To begrudge her perfect little life

I struggle to believe you are a good friend to this woman. You’ve torn her apart on here with your bitterness that she worked harder than you and presumably has a good job. Her positive outlook has brought her good things. Maybe you try that.

Well, it does happen in real life, she’s an example of that.

What does her having a nice life take away from you? The answer is nothing.

This is about you and not her. Look inwards at what you feel you lack as opposed to what she has and.getting fed up with jr.

This poor woman. She’s not done anything wrong.

Wow your vile grow the fuck up.

OP you reeeally need to ask yourself why you’re so jealous of this friend. She’s done nothing wrong.
You can’t catch a break around her because she’s checks notes worked hard at her career, is in a happy relationship and is expecting again??
You sound cruel and bitter, ‘little miss workaholic’ honestly you’re not a nice friend to this lady!
Seriously if it’s annoying you this much then step back. Leave her alone.

Can you not see that this issue is yours and that there is something seriously wrong with you?

My advice would be to distance yourself from this poor woman (whose life clearly isn’t perfect if she’s got people like you in it) and get yourself some talking therapy. It’s not normal or healthy to feel like this about your friends.

I don't know why anyone would even want to dry a swan.

You only envy her because she's your friend. Try to put her life into context. You don't have to look far for examples of people with far more 'enviable lifestyles than your friend - people with inherited wealth, for example, who don't have to work (or can work at a hobby job they love without worrying about whether it earns them a living).

You mentioned she'd been through an abusive relationship - there are plenty of people who don't go through this before finding happiness. Plenty of people are naturally beautiful.

None of us know what is round the corner in our lives; no-one's happiness is guaranteed as a permanency; try to feel glad for your friend that she's enjoying happiness at the moment.

Have you read what you’ve written? I hope she gets a new friend.

Exactly. Most women have grown up a bit past the idealised Disney notions as they become adults and are no longer girls.
No-one has a perfect life.

It was not ott for some. Why so mean-minded? There are lots of 'twee' actions you may think are lovely but that I would choke over.
Each to his own
Do you like towel-goblins? I am good at fashioning those

I don't understand why you can't be happy for her.

She sounds like someone who would inspire me and that I'd admire greatly. It is sad that you've let an element of jealousy work its way in within you and that you've posted this. I would use knowing someone like her as a yardstick to inspire me to work on myself more. You can learn a lot from other people.

Of course, the perfect life doesn't exist and that's probably an illusion you've made in your head. I'm sure your friend has off days, just like everyone else.

No. Focus on your own life.

Your friend's life isn't 'little'. It is a life worked for and enjoyed.
It is sad that you are so very jealous. Let that consume you and you'll find you are the one with the little life

Sorry OP, but I think you sound envious. Please don't compare yourselves, you never know what's really going on with people. That being said, she could be completely and blissfully happy and successful but for that to bother you means you're not entirely happy in your own situation.

I'm sorry, but your post says more about you than your friend. I think anyone who is content in their own life and situation doesn't feel like this about others. Can you pinpoint anything you ca and would like to improve upon?

I feel bad for her because it seems like you resent her and have for years.
I was an 'overachiever' at school but I was working hard to escape my family, including my mother who was stealing from me. All my weekend job money.
After school I briefly became homeless (mother was harassing me so badly and physically confronting me) and I remember a parent of a classmate coming into the shop where I worked and mocking me/saying I'd been 'left on he shelf.' Another one driving by in a car asking me to say something in French. Everyone thought it was hilarious that something really terrible had happened to me and I was walking from a sketchy basement apartment to a retail job. I wonder what you would've done if something bad happened to this friend?
I eventually rebuilt my life and became a talent manager. However I've struggled to trust anyone since. One, my own family stole from me & harassed me into homelessness. Two, people who I thought were friends or friendly acquaintances turned on me the second I had a problem. Do you want people to have horrifying experiences like that and PTSD like I have?
This woman has problems of her own. Everyone does. You make her sound like a reasonable, kind, hard-working person. So why do you resent her? Why doesn't it just motivate you to build a life you love, too?
Would you be happier if something terrible had happened to her? I was shocked that many people weren't actually my friends, they enjoyed my misfortune. If you don't like her just drop the acquaintance it's better for you both in the long run.

YABU and intensely unkind.

WHY do you begrudge her this life?

Sounds like she’s worked hard and made various sacrifices. This isn’t to say you haven’t, but it’s not like a lot of these things have fallen into her lap by the sounds of it. If they had I could understand your feelings more (although they’d still be unkind)

I have a friend from childhood who has done exceptionally well. We were both driven at school and got great degrees. I was always a homebird and while I have done well, she was the adventurous one.
She is now very wealthy.
But what I have seen is the hard work and dedication. She has a very lovely husband - this time around. Her first one wasn’t.
Age is a great leveller - now we are older we have a good moan about the menopause, worrying about elderly parents, and the state of the world. We also have a good laugh about our teenage years.
I can remember we had a very frank conversation about life once, and she said… do you know I was always a bit envious of you, how close you were to your mum, and how clever you were. I nearly fell off my very ordinary chair. She told me how tough it was in the cut-throat world she worked in, how she felt like an imposter, and that being so driven left her exhausted.
Both of you will go through stuff, but I think it’s sad you were looking for evidence that her partner was cheating or being at best badly behaved.
It is time to look at your own life and be grateful for what you have. You have your own loving relationship. I am sure you have lots in your life that’s great. If you want to make improvements, take small steps, Be inspired by your friend.
You are human and for all sorts of reasons this friend has held a mirror up to your world, and you feel you have fallen short. Now it’s time to move forward.
Don’t be so hard on yourself and cherish a decent friend.

I have a friend like her.
She has a really lovely life, she has everything but as her friend, I don't think that any of it is undeserved and I am her biggest cheerleader.
I think you may have low self esteem to feel the way you do, to be honest.

Kindly meant, but it reads like you feel you're in competition with her, OP. You're imagining that every time she succeeds, she 'won' over you. Just a thought (and I do mean this gently), but what makes you think that this woman even sees YOU as her competition? She might just be doing her best in her life, or have other frames of reference that she aims at. It feels very unlikely that she has ever looked at your life and simply thought, 'yes, my aim is to be better than OP'. You're giving a lot of free rent space in your head to this woman (who sounds lovely) and it's energy that you could be using to pull yourself up. I do think you'd be happier by using her as your inspiration rather than your target.

My thoughts exactly 🤣🤣🤣

Well, this is a 'show me you are not consumed by envy, and not at all stalk--y by going onto the internet and writing a list of all the things you are jealous about and asking someone who was at a lad's night about the behaviour of the husband of the person I am jealous of' post
Plus, are you American?

I look at my own life and I completely see that I am responsible for my own good and bad choices. I have a good job but a bad relationship. I don’t manage my money well. I can make improvements. This is all on me. I really don’t understand why you would judge someone else’s life like this. If you aren’t happy in yours or hanker after what she has, start looking at what needs to change. And maybe take inspiration from your friend if anything.

Brings to mind the Ghengis Khan quote ' it's not enough that I succeed, all others must fail'