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Friend catfishing neighbour on Insta - tell him?

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TwinklyBlueEagle · 18/10/2024 14:26

My friend made a fake account for laughs on Instagram last year using photos of a model from Brazil and she has started using the account to catfish one of our neighbours because she thinks it’s funny. She has made it look very genuine and if I didn’t know it was fake I’d think it was a real account.

I personally think it’s really naughty to deceive someone I know into forming a relationship with a fake woman. I jokily told her she should stop but she didn’t think I meant it. The whole thing doesn’t sit right with me though but if I tell him she’ll think I’m a right backstabber.

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WhatMe123 · 23/10/2024 16:43

What an awful thing for someone to do 🙄

QuestionableMouse · 23/10/2024 16:37

I honestly think the OP is the friend.

Cantbelieveit888 · 23/10/2024 15:58

Reminds me of the Bobby Jandu documentary I saw on Netflix recently!! It’s horrific and honestly can play havoc to people lives…

GreatGardenstuff · 23/10/2024 15:08

I’d struggle to be friends with someone who did this. I’d tell ‘friend’ in no uncertain terms that she should stop it or I would do it for her. It’s needless and nasty.

Findinganewme · 23/10/2024 12:43

‘Funny, naughty, jokey’? These are definitely not the way I’d describe the tone of what your friend is doing.

what your friend is doing is deceptive, manipulative, cruel and absolutely unethical. Your friend is finding it funny to toy with someone’s emotions. It’s not naughty, it’s nasty.

if your friend does not stop after you tell them, it would warrant a complaint to the police, as your neighbour is being victimised.

Jumpingoffthefence · 23/10/2024 12:02

What a strange thing for her to do. I wouldn’t want friends who are capable of such deception. She needs a new hobby and you need new mates.

XChrome · 20/10/2024 00:27

SoupDragon · 19/10/2024 22:11

I mean, your original comment was deleted and that is the exact opposite of absolution so... 🤷🏻‍♀️

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QuestionableMouse · 19/10/2024 22:27

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SoupDragon · 19/10/2024 22:11

Summertimer · 19/10/2024 21:48

Inadvertent absolution 👍🏼

I mean, your original comment was deleted and that is the exact opposite of absolution so... 🤷🏻‍♀️

Summertimer · 19/10/2024 21:48

CheeseWisely · 19/10/2024 19:29

@Summertimer But the victim in this case is unlikely to be on Mumsnet, even if we had all taken some sort of mythical compulsory cyber security course!

It's a neighbour who I would assume has been targeted by the OP's cunty mate specifically because they might be naive / vulnerable / lonely / liable to fall for it.

Also the OP you thanked below for the link has reinforced your victim blaming if anything, not absolved it.

Inadvertent absolution 👍🏼

WiddlinDiddlin · 19/10/2024 20:56

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PMSL. You're actually hilarious!

SoupDragon · 19/10/2024 20:56

Summertimer · 19/10/2024 20:21

Lol never in a million years

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You know everyone can see what you originally wrote, right?

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Summertimer · 19/10/2024 20:21

WiddlinDiddlin · 19/10/2024 20:04

Aye, I work online and have for well over a decade. No cyber safety courses here, I wouldn't even know where to look for one.

Lol never in a million years

Summertimer · 19/10/2024 20:20

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WiddlinDiddlin · 19/10/2024 20:04

Aye, I work online and have for well over a decade. No cyber safety courses here, I wouldn't even know where to look for one.

QuestionableMouse · 19/10/2024 19:44

Summertimer · 19/10/2024 08:59

Well, I do think most of us have done courses on cyber safety. I do think that a flirty account is always suspect. Expressing surprise and concern is not victim blaming.

You were victim blaming 100% and I'd respect you a lot more if you owned it. And btw, never done a cyber security course in my life.

XChrome · 19/10/2024 19:39

SoupDragon · 19/10/2024 19:31

🤣

IKR. Some people just have bats firmly lodged in the belfry.🤷

XChrome · 19/10/2024 19:37

Summertimer · 19/10/2024 19:25

This is fantasy land - MN where we care about our kids using social media but aren’t cautious ourselves and don’t believe stuff exists that most people do

A nonsensical, meaningless reply which does not address the point, which is to be expected. You continue to deny, deflect, evade, and dodge.

SoupDragon · 19/10/2024 19:31

🤣

Summertimer · 19/10/2024 19:30

OK guys, enough now, enjoy your parallel universe

XChrome · 19/10/2024 19:30

Summertimer · 19/10/2024 09:09

Cyber safety courses are compulsory in school and sixth form here. They were part of the registration process to attend uni for our DC. One of the compulsory courses at all the work places I’m familiar with.

That's simply your experience in your particular area. That is not most people's experience.

In fact, many people on the internet came of age before the internet was even a thing or when it was relatively new, so of course they have not taken any such course. 45% of internet users are 35-65 years of age.

CheeseWisely · 19/10/2024 19:29

@Summertimer But the victim in this case is unlikely to be on Mumsnet, even if we had all taken some sort of mythical compulsory cyber security course!

It's a neighbour who I would assume has been targeted by the OP's cunty mate specifically because they might be naive / vulnerable / lonely / liable to fall for it.

Also the OP you thanked below for the link has reinforced your victim blaming if anything, not absolved it.

Summertimer · 19/10/2024 19:26

XChrome · 19/10/2024 19:11

Threat and persecution?
You appear to have a massive victim complex.

Laughing at your interpretation

Summertimer · 19/10/2024 19:25

XChrome · 19/10/2024 19:19

I've never even heard of such courses, let alone taken one. Your assumption that most people on MN have taken them is not at all reasonable.
Some people are simply naive and even taking such a course would likely not help much.

This is fantasy land - MN where we care about our kids using social media but aren’t cautious ourselves and don’t believe stuff exists that most people do