Ghost or be brutally honest?

Yup - given his reply she should definitely do this.

Or

"Well, I was trying to be polite, but given your response:

a) we bought rounds on our first two dates - you didn't pay for "everything"
b) if you're going to invite a date around to your flat on your second date, do the decent thing and make yourself look like you're actually interested
c) if the "make pizza together" thing is just some sort of ruse you use for all your dates, make sure you clean the wine bottle roller between uses; but mostly
d) clean your flat, particularly the bathroom, and for the love of god buy some bloody soap so that visitors can wash their hands after using the loo, because clearly you don't!"

Oh well in that case I'd be tempted to reply, "OK, well I preferred not to get into specifics because I saw no point in hurting your feelings for the sake of it, but I'm looking for a grown up, not someone who doesn't clean his flat and rolls out pizza dough with a dirty wine bottle because he doesn't own a rolling pin."

Oops, just spotted this is ironically a ghost thread! Sounds like she dodged a bullet and there were more red flags...

A dirty bathroom would be a major turnoff for me! (no issues with a clean wine bottle to roll dough, if you must roll pizza) Fine to just say a polite, vague "not feeling it" "not sure we're aligned" blah blah.
Only worth getting into the details if that's the genuine only reason, and all aside from that she'd be really keen. Otherwise leave the brutal honesty to his close friends and family

Neither. Ghosting is just embarrassing to do as an adult but you don't need to go to brutal truths in this situation either. A vague explanation will do.

Let me guess, B? Most men who do not out in effort and expect an outcome usually get very angry. So your friend dodged a bullet. And her response was good: neutral. No explanation needed, in fact, had she explained a little, he would know what buttons to push and rope her back in.

Exactly this. I think a lot of women are tired of being hopeful, only to see that some men put in minimal effort and still expect an outcome-- or 'magic'. I get it. While her anger may have been a little over the top, it was more than likely frustration.

Hence why I have not dated in 10 years and will more than likely never date again. :)

Be honest. Just get her to list the things she didn't like and say they are deal breakers. That way you are actually adding value to the person for future rather than some nonsense excuse.

Why must there be this veneer of politeness or lying.

I hope she had the final word 😁and send a "sweet" text responding to Floury Wine Bottle Man -

"Oh dearie me, seems like I made the right decision! All the best"

and.....BLOCK!

Definitely B.

I absolutely supported a simple non-explanatory end to the "relationship" by OP, as she did, but due to his snarky response I would have been tempted to follow up with "actually, I'm ending it because you're one filthy pig with a total lack of self-awareness".

Yep, OP definitely had a lucky escape.

Absolutely the best reply she could have given. Short, to the point and no personal attack. She can walk away the bigger person here and forget about it.

B. Definitely B.

She's dodged a dodgy one there for sure.

But you don't use a rolling pin to make pizza.

<<Misses point of thread>>

She shouldn't ghost him. Whenever someone says they're going to do that I always ask them how they would feel if someone did that to them?
Time to be a grown up and tell him it's not going anywhere - she can either give no further explanation than that (he may infer that her visit to his place is the reason) or she could tell him she couldn't be with someone who has no sense of even the most basic hygiene standards (this feedback may prompt him to up his game in the future).
On the upside, she's had a lucky escape now she's seen him in his natural habitat! 😂

Is "Your stretch marks are a real turn off" an appropriate way to end a relationship? Or would you prefer to hear "sorry, I'm just not feeling a connection"?

Love this.

👻 it’s spooky season, I vote to ghost him 😁

This does have some merit, I will admit. 😆

I actually laughed out loud. Brilliant!!!!!!

😂
joggers and crocs
I'd leave as soon as I saw that scene

Tell her to send him a card with a little poem, like those grabby wedding invitations:

“I was looking forward to our date, but I’m so mad I can’t think straight;
It was an evening full of shocks - not least that you were wearing Crocs;
We made pizza with no rolling pin; you’re so untidy - buy a bin!
‘The magic happens’ in a dump - there’s not a chance that we will hump;
So now, Crocs man, you I must ditch - because you’re a dirty fucking bitch!”

You might well end up living with a friend. You most likely won't end up living with most men you go on a date with.

For what it's worth, I have decided not to live with particular friends because of their lifestyles, and I have decided not to go on further dates with men for all kinds of reasons.

I never felt the need to say, "I don't want to live with you because you have too many one night stands and I don't want to be always finding random men in the house" to my friend, or, "I don't want to go on further dates with you because you have bad table manners" to a man I had been out for dinner with. Just, "Thanks, but I don't think that's going to work for me."