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Wedding - what’s right?

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Sunshinemom · 18/10/2024 16:01

Hey

Backstory, we were invited to a wedding in early Dec earlier this year. Initially thought it a good idea to go but then with the cost of Christmas realised it would be too much.

Groom came round ours to see if we were going and my husband obviously felt put on the spot and said yes.

Our Childcare options are unfortunately not available and the costs associated with the wedding are just getting out of hand, so I said my husband could just go and I’d look after the kids. When he told the groom he mentioned about the cost implications for him and that he would let us know how much we owe him.

I can see both sides but wondering if anyone else has been charged for no longer going to a wedding?

thanks x

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BigDahliaFan · 18/10/2024 16:09

Umm, no. You'd expect them to invite someone else especially with that much notice.

You've messed up a bit giving them mixed messages...and maybe you should have just had 'flu' on the day....

PurBal · 18/10/2024 16:08

Um no, never. We had no shows at our wedding and I didn't even consider it. Some people don't even send out invites until 6 weeks before so they have plenty time to "fill your spot" if they want to.

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