Would this put you off someone?

So after 5/6 years it's okay just to pick up where you left. Don't think so - also OP said he was 'sour' at the break up and we don't know what that entailed.

He’s not a ‘poor bloke’, he’s asked OP on a date, that doesn’t mean she has to accept, she has every right to be cautious of his motives and decide she doesn’t trust them. Men aren’t owed ‘a chance’, and even if they were, he’s already had one.

you used to see him anyway?
his suggestion of a takeaway sounds reasonable.

He's looking for a free place to stay and for someone to look after his children for him. He's a CF. Block and move on. Focus on building your life up and not being sidetracked by dicks like this.

Bloody hell this poor bloke, we don't know when he split with his ex, it might have been before she even knew she was pregnant. He sounds like he's pulling his weight and being a good dad.

We also don't know what his living situation is, I would assume he is probably moving to somewhere more suitable for 2 kids who are going to start wreaking havoc soon.

Has he ever asked op to do childcare for him? All he's done wrong is using the wrong smiley and suggested a takeaway and evening in as an alternative to going out. If I want a proper catch-up with someone I'd far prefer takeaway over a noisy pub.

Mumsnet as always had jumped to assuming the worst, quick op get your ducks in a row 🙄

He thinks he can move in with you and you can be his live in babysitter . Block him

It's the 8 month old babies that would put me off, not the movie night...

I'll bet🙄.

" No man as loving, as one looking for a home🙄😁

He's the whole package!
No where to live, two babies that he needs to find someone to look after for free, wants to get his leg over.
No one falls in love faster than a man like this.
I wouldn’t touch him with a shitty stick.

He left twin babies. That's a red flag.

Came here to say this!

Be said “l don’t mind either way”. OP, l take this that he is just keen to see you. He is giving you the options to make life easier.

Maybe he is considering potential child care issues for you?

Hmm, 8 month old twins and nowhere to live? I'd be swerving this one so hard I'd be halfway to Egypt. He's looking for childcare, a new house, and a shag. Seriously, step away fast.

He couldn’t be more obvious! So he’s after moving in with you. That’s why he wants a house date, to case out where they’d all sleep!

Agree, this is icky. If you both want to see how the land lies, then go out on a proper date without children and see what happens, not meet up at yours for a shag.

I would not reconnect with him.

Your relationship did not work out, he went on to have two young children and that relationship did not work out either...he really does not sound like a catch.

I would also think that the fact that he wants to come to your place immediately is just because he thinks he will be able to get sex easily.

Frankly you deserve better.

I am partial to a “house date” but the winky face is a bit icky!

But she said she was free on Sunday, one would assume this meant she had already sorted childcare was was ready to go out. The I can come round, we can order a takeaway is presumptuous and lazy. The wink wink definitely implies he is after sex.

As a parent of twins, I cannot imagine how you would be ready to date ( or order takeaway round a ex girlfriends place) when they are 8 months.

Reasons I would be put off - assuming no effort sex, having to listen to 'having it easy with one kid' comments because it won't be the last. High possiblity of being guilted into help/childcare etc.

Also, we need more information on him being a little 'sour' over the break up.

no idea, without knowing how the kids are none of us have any idea, moving between households might be very unsettling and the half week might be hell on earth.
he was just making conversation. OP's child is older, to me it reads as him saying someone with one eight month old and another parent there has it easier than one person with eight month old twins. Sorry but that's likely to be true, by the time they're that big it's hard to hold and comfort both at once if they're cross.

I don't really see what the big issue is here, OP said he was fun and obviously liked him before but seems to be wobbling because he offered to come to hers and get a takeaway, used a winking smiley and said twins are hard. She should say 'no I'd rather go out' if that's what she wants and say 'oh dear I hope they get easier soon' about the twins being hard?

He has them half the week. He's not a full time dad. I don't know your friend but imagine like any one else with 8 month old twins, any time when you don't have them = sleep. More so after double D&V or when they are teething Not winky faces to an ex. Especially an ex with one child that he then complains "has it easy".

Far too much baggage ,

He is probably looking for a someone to step in and help with 8 month old twins. Definitely wouldn't pursue this one.

This, 100%. I can't believe you were even considering it OP.

Forget the winky face, I'd be more concerned as to how / why "he turned a bit sour" last time you broke thongs off!!