To think DH is too sentimental?

Eww. I would find that sort of sentimentality deeply unattractive. But I’m dead on the inside.

and think of his mum getting the money out of a cash machine for him
what? he sounds demented.

It doesn't sound sentimental. It sounds like a lot of drama from one or both of you. I feel there is more going on than just this one incident.

I have a sentimental DH - far more sentimental than I am. But I think this is way beyond what DH would be like. It's totally reasonable to want to keep that amount of money for something nice, but in a general "I've got £50 from mum to spend on a treat" kind of way, rather than the actual specific notes.

It was in an envelope , not ‘thrown into a drawer’. i think it was in the envelope in which it was given to him , so I suppose it was in the ‘special place’ you are prescribing .

@ImustLearn2Cook why don’t you read the OP thoroughly before making unkind assumptions? Or rushing to judgement…..

This is ridiculous behaviour. If he’s that sentimental about the thought of his mum getting cash from a machine, it’s time for him to cut the apron strings a bit. Making you cry with guilt?!?! Will he not be torn apart handing them over in the shop, given he seems to have formed a profound emotional attachment to them?

That’s nuts. I’d be worried when his parents pass away and any money left will be a daily dilemma re the drawers.
stop apologising OP, he’s the fruit basket, not you.

Do you think he's either trying to make you feel bad for some reason, or is he playing the martyr?
It seems strange behaviour over bank notes.

Buy a frame for the remaining notes. Tell him it would be just too cruel to spend the actual notes from his dps...

If he cared so much about the notes, he should have had them framed and hung them above the shrine to his not-yet-deceased parents which he has presumably raised in a corner of your bedroom.

He's sentimental about a particular set of notes - which he's going to spend anyway? That's ridiculous.

I can understand that he'd be annoyed that you thoughtlessly spent his birthday money, but to be sentimental about the specific notes is just silly. And as for thinking about his mum getting the cash out the ATM - that is just completely batshit. Who the fuck gets sentimental about someone standing at a cash machine??

Funniest thing written on mumsnet all year....

Seriously howling.

I think I’d struggle not to be very snippy!! ‘Well if it was sentimental then you only needed to care enough to put the cash somewhere separate from the cash you encourage me to spend, but you didn’t quite care enough about it for that, did you? Anyway mum gave me some sultanas today, they are very sentimental and I want to eat them thinking about her, I’ve chucked them in the big jar we keep sultanas for snacking in so do not eat mine thank you, since unlike you I’ve done you the courtesy of telling you!!’

I would get more money out, do a fake rummage and pull out some notes and claim that you'd found the original birthday notes and you hadn't spent them after all.

Look him dead in the eye and dare him to challenge you.

Completely bonkers. Those particular notes will probably have been through umpteen people's hands before his parents put them in an envelope. They weren't special.

Is he always bonkers? I’d struggle to stop my eyes rolling back in my head, and would question his health if my OH behaved like this!

He sounds crackers.

I'm very sentimental and this is still bananas.

He can still think about his mum getting the cash out the ATM! but it's weird that that's the specific part he's sentimental about, not her deciding to give him a treat. Would be different if you were tight on money and there was now none left for his treat

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I could be quite sentimental sometimes but you made a genuine mistake ( which was expected with money being in spending money drawer) you apologized so I would move on the same second.

yeah that is utterly insane, and nasty. It's not as if they are a memento he was going to keep it forever - he was going to hand over the notes in exchange for whatever he decided to buy with them anyway. Did he expect the person on the till to stand there patiently while he carefully unwrapped them from their special envelope and smiled affectionately, caressing each one as he handed them over, wiping a small tear from his eye as he thought about his darling mother?

His thinking is warped - he is upset you spent the money because he considered it a reflection of how much his mum loves him and he loves her - but he's happy to harangue his WIFE, a woman who also loves him and whom he should love - to the point of tears because she made an easily fixable minor "mistake" that was largely his fault in the first place; If he wanted to fondly nuzzle and smell those particular magic special notes that have unique meaning because a random ATM happened to spit them out to his mother who probably held them for about 2 seconds before putting them in an envelope, he should have put them somewhere safe and not in the 'money to be spent' drawer.

I was called a lettuce once and it's not nice, but on this occasion it is well and truly deserved.

Hmmmm I reckon "sentimentality" is often an excuse for hoarding. If he sticks to hoarding cash all well and good. I think he's bonkers btw

He should LTB and marry Sistine Chapel woman

If he was that bothered about how precious these particular notes are, then why on earth did he lazily lash it in a drawer with other disposable cash, instead of storing it somewhere safe - so that it DID NOT get spent? He being OTT and you have apologised. He needs to grow up.