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Imbluedalale · 17/10/2024 23:39

That’s just it really. I really need a cuddle but that’s not possible so can anybody just support me right now? My mental health is on the floor right now I’ve never felt as low it’s making me feel so ill

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Imbluedalale · 01/11/2024 15:33

RaspberryBeretxx · 01/11/2024 14:29

You eat anything and everything you can! All the cookies 😆!

That's so horrible that your mum and dad say that about you, that's honestly not something I can ever ever imagine saying or thinking about you. I think you're really strong and brave and are absolutely fighting every single day. The trouble is when you're worn down by people and then on top of that up against multiple almost unsurmountable issues with very little support and actually, people trying to bring you down. How on earth can anyone muster up enough fight to go up against all that?

I managed one and a half cookies today and had to give up. But they was very yummy .
I never thought I’d say this but I’m craving salads and fruit and veg. Oh what id give for abit of broccoli and carrots and cauliflower.
Thank you for your lovely comments , unfortunately my parents haven’t seen or known everything I’ve been through lately . I’ve tried to tell my mum but when she replies with ‘awww no’ or just puts a x to your reply it’s hard to express it when you’re getting a lack of attention.
There’s been so many times these last few weeks where I’ve craved a hug from my mum and just to hear words of comfort from her. I’m still heartbroken over it but now there’s a part of me that feels angry , actually I feel quite angry at all my family but I’m not going to let it consume me xx

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Imbluedalale · 01/11/2024 15:24

Ruralretreating · 01/11/2024 14:26

Great, they’ll all appreciate it so much. So often people in these roles do lots of difficult stuff that is unrecognised.

That’s the spirit! Determined and future-focused! That’s the stuff we admire in you Laura! Enjoy your bath, tea and cookies along with the peace of mind this decision brings.

Agree with all the shout-outs and gratitude to @TealPoet who is also an inspiration with her spirit, fortitude and generosity.

I’ve sent Dawn and Sally an email thanking them for all their help and for advocating on my behalf.
Im going to have a bath and have a lie down as feel exhausted today.
I am in awe of everybody who has supported me , encouraged me and helped me . Thank you to each and every one of you xx

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Imbluedalale · 01/11/2024 15:01

TealPoet · 01/11/2024 14:19

Do have more cookies for sure! Eat one for me since I can’t <3

You have been so strong and fought so hard. No one can rightly say anything else. Now we can have happy discussions about your book, courses to take, just nice things!

Thank you TealPoet.
Every single time in my life I have backed down from everything when I didn’t get the answer I was wanting and accepted it but for the first time ever I didn’t back down and oh my it feels good! Xx

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Imbluedalale · 01/11/2024 14:58

ChoccieCornflake · 01/11/2024 14:17

^ THIS!! ^

That you are there not just for today or this week but until you have a home is the best news, the very best!

And you should totally be PROUD! PROUD with bells on!!!!!!

It’s amazing isn’t it ChoccieCornflake
I’m in awe of every single one of you and all the professionals that have helped me.
I know it sounds silly to say but I feel loved!xx

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CookiePookie · 01/11/2024 14:46

I am in awe; you are an absolute warrior! I’ve lurked along keeping the page open and updating and feeling so frustrated and worried on your behalf. And the MNetters who have stepped up right behind you to support - I applaud them wholeheartedly! What a wild, exhausting journey you have been on, and you are a shining star coming out the other side still making jokes and writing witty responses to the thread comments.

Your post has been an entire rollercoaster showing the best of humanity (with tales of the worst too). You are so courageous, eloquent, strong, brave, and a tougher-than-you-think complete hero of a woman. You just absolutely rock, Laura.

You have a whole army of MNetters behind you, astride robot hoovers, waving spoons, and holding banners of support.

Also - top tip - if you buy a big selection of 12 cookies from Subway it’s a bargain £4.99 I think, and they keep pretty well for a couple of days (if they last that long!). And I am going to try your teabag tip! Many hugs to you, safe, secure and cosy in your room now.

PeggyMitchellsCameo · 01/11/2024 14:43

Sorry if I’m getting a bit previous but I’m just wondering what to wear to book launch? 😂

Imbluedalale · 01/11/2024 14:37

AdmittowearingCrocs · 01/11/2024 14:15

I am in tears reading this, knowing you will be there until housed. Knowing you are safe, warm and comfortable with facilities that enhance your stay such as being able to take a bath and make a cup of tea has made my week.
Now enjoy the peace and quiet and let the stress disappear. Hopefully you will be able to eat, sleep and begin healing.
You did this Laura, we just supported you but you had the courage and will to make phone calls and send emails. I am in awe of you 💐🍪

I’m in tears reading that!
I can’t believe there’s people out there that care about me , it’s so amazing!
The biggest stress I was dealing with has been taken away for now until I get a home and now I can start to deal with everything else .
Thank you so much xx

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RaspberryBeretxx · 01/11/2024 14:35

And 👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏 @TealPoet for booking the room for the extra days and allowing the space for all this to happen.

I just caught your message Laura that said they'll rebook that room till you're housed. That's so so awesome! The next move for you and the spoon will be to your actual new home 😍. xx

Imbluedalale · 01/11/2024 14:32

TealPoet · 01/11/2024 14:15

Phew, just catching up and I am SO relieved and happy! There has been very little I could do from here - I firmly believe lots of prayer is the secret, not me! Even the robovac will look like more of a friend now.

Very little? You have done so much TealPoet.
If it wasn’t for you I wouldn’t be here in this room right now .
You’ve done more time than you can ever imagine and I will be forever grateful for your kindness xx

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Imbluedalale · 01/11/2024 14:30

Apolloneuro · 01/11/2024 14:14

Blimming fantastic news.

Isn’t it just Apolloneuro,
It was your email that helped massively.
I cannot put into words how thankful I am xx

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RaspberryBeretxx · 01/11/2024 14:29

Imbluedalale · 01/11/2024 14:16

It really is amazing news RaspberryBeretxx,
I’m so so thankful for everybody’s help I couldn’t have done this without you.
My mum and dad always say I’m not strong enough and I’m not fighting hard enough but I can now truthfully say they are wrong!
I will definitely get something to eat this afternoon , I might celebrate and have 3 more cookies 😂xx

You eat anything and everything you can! All the cookies 😆!

That's so horrible that your mum and dad say that about you, that's honestly not something I can ever ever imagine saying or thinking about you. I think you're really strong and brave and are absolutely fighting every single day. The trouble is when you're worn down by people and then on top of that up against multiple almost unsurmountable issues with very little support and actually, people trying to bring you down. How on earth can anyone muster up enough fight to go up against all that?

Imbluedalale · 01/11/2024 14:28

workingholiday · 01/11/2024 14:04

This has made my day. Well done to you Laura and all the wonderful people who have helped you.

Thank you workingholiday,
They are all amazing aren’t they xx

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Imbluedalale · 01/11/2024 14:26

ChoccieCornflake · 01/11/2024 13:59

You definitely did do it! We might have supplied the tools and the info, but you were the one that used them! It wasn't us on the phone standing up to the council, and inspiring people like your support workers and MPs to help you - that was all you! You have a core of steel!!

Thank you ChoccieCornflake.
I feel like I’ve just won an election!lol 😂
That was intense!xx

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Ruralretreating · 01/11/2024 14:26

Imbluedalale · 01/11/2024 14:05

Thank you Ruralretreating.
Im so so pleased with the news .
I can now concentrate on getting a home and getting my children back.
I will definitely email Dawn and thank her and Sally and my support worker and mental health team and cancer team . And all of you I can’t email you but THANKYOU xxxxxxx

Great, they’ll all appreciate it so much. So often people in these roles do lots of difficult stuff that is unrecognised.

That’s the spirit! Determined and future-focused! That’s the stuff we admire in you Laura! Enjoy your bath, tea and cookies along with the peace of mind this decision brings.

Agree with all the shout-outs and gratitude to @TealPoet who is also an inspiration with her spirit, fortitude and generosity.

TealPoet · 01/11/2024 14:19

Do have more cookies for sure! Eat one for me since I can’t <3

You have been so strong and fought so hard. No one can rightly say anything else. Now we can have happy discussions about your book, courses to take, just nice things!

ChoccieCornflake · 01/11/2024 14:17

AdmittowearingCrocs · 01/11/2024 14:15

I am in tears reading this, knowing you will be there until housed. Knowing you are safe, warm and comfortable with facilities that enhance your stay such as being able to take a bath and make a cup of tea has made my week.
Now enjoy the peace and quiet and let the stress disappear. Hopefully you will be able to eat, sleep and begin healing.
You did this Laura, we just supported you but you had the courage and will to make phone calls and send emails. I am in awe of you 💐🍪

^ THIS!! ^

That you are there not just for today or this week but until you have a home is the best news, the very best!

And you should totally be PROUD! PROUD with bells on!!!!!!

Imbluedalale · 01/11/2024 14:16

RaspberryBeretxx · 01/11/2024 13:54

Oh, that's so so wonderful, Laura! I knew there had to be an update when I saw 35 unread posts on here!! Just brilliant news 😁.

Huge well done for ringing the MPs office, I totally get that all these phone calls are horribly nerve wracking. I hate phone calls at the best of times so really feel for you, I do anything to avoid making a phone call! But I do know it's really the best way to get people on to things though and be that squeaky wheel. You've been so so brave.

Bless the cleaner for checking on you.

When you've had a chance to calm down, can you either nip to subway or ask the member of staff to get you something to eat?

The yellow leggy robovac does sound terrifying!!

It really is amazing news RaspberryBeretxx,
I’m so so thankful for everybody’s help I couldn’t have done this without you.
My mum and dad always say I’m not strong enough and I’m not fighting hard enough but I can now truthfully say they are wrong!
I will definitely get something to eat this afternoon , I might celebrate and have 3 more cookies 😂xx

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AdmittowearingCrocs · 01/11/2024 14:15

Imbluedalale · 01/11/2024 14:01

Thank you AdmittowearingCrocs,
And thank you so much for giving me details of the contacts . I’m truly thankful.
I asked them what will happen next Friday as they can only book for 7day periods and they said they will just keep re-booking until in housed.
You know what I am proud! For the first time in my life I feel proud . But it was from the strength, support, hope and courage you all gave me that’s what helped me .
Im going to have a bath to celebrate 🙌 xx

I am in tears reading this, knowing you will be there until housed. Knowing you are safe, warm and comfortable with facilities that enhance your stay such as being able to take a bath and make a cup of tea has made my week.
Now enjoy the peace and quiet and let the stress disappear. Hopefully you will be able to eat, sleep and begin healing.
You did this Laura, we just supported you but you had the courage and will to make phone calls and send emails. I am in awe of you 💐🍪

TealPoet · 01/11/2024 14:15

Phew, just catching up and I am SO relieved and happy! There has been very little I could do from here - I firmly believe lots of prayer is the secret, not me! Even the robovac will look like more of a friend now.

Apolloneuro · 01/11/2024 14:14

Blimming fantastic news.

Imbluedalale · 01/11/2024 14:07

PeggyMitchellsCameo · 01/11/2024 13:51

I will put the trouser press back now ✔️✔️✔️✔️
This is fantastic news for now. Everything is definitely moving in the right direction.
And much applause to the PP who started this off by booking the room. What a superstar you are!

Ha ha it’s a shame we didn’t get to see it being used though.
She really is a superstar , I’ve never known kindness like it xx

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Imbluedalale · 01/11/2024 14:06

Munchyseeds2 · 01/11/2024 13:48

Laura that is the best news ever!!
It's made my day ❤xx

Isn’t it just Munchyseeds2
I can’t believe it .
Wish I could give you a big cuddle right now to say thank you xx

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Imbluedalale · 01/11/2024 14:05

Ruralretreating · 01/11/2024 13:48

Hurrah! Sensible from council (at last!). Am so happy for you that you don’t need to stress about where to go tomorrow.

Make sure you email Dawn at MPs office to let her know outcome and more importