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Imbluedalale · 17/10/2024 23:39

That’s just it really. I really need a cuddle but that’s not possible so can anybody just support me right now? My mental health is on the floor right now I’ve never felt as low it’s making me feel so ill

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Imbluedalale · 01/11/2024 13:11

Munchyseeds2 · 01/11/2024 13:00

If they can't find anywhere suitable in terms of safety AND access then you have to be strong and refuse to leave where you are.....they have emergency budgets that they can use!! Xx

So if what they provide me isn’t suitable for my needs I should refuse it and stay here? What if the hotel calls the police on me?xx

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PeggyMitchellsCameo · 01/11/2024 13:10

I know the next few hours will be stressful, I know you feel poorly but I want you to acknowledge how far you have come in just a few days, from being completely disempowered to having the confidence to call
your MP. I know you’ve had some support on here but that drive has come from you.
Fingers crossed you get somewhere suitable sorted today, OP.
(I have just used the tea bag trick ✔️✔️✔️✔️)

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Imbluedalale · 01/11/2024 13:10

ChoccieCornflake · 01/11/2024 13:00

Blimey, go you!!! Well done on ringing the MP!!

I’m still shaking !
But I thought what have I got to lose? I’ve already lost everything anyway xx

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Imbluedalale · 01/11/2024 13:09

Ruralretreating · 01/11/2024 12:59

Our posts crossed. Glad support worker is on it. Has she spoken to MP office as well? I’d still contact MP office and ask where they got to, and what they are expecting from council in terms of next steps.

I’d also ask support worker if she is willing to see if council might be able to come back any earlier than 3-4, as it’s affecting your mental and physical health, especially after what happened on Tuesday. Maybe she could just call them at 2.

You want to avoid them trying to bounce you into something unsuitable late in the day.

Am also going to PM you.

I rang MP office myself . I was petrified!
But I’m glad I did because she said she will chase it up with them within an hour .
Hopefully with my support worker ringing them today and my mental health team and the MP’s office , hopefully they will want to sort something suitable out to get rid of me xx

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Ruralretreating · 01/11/2024 13:08

Walking biscuit tin! That’s so funny, I’m dying of laughter and definitely want one!

Ruralretreating · 01/11/2024 13:07

Our posts crossed again @Imbluedalale ! Well done for ringing MP. Also huge well done caseworker Dawn for being on it and chasing it!

Munchyseeds2 · 01/11/2024 13:07

My mopping disaster was funny, but boy, I felt stupid when I realised what I'd done!!

Don't give a thought to what they think of you, all they have to do is do their job properly!!

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Imbluedalale · 01/11/2024 13:06

ChoccieCornflake · 01/11/2024 12:59

Well done - keep on keeping on!! Today is definitely the day for being the squeaky wheel. I would be calling your support worker on the dot of 4pm if you've not heard anything by then. Other people on this thread are probably better placed to advise if it's also worth contacting anyone else too.

Have more tea, if you're able. That hoover sounds terrifying, I'd not be a fan of that! Nor the walking fridge!

Thank you ChoccieCornflake,
Im squeaking the wheel!
If I don’t hear anything I will be chasing it up again in a few hours .
Wouldn’t want an hoover robot nor a walking fridge but wouldn’t mind a walking biscuit tin xx

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ChoccieCornflake · 01/11/2024 13:04

You are flipping awesome!! You have made more scary calls in a day than I manage in weeks! I bloody hate calling people!

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Imbluedalale · 01/11/2024 13:03

Munchyseeds2 · 01/11/2024 12:51

I'm sorry that you aren't feeling great today but I'm not surprised at all, hang in there, eat/ drink what you can....

I think I would start contacting people....just to make sure they don't conveniently forget you on a Friday....

The robot hoover thing makes me giggle! I had one for a short while and loved it....then I had the idea to try the mopping function, let's just say it didn't end well....due to the fact that I may have had a 'moment' and put the water in the wrong place😂😂

Thank you Munchyseeds2
I’m trying to hang on , I’ve just rang the MP to chase it up .
My mental health team have just rang Aswell to see if I’ve heard anything and they said they are going to call the council too.

