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School harassing us over attendance...

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1993baby · 18/10/2024 21:26

A bit of backstory..
This school is obsessed with attendance.
Last year in reception my daughter was hospitalised and really poorly. The school were calling me every day asking when she would be back when they knew she was in the hospital! I remember sat by her hospital bed and getting called from the school.
Then when she was discharged, they were coming to our house every day to “check on her progress” basically harassing us in to sending her back to school.
She was only 4 - under compulsory school age.

This continued any time she was off with illness.

Now...

This year DD had chickenpox and was off school for 2 weeks, she was really poorly with it and ended up in A&E dehydrated from being sick constantly. It took 2 weeks for her all of the scabs to scab over. We followed NHS and GOV guidelines about staying off until the scabs had healed.

Then immediately after, she got tonsillitis.
She couldn’t even drink water and we ended up at the out of hours. He prescribed antibiotics and said she had a really bad case of tonsillitis.
He said to keep her off school to rest until she feels better. She has been off a week as she has been really poorly with it.
I’ve taken her back to the GP two times as she seemed to get worse.

I informed school about all of this.
However when she had chicken pox, they were calling me even on the second day of illness asking for an update on when she would be back?
the GOV advice says AT LEAST 5 days..
so how are they asking for an update on when she would be back when it’s only been 2 days, she’s in the infectious period and it was actually impossible for her to be in school according to the rules.
It was just ridiculous.

Then 2 people from the school came round to our house to give us an attendance warning letter!! She had chicken pox.

They then asked us to send her to school with chickenpox.

Today, the GP told us that school has contacted them about her absence. They have asked the GP for confirmation of illnesses and told them to encourage her back to school?!

Apparently the school have now flagged this up as a safeguarding issue because she has been off a couple of weeks.

We went to 2 doctors this week and both of them said the same thing about school attendance, so it must be permanently on her health record now?!

Are they allowed to do this? I thought they had to ask my permission to access her medical records?
She has been off with genuine illness and been to the GP more times than I can count on two hands in that time period ! It’s hardly a safeguarding issue?! I kept the school updated and informed.

The GP asked me “how is everything at home?” So the school has obviously flagged a safeguarding with them which is totally unfair and I feel disgusted by the insinuation they are making here.

I walked out of the GP’s room in tears I was that upset by it all...

What can I do?
Can I get this taken off her record? :(

OP posts:
Maria1979 · 18/10/2024 21:37

@1993baby Didn't you get a GP certificate when she was ill? Last winter my DS was off 2 weeks for pneumonia, my GP gave me two certificates so I could have him stay home the time necessary (a second one to give to school in case he needed an extra week off which he didn't). If you do this school has no reason to inquire. You must understand that they are legally obliged to intervene when a child is absent without any proof which is a good thing since some parents are neglectful and abusive.

purplebeansprouts · 18/10/2024 21:37

3 weeks off this term is it? If so that is a lot so I can see why they're raising questions but they need to back off and use some common sense

Missemiss · 18/10/2024 21:35

Gosh I'm so sorry that sounds incredibly stressful

TiramisuThief · 18/10/2024 21:34

Attendance is really being pushed in school. Not just due to post-Covid drop in attendance but a recognition that the first step in safeguarding is being able to clap eyes on a child and see that they are OK.

So if they are in school, they are satisfied that they are OK, or if not ok, that their staff can help. If they don't see a child for more than a few days then depending on their policy they will do home visits to try and get that contact.

I'm sorry you've been upset by this. I think sometimes schools are not very forthcoming with why they have the policies that they do. I've never heard of a school contacting a GP before and I can understand why you are shaken.

That said, I think give yourself a bit of time and don't go in all guns blazing. I understand why you want to complain but this won't have any repercussions for your child's record or future. Kids are off school for all kinds of reasons. It's not a black mark in any way.

I hope your DD feels better soon.

Chillisintheair · 18/10/2024 21:34

School can ask the GP for whatever they want but the GP can’t give it with your permission. SS can request the info from the GP but that won’t be automatically shared with the school.

The school will have a complaints policybon their website. You need to follow it and say on every email/letter that this is a formal complaint.

BrightYellowStar · 18/10/2024 21:31

I understand that schools are pressured to maintain certain attendance levels however harassing you in these circumstances is just ludicrous.

Do not worry about them (stupidly) flagging this as a safeguarding issue. You are looking after your child, seeking and following medical advice. If they do try to push this to social services they will be dismissed - you have medical evidence to backup your child being absent.

I think being harassed by them in these circumstances is unwarranted and, in your position, I'd put in an official complaint.

Babycatsmummy · 18/10/2024 21:29

Wow. Just wow.

No advice but I'm sorry that you ended up in tears. You don't deserve this at all, it's stressful enough having a poorly child to the point they need hospitalisation or to see a GP.

Sending you hugs OP x

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