To wonder why more men don’t get the snip?

I think a lot of men are still holding onto hope that they'll end up with a younger, better looking woman at some point who will be desperate to have his babies ..

The key words in your post are "joint decision".

It seems many women find the man in their life makes a unilateral decision to not discuss or consider the op rather than considering their partner's view or, in some cases, their partner's health & wellbeing.

I don't think I know any women who want their husbands to have a vasectomy and they refuse. So in all the cases I know of, it's a joint family decision not to have one or just neither of them care enough to do it.

Most women I know stay on hormonal contraception anyway without any issues, for a variety of reasons so the snip isn't an urgent priority. I'm on the implant and would remain on it for period reasons even if my husband were snipped.

And it's hard to make that final call that your family is 100% complete and you'll never want another child under any circumstances. We're 99% sure we won't but if our feelings or circumstances changed while we were still an age where we'd want another, maybe we'd have one. Why risk regret if our minds or circumstances changed?

Same here. We did condoms for about 6 months. Then he got the snip. Best decision ever for both of us.

She’s not ‘at risk of pregnancy’ with someone new if she tells them they’re not coming near her without a vasectomy or a condom.

I imagine that most married women (or women in relationships with children) imagine they’re going to stay together when these conversations arise.

Female sterilisation is a much more complex surgery, never a minor procedure, so it’s inherently more risky. Depending on the version you have, it can result in immediate menopause, with all the implications that has to health and well-being.

If sterilisation is the contraceptive of choice it makes much more sense to sterilise the man.

Yanbu. A woman is only fertile for a few days out of every month, a man is fertile every day (assuming normal sperm count etc).

The onus should totally be on the man to prevent pregnancy rather than a woman having to deal with contraception that messes with her hormones and so often has undesirable side effects.

My husband doesn’t want the snip so we use condoms (very carefully as there’s no way we want an accidental pregnancy).

I mean I don’t think current wives, partners, fiancées should really have to be worrying about his possible future fertility should they split.

And if they do with regards to her. I hear there’s a few snipped men on the market every so often.

But if the woman doesn't want more kids then by being sterilsed she doesn't have to worry about contraception any more. The DH/Partner having the snip only protects her as long as they are together. If she ends up with someone else then she's still at risk of pregnancy

It depends on the situation and the relationship they are in.

If the man is in a stable, long term relationship with a female partner who has been through pregnancy/pregnancies and now wants them to help prevent further pregnancies then I think they should be prepared to discuss and consider it.

Why should they. A lot of men feel it takes their manhood away. In any case their body their choice.

This answer is the main reason I think. I think a lot of men think like this. Unfortunately.

Yeap. And when you actually read the studies and see how this long term pain is actually defined, it's even less concerning. Most of it isn't permanent, and most is the kind of pain women deal with monthly anyway.

Your experience sums up what a little of people on here are saying and I'm not surprised you felt resentful.
Your husband dragged his feet to do something simple which actually improved both of your lives once done and was happy to put you through the anxiety of getting pregnant and suffering the unpleasant consequences while he decided.
So many examples on here of men being selfish but expecting their partner to be the exact opposite.
As in many areas of life unfortunately.

Well our sex life dramatically improved after DH got his. Once off birth control my depression lifted and my sex drive significantly improved and also my ability to orgasm. Also I was terrified of falling pregnant again as some pretty unfortunate health things had happened to me. DH says it has made no difference to his sensation.

That said my DH was an a*hole about the whole thing and waited years to even go to the GP to get advice on it and I think it is because he is fairly selfish all round and didn't care about me or my health. We are working on rebuilding our relationship but his behaviour did have an huge impact on how I saw him. I know everyone is going to jump on the bandwagon and call me a cow and "his body, his choice" but he wouldn't even book in to get advice or investigate the risks of the procedure.

I decided after over twenty years of using the pill/injection/coil and varying side effects I was done. We weren't planning on having more children so options were dh gets the snip or we use condoms.

We have been using condoms for 7 years.

No risks with pregnancy of course!
Ffs.

It's one in 100

I agree OP.
Best thing ever. DH is delighted he did it. It's so nice to stop worrying about contraception forever.
There's enough to fret about in life.

I Got pregnant through a condom

It’s not. We use condoms, so it’s on him.

They aren't reliable

Accusing? 😂 Surely you meant assuming.

Is it? Ok, whatever 🙄

I suppose if women keep taking the pill without question then many men will think "Well I don't need a vasectomy." The onus is (wrongly) put upon the woman.
My husband had the snip after we'd had our daughter (his first and last child). We both decided no more children and he respected the fact that the pill is not without its symptoms and risks.
I fell pregnant on the pill twice in my late 30s/early 40s (with perfect usage). My consultant referred to us as having "hyperfertility". It would also explain why I became pregnant about two months after husband's snip (and still on the pill!)
Both pregnancies resulted in miscarriage which my last pregnancy being an ectopic. I was quite far gone and had no idea until I started bleeding internally and rushed into emergency surgery.
For us a vasectomy was the only solution.

That's not the same. Accusing someone of being a man is equivalent to troll hunting. It's lazy.