The council are going to absolutely hate me! Im
going to be blacklisted from them after this . My council tax bill is going to be sky high!

Lol 😂 wish I had been a fly on the wall to see your mopping disaster xx

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Munchyseeds2 · 01/11/2024 13:00

If they can't find anywhere suitable in terms of safety AND access then you have to be strong and refuse to leave where you are.....they have emergency budgets that they can use!! Xx

ChoccieCornflake · 01/11/2024 13:00

Blimey, go you!!! Well done on ringing the MP!!

Ruralretreating · 01/11/2024 12:59

Our posts crossed. Glad support worker is on it. Has she spoken to MP office as well? I’d still contact MP office and ask where they got to, and what they are expecting from council in terms of next steps.

I’d also ask support worker if she is willing to see if council might be able to come back any earlier than 3-4, as it’s affecting your mental and physical health, especially after what happened on Tuesday. Maybe she could just call them at 2.

You want to avoid them trying to bounce you into something unsuitable late in the day.

Am also going to PM you.

ChoccieCornflake · 01/11/2024 12:59

Well done - keep on keeping on!! Today is definitely the day for being the squeaky wheel. I would be calling your support worker on the dot of 4pm if you've not heard anything by then. Other people on this thread are probably better placed to advise if it's also worth contacting anyone else too.

Have more tea, if you're able. That hoover sounds terrifying, I'd not be a fan of that! Nor the walking fridge!

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Imbluedalale · 01/11/2024 12:59

Ruralretreating · 01/11/2024 12:50

@Imbluedalale Yes, absolutely! As soon as you can. Just really politely say you wanted to check with them if they had managed to get anywhere with the council. You are worried as your accommodation paid for by a friend ends tomorrow and you haven’t heard anything from the council at all about accommodation.

By the way, the fact you are in this temporary accommodation doesn’t change your status as homeless, fleeing domestic abuse.

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I’ve just completely shocked myself and rang the MP. Dawn answered and I just asked if they had heard anything . She said she rang the council this morning and a manager is looking into it but she hasn’t heard anything since but she will give it an hour and chase them again.
Im not comfortable waiting until 4pm knowing that they close at 4.30 xx

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Imbluedalale · 01/11/2024 12:53

TealPoet · 01/11/2024 12:35

I’m sorry but the robovac thing really makes me laugh! Reminds me of this post I screenshotted from a list article a few years back because I found it so funny!

😂😂😂😂😂😂
What I want to know is who has the room in their home to have a walking fridge strolling about?xx

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Ruralretreating · 01/11/2024 12:52

You do have to keep on at this. Public services are so under-resourced you have to be persistent!

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Imbluedalale · 01/11/2024 12:52

RaspberryBeretxx · 01/11/2024 12:21

That's so lovely that she offered to get you something. I'd definitely take her up on that if your tummy settles down a bit. Glad you're managing a cup of tea.

You made me laugh with the robot hoover coming for you 😂. I was quite tempted to get one but you've made me think twice now imagining a demon hoover stalking me around the house!

I think if it was me, I'd either ring council and MP now or at 2. I imagine 1-2 pm is fairly standard lunch so you've got more chance of catching the right people outside those hours. Or just ring when you feel up to it and you can always leave a message and follow up with an email to ensure there's a paper trail. I basically would try not to worry about hassling people and just keep reminding them they need to sort things for you.

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So I have an update :
My support worker has just rang me as she has been chasing it up all morning and she said that the council has confirmed that a housing officer is looking at other hotels now and they will get back in contact between 3-4pm.
I don’t know what to feel about that, it feels as though they are waiting until right the last minute before the offices close at 4.30pm .
Am I worrying too much?

She really was lovely , I was being sick and had a knock at the door , it was the cleaner lady and she said I looked really white and if I was ok. She was lovely bless her.

