Help! My husband's feelings are being hurt but am I being mean?

I know exactly the smell you mean, OP! It's cloying and sweetish and a bit sort of poisonous. And it's very thick, so not the kind of smell you can ignore really. I've never compared it to the smell of death before, but you're so right, it is like that. I don't drink and I find it repulsive, and I'm generally chilled out about stuff.

is it cheap beer?

This has happened to DH in the past. He admittedly drinks much more than he should generally, but it only affected the way he smelt at one particular time a couple of years ago, when he started to smell of vinegar. It was disgusting - I could smell it on him continually and had to keep changing the bed.

Although my sense of smell was more acute at the time due to menopause, I’m pretty sure it was to do with his hormonal state, not mine - probably a result of stress. Is there anything going on with your DH that may have affected his hormones/metabolism?

It being the smell. She knows what beer smells like.

Does he smoke at the same time? I found when I picked up my daughter and she'd been smoking and drinking beer I couldn't bear to be in the car with her we had to drive home with all the windows open! if she had been smoking and drinking something other than beer then it didn't affect me in the same way even though I hate the smell of smoke.

Excuse me?

The ops first post says "But WHENEVER he drinks beer I can smell it on him and it makes me heave. It must be beer because he drinks Jack Daniel's and I can never smell it when he does."

My ex drank whisky, he could drink it at home with no problems but I knew every time he'd been to the pub as the minute he walked through the door. I would have swore I wasn't pregnant too I was 4 days pregnant with my first, I was 10 days when I walked past a pub and knew straight away I was pregnant with my second.

First thing that came into my head - would explain been having impact but not other alcohol

get him some organic beer

My husband gets that if he’s drank beer it’s like beer sweat or something , even only a few beers it’s like he becomes malodorous of it . Think it’s just a beer thing as doesn’t get it with any other alcohol . I’ve smelled the same thing from patients at work too .

When I smelled this on my DH he was diabetic. Sweet rotting smell.

Does anyone else smell it?

It isn't the smell of beer. The OP already explained it.

OP I get it - my OH has the same. I believe it is diabetes related so you need him to get checked out. It is an overwhelming stink of sweet yeast. It gets in his clothes and after he goes for a run he absoluely stinks of it.

I think if anyone regularly drinks enough to smell it on them, they deserve to be told they stink. Maybe he could drink less.

Hmm. I have a very sensitive sense of smell but I've never noticed a difference in smell after my husband drinks. I definitely think you could have said it in a much kinder way, he isn't doing it on purpose.

but of course he should clean his teeth before bed
and 5 beers is excessive

I really think a pregnancy test might be wise.

Diabetes comes to mind here too. I would ask for him to go to the GP.

Can anyone else smell this smell on him?

not being mean if you have mentioned the smell before and you feel strongly about it. He needs to understand!

I know exactly what you mean! Your description of the smell is spot on 🤢

I could only smell it on my husband when I was pregnant but it was SO strong- like I could smell it as soon as he walked into a room. Now I've had my baby I can't smell it any longer. I don't have any useful advice though as you're not pregnant!

Why so many responses stating pregnancy when OP literally says she isn't pregnant in the first post!

I feel really sorry for him. And if a woman typed that her husband complained that she 'stank' when she'd had a few beers everyone would be outraged.
If your nose is that sensitive, surely you notice BO of people in office, or smoke smells, or all sorts without being compulsively mean to people.

My ex was an alcoholic and used to have a horrible sour smell. It’s possible he is drinking too much. Monitor his drinking and he should see a GP get some blood tests or something.

I do think your words were very unkind. There are far nicer ways you could have had that had that conversation.

As others have said, given it is a recent change I would get him to the gp and checked out for something more serious, diabetes often causes a vile smell when drinking beer due to the metabolism of the sugars.

I would also take a pregnancy test. Before I even knew I was pregnant the smell of coffee made me physically sick. Couldn't go near anywhere that served it, ended up banning it from my house because it made me so ill!

Any chance he’s diabetic/borderline diabetic?

Sometimes, when OH drinks quite a lot of beer (and 5 is a lot ), he oozes alcohol. He literally sweats it out and yes it does stink. It doesn't bother me much though. It's worse if the house is really warm , because it makes him even sweatier. Have you had the heating on, on these occasions? Or was the room he was in warmer than usual?