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Imbluedalale · 17/10/2024 23:39

That’s just it really. I really need a cuddle but that’s not possible so can anybody just support me right now? My mental health is on the floor right now I’ve never felt as low it’s making me feel so ill

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Ruralretreating · 01/11/2024 12:06

Imbluedalale · 01/11/2024 11:56

Morning Ruralretreating,
I hope you are having a good day so far.
I’m not feeling very well today unfortunately, hopefully I will start to feel better soon.
No progress as yet , waiting for the phone to ring .
That’s a good idea to refer back to that , thank you . I just hope they listen this time and have abit of compassion for the situation xx

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I hope so too OP! Sorry to hear you are sick, it’s the last thing you need.

If you haven’t heard anything yet this morning I would get on phone to MPs office first, then council.

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Imbluedalale · 01/11/2024 12:04

PeggyMitchellsCameo · 01/11/2024 11:45

I hope you get some better news today. Wish we could do more to help.
Please let us know if you get any positive news.

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You are all already doing so so much with your messages of support and encouragement. I will be forever thankful xx

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Imbluedalale · 01/11/2024 12:02

RaspberryBeretxx · 01/11/2024 11:42

So sorry that your tummy is not good with all the stress and worry. Hope you can manage some sips of water or tea to stay hydrated. Glad you managed to sleep for a bit. Did you manage to grab anything from breakfast in case you feel a bit better? xx

Hi RaspberryBeretxx,
Im having a cup of tea now , just trying to sip it . I think all the adrenaline I had yesterday has wore off and now the stress is coming through.
I didn’t get anything for breakfast but one of the ladies from the hotel said whenever I feel upto eating she will get me something as she could see I wasn’t very well xx

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Imbluedalale · 01/11/2024 11:57

ChoccieCornflake · 01/11/2024 11:33

Oh no, big hugs - I'm sorry you feel unwell. Your body is almost certainly reacting to all the stress.

Thank you for the hugs ChoccieCornflake
xx

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Imbluedalale · 01/11/2024 11:56

Ruralretreating · 01/11/2024 10:51

Morning @Imbluedalale ! Just checking in, seeing how you are and if any progress for you on housing.
It’s great that you said the “my mental health coordinator said that the email that the boss of the mental health team sent to the council was very very good. She stated he made it very clear that the accommodation offered to me wasn’t in any way suitable for me.”

If you are arguing with council about “refusing” the accommodation just keep referring back to that letter and any other professionals who have commented (I think you said police had) e.g. “I did not refuse suitable accommodation. No suitable accommodation was offered. You have an email from (name) in the mental health team which clearly states that. I am a victim of domestic abuse, I am disabled, I have mental health concerns. The accommodation needs to reflect these needs”. If necessary adding “You must comply with the legal obligations on you in these circumstances.”

Generally in these fights the objective opinion of professionals carries more weight. Sorry if this is all obvious already.

Morning Ruralretreating,
I hope you are having a good day so far.
I’m not feeling very well today unfortunately, hopefully I will start to feel better soon.
No progress as yet , waiting for the phone to ring .
That’s a good idea to refer back to that , thank you . I just hope they listen this time and have abit of compassion for the situation xx

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ChoccieCornflake · 01/11/2024 11:53

Hiya! I'm good thanks! The night out was good too - bloody loud, but good music. Lots of people dressed up and getting heavily into the cocktails! I mostly chatted (well, shouted over the music!) and people-watched!

I hope the tea settles your stomach a bit. Stomachs do seem to be very stress-sensitive organs. Mine also had a preference for emptying itself at the first sign of stress!

nornironlady · 01/11/2024 11:51

Laura I'm sorry you are feeling so rubbish today. Our bodies have strange ways of letting us know when it's all too much. I have everything crossed that you hear some news through some of the more official channels you've tried this week. I want to see a safe home for you asap! I will be checking for updates between cocktails xx

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Imbluedalale · 01/11/2024 11:48

ChoccieCornflake · 01/11/2024 10:40

Hello!! I'm thinking of you this morning Laura!

Morning ChoccieCornflake,
Are you ok?
How was your night at the pub? Good I hope .
Thank you for thinking of me , truly means alot xx

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Imbluedalale · 01/11/2024 11:47

AdmittowearingCrocs · 01/11/2024 10:36

Morning @Imbluedalale, hope you managed to get a good sleep and had tea and something to eat for breakfast. Here’s hoping for some good news for you today. We are all rooting for you. Sending a morning hug 🤗

Morning AdmittowearingCrocs,
How are you today?
Just wanted to say thank you again for providing me with the details for the chief executive for the council . I hope you know how much I appreciate your help .
I’ve just got kettle on now and I’m going to try and have a cup of tea , hopefully it will stay down.
Thank you for the hug it is much needed today .
I hope you have a lovely day xx

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PeggyMitchellsCameo · 01/11/2024 11:45

Imbluedalale · 01/11/2024 11:28

Morning PeggyMitchellsCameo,
How are you today?
I managed to get a few solid hours in but I woke up at 4am not feeling very well and then from 6am I’ve had my head over the toilet on and off since then . I really don’t feel very well I think it’s the stress of it all xx

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I hope you get some better news today. Wish we could do more to help.
Please let us know if you get any positive news.

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Imbluedalale · 01/11/2024 11:44

TealPoet · 01/11/2024 10:35

Also really hoping for good news today! I hope you got some sleep and managed some breakfast :)

Morning TealPoet,
I hope you are ok and have as good a day as you can .
I did managed some sleep thank you but woke up quite early not feeling well and haven’t since 😞
Ive been hugging the toilet most of the morning.
Hopefully I will hear soon on what’s happening and where they will put me , it’s very nerve wracking xx

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RaspberryBeretxx · 01/11/2024 11:42

So sorry that your tummy is not good with all the stress and worry. Hope you can manage some sips of water or tea to stay hydrated. Glad you managed to sleep for a bit. Did you manage to grab anything from breakfast in case you feel a bit better? xx

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Imbluedalale · 01/11/2024 11:41

Munchyseeds2 · 01/11/2024 10:16

Morning lovely
Just want to let you know that I'm here and rooting for you, I'm hoping that you get some good news today

Keep positive, drink lots of tea and get something nice to eat
If you want something to watch try The Good Doctor....I love it!

I have a breadmaker That l don't use. ..when your settled I can send it to you if you want it xx

Morning Munchyseeds2,
Hows your day going?
Thank you so much, it really truly means a lot. You are so very kind and lovely.
I will have a look at the Good Doctor , thank you for the recommendation.
Awww that’s so kind , thank you so much (but only if you definitely don’t use it) xx

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Imbluedalale · 01/11/2024 11:38

RaspberryBeretxx · 01/11/2024 10:06

Thinking of you this morning, Laura. Hope you slept well and hoping that this is the day you get some answers from the council on next steps. Flowers

Thank you RaspberryBeretxx,
How are you today? Have you any plans for the weekend?
Im feeling so nervous today my tummy is in knots xx

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Imbluedalale · 01/11/2024 11:36

nornironlady · 01/11/2024 07:48

Good morning Laura. I hope you had a restful night. I thought I would just check in with you before I start work from my office. I usually WFH. I had actually been thinking before you posted about the fireworks that our location would probably be good for them. I'm glad you enjoyed them. There were lots near me. The cat even braved going outside. It's a great excuse to meet my friend for afternoon cocktails. Happy Friday everyone xx

Morning nornironlady,
I hope your ok?
I managed to sleep for abit but I’m not feeling very well today .
I hope you have a good day at the office .
The fireworks did look lovely over the lake , I wish my children could have seen them !
Ohh I love cocktails 🍸 , I’m currently doing that being teetotal for a year . I wanted to try a month which I did and then thought I’ll try a year , I’ve done 5 months so far but I do love a cocktail especially when on holiday.
I hope you have a lovely time xx

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ChoccieCornflake · 01/11/2024 11:33

Oh no, big hugs - I'm sorry you feel unwell. Your body is almost certainly reacting to all the stress.

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Imbluedalale · 01/11/2024 11:28

PeggyMitchellsCameo · 01/11/2024 07:09

Morning @Imbluedalale did you get much sleep lovely?

Morning PeggyMitchellsCameo,
How are you today?
I managed to get a few solid hours in but I woke up at 4am not feeling very well and then from 6am I’ve had my head over the toilet on and off since then . I really don’t feel very well I think it’s the stress of it all xx

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Ruralretreating · 01/11/2024 10:53

If you have someone sympathetic, emotion and the wider story can make them more inclined to help - depends who you get. If you don’t get sympathy then hard facts may be next method of persuasion. Utterly ridiculous that you should have to be doing any of it anyway! Fingers crossed MP office can do it for you - make sure you get in touch with them today.

Ruralretreating · 01/11/2024 10:51

Morning @Imbluedalale ! Just checking in, seeing how you are and if any progress for you on housing.
It’s great that you said the “my mental health coordinator said that the email that the boss of the mental health team sent to the council was very very good. She stated he made it very clear that the accommodation offered to me wasn’t in any way suitable for me.”

If you are arguing with council about “refusing” the accommodation just keep referring back to that letter and any other professionals who have commented (I think you said police had) e.g. “I did not refuse suitable accommodation. No suitable accommodation was offered. You have an email from (name) in the mental health team which clearly states that. I am a victim of domestic abuse, I am disabled, I have mental health concerns. The accommodation needs to reflect these needs”. If necessary adding “You must comply with the legal obligations on you in these circumstances.”

Generally in these fights the objective opinion of professionals carries more weight. Sorry if this is all obvious already.

ChoccieCornflake · 01/11/2024 10:40

Hello!! I'm thinking of you this morning Laura!

AdmittowearingCrocs · 01/11/2024 10:36

Morning @Imbluedalale, hope you managed to get a good sleep and had tea and something to eat for breakfast. Here’s hoping for some good news for you today. We are all rooting for you. Sending a morning hug 🤗

TealPoet · 01/11/2024 10:35

Also really hoping for good news today! I hope you got some sleep and managed some breakfast :)

Munchyseeds2 · 01/11/2024 10:16

Morning lovely
Just want to let you know that I'm here and rooting for you, I'm hoping that you get some good news today

Keep positive, drink lots of tea and get something nice to eat
If you want something to watch try The Good Doctor....I love it!

I have a breadmaker That l don't use. ..when your settled I can send it to you if you want it xx

RaspberryBeretxx · 01/11/2024 10:06

Thinking of you this morning, Laura. Hope you slept well and hoping that this is the day you get some answers from the council on next steps. Flowers

nornironlady · 01/11/2024 07:48

Good morning Laura. I hope you had a restful night. I thought I would just check in with you before I start work from my office. I usually WFH. I had actually been thinking before you posted about the fireworks that our location would probably be good for them. I'm glad you enjoyed them. There were lots near me. The cat even braved going outside. It's a great excuse to meet my friend for afternoon cocktails. Happy Friday everyone xx

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