I will definitely not be getting a robot hoover for my house . It’s bright yellow with loads of little legs (I’m assuming these are the bristles) and looks like a giant yellow beetle . And it comes right near your feet so the legs are touching you . It’s a no from me thank you xx

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Munchyseeds2 · 01/11/2024 12:51

I'm sorry that you aren't feeling great today but I'm not surprised at all, hang in there, eat/ drink what you can....

I think I would start contacting people....just to make sure they don't conveniently forget you on a Friday....

The robot hoover thing makes me giggle! I had one for a short while and loved it....then I had the idea to try the mopping function, let's just say it didn't end well....due to the fact that I may have had a 'moment' and put the water in the wrong place😂😂

Ruralretreating · 01/11/2024 12:50

Imbluedalale · 01/11/2024 12:15

Do you think I should ring MP’s office after lunch?xx

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@Imbluedalale Yes, absolutely! As soon as you can. Just really politely say you wanted to check with them if they had managed to get anywhere with the council. You are worried as your accommodation paid for by a friend ends tomorrow and you haven’t heard anything from the council at all about accommodation.

By the way, the fact you are in this temporary accommodation doesn’t change your status as homeless, fleeing domestic abuse.

TealPoet · 01/11/2024 12:35

I’m sorry but the robovac thing really makes me laugh! Reminds me of this post I screenshotted from a list article a few years back because I found it so funny!

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RaspberryBeretxx · 01/11/2024 12:21

Imbluedalale · 01/11/2024 12:02

Hi RaspberryBeretxx,
Im having a cup of tea now , just trying to sip it . I think all the adrenaline I had yesterday has wore off and now the stress is coming through.
I didn’t get anything for breakfast but one of the ladies from the hotel said whenever I feel upto eating she will get me something as she could see I wasn’t very well xx

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That's so lovely that she offered to get you something. I'd definitely take her up on that if your tummy settles down a bit. Glad you're managing a cup of tea.

You made me laugh with the robot hoover coming for you 😂. I was quite tempted to get one but you've made me think twice now imagining a demon hoover stalking me around the house!

I think if it was me, I'd either ring council and MP now or at 2. I imagine 1-2 pm is fairly standard lunch so you've got more chance of catching the right people outside those hours. Or just ring when you feel up to it and you can always leave a message and follow up with an email to ensure there's a paper trail. I basically would try not to worry about hassling people and just keep reminding them they need to sort things for you.

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Imbluedalale · 01/11/2024 12:15

Ruralretreating · 01/11/2024 12:06

I hope so too OP! Sorry to hear you are sick, it’s the last thing you need.

If you haven’t heard anything yet this morning I would get on phone to MPs office first, then council.

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Do you think I should ring MP’s office after lunch?xx

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Imbluedalale · 01/11/2024 12:13

ChoccieCornflake · 01/11/2024 11:53

Hiya! I'm good thanks! The night out was good too - bloody loud, but good music. Lots of people dressed up and getting heavily into the cocktails! I mostly chatted (well, shouted over the music!) and people-watched!

I hope the tea settles your stomach a bit. Stomachs do seem to be very stress-sensitive organs. Mine also had a preference for emptying itself at the first sign of stress!

So pleased you had a good night .
I bet everybody looked great in their costumes .
I love people watching! I’m a curtain twitcher too I’m ashamed to say xx

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Imbluedalale · 01/11/2024 12:11

nornironlady · 01/11/2024 11:51

Laura I'm sorry you are feeling so rubbish today. Our bodies have strange ways of letting us know when it's all too much. I have everything crossed that you hear some news through some of the more official channels you've tried this week. I want to see a safe home for you asap! I will be checking for updates between cocktails xx

Yes they certainly do don’t they! It’s ironic really, I remember my cancer nurse telling me that once I’m away from the stress (before I left) that my body will have a better chance of fighting. I wasn’t prepared for all the stress that came after, I probably shouldn’t have been so gullible to it all.
Even the robot hoover has it in for me , there’s a robot hoover in the hallway , it’s quite a long hallway and every time I open my door to step outside it comes straight for me , I can hear it now it’s like it’s waiting for me !
I hope you really enjoy your cocktails xx

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