luxury of choice as to how I spend my time.

I’ve been where you are, and I know how much the loneliness can hurt. I’m sorry. But the positive here is that your leisure time can be entirely dictated by your wishes. You get to choose! PPS here have given loads of great ideas. Get out there and try something! If it’s not for you, just move onto the next thing. Enjoy your freedom.

Try going for a weekend away. Pick somewhere with lots to do and enjoy yourself.

Visit a museum, do some shopping, eat out at somewhere you wouldn't normally eg if you usually eat Indian food go to a Greek or Lebanese restaurant.

Take photos, wander in a park etc.

Or look into adventure weekends, you never know a 1 day climbing day could lead to a new hobby.

https://www.adventurebritain.com/category/activity-weekend-packages/

Where in the country are you OP?

I found it really beneficial for my mental health to volunteer at animal charities, and I joined borrow my doggy. I love to walk other people's dogs. It gets me out and about without the commitment and expense of owning my own dog

Friends, family or neighbours?

gardening; Gym; Library; Shopping; Historic sites; cafe; volunteering; a sport; swimming; museums

Can you join in some family time with friends or family? When my dc were little I welcomed another adult in the house or accompanying us to sporting events. Or how about someone older? An older neighbor older
couple might enjoy a glass of wine in a bar or pub…getting out for a bit and some conversation and then home. Often “busy” adults can welcome the company of someone else in their daily routine rather than planning a more formal night out.

Reading this you've just described me..... I work Friday and Saturday evenings in a restaurant now for extra cash, plus I'm not stuck at home alone. By time I get home I collapse into bed haha

i have a couple of single & child free friends & I’m more than happy to do stuff with them, please ask them!

Look at your local church or W.i, always lots going on or look for FB groups, ones just been set up near me called ‘sips & successes’ & it’s open to all women, they meet for drinks etc & it looks great!

My colleague went through this feeling and then joined a walking group. They would meet in different places every weekend. She would walk and chat all day and be happy collapsing in front of the TV. Over time she made friends and even went on walking holidays. You'd need to live somewhere accessible and have a car though.

I'm sorry you feel like this OP, must be hard.

Then you’re your own worst enemy! Invest in yourself before you expect others to invest in you. It’s your life so get busy figuring out what you enjoy.

Maybe a friend would meet up for a coffee? Just because they are in relationships or have children they may fancy an hour away.

Is it the whole weekend you feel like this or mainly Saturday evenings? I feel like this sometimes when I leave work on Friday and know I won’t really have any social contact until Monday. There’s something about seeing couples or families out and about at the weekends that makes me feel lonely in a way that doesn’t bother me at all during the week.

I don’t really like going out by myself in the evening, but I love theatre, so will happily go to a matinee. Or as others have suggested, the cinema or an exhibition, for example. I try to treat myself to something nice to eat at the weekend, so will cook myself a favourite meal or a takeaway on Sat evening, and maybe cook a little roast dinner on Sunday, and will really enjoy it whilst watching my favourite TV.

Look at voluntary opportunities in your area. Try your local 'Voluntary Action' as a starting point.
Once you start volunteering you will realise your free time is incredibly valuable and you have the power to help people and change lives. It also changes how you see yourself and your role in the world.

You also open yourself up to meeting new people and making social connections

Have a look and see if there are any local theatres looking for volunteers? I do this at my local theatre and I've met loads of lovely people, it's social and if nothing else you get to see a show for free (although this depends on how well behaved the audience is)

Moving to a new village where everyone seemed to have their friendship groups - in desperation we went to church one Sunday. Best thing we did. We became part of a lovely group of people. Lots of activities. Not necessarily religious. Would definitely recommend it.

Any work colleagues you click with? Do you wfh so don't mix as much? Just try something that may you find interesting, get yourself out there, friendships happen naturally. Also, there are many groups which advertise locally for get togethers, have a Google. Xx

Could you get a job in a bar / pub / some sort of weekend work? That’s what I did when I was a single mum and it kept me sane on the weekends when dd was with her dad, and good way to meet new people too.

Also - making an arrangement in advance is something I’d do - I LOVE seeing adult friends at a weekend when I can, but it does involve forward planning. And a bit of understanding if it falls through due to illness….

Try joining a local lively Church. You don’t have to believe or be of the same faith but you will have a warm welcome and will quickly make friends. Also have a look at the WI they have loads of activities and talks.

I used to do conservation volunteering with the national trust at weekends, then did lots of it when my marriage broke up.
Getting involved with any groups help - park run, wild swimming, other volunteering. It kept me going when I was in a tricky place.
Before all that when I was single years ago, I used to go to the library, watch a film, swim etc. it wasn’t always easy to be fair but I think there’s so much out there online nowadays if you look. But I did have some lonely times too. I read a lot and was sometimes a bit insular but the internet changed that for the better in most ways.
i do have a child now (older mum) and weekends can still be tricky - different expectations from family life etc. but each situation has it’s positives and negatives, I promise!

I’ve started a degree with OU, I’ve suddenly got 2 very active WhatsApp groups, tutorials evenings and weekends and something to occupy my brain.

I hate weekends be use I’m married with kids and I prefer the week when I get to be alone 😂 each to their own. Would lend you my family if I could. Meet-up.com can be good for doing stuff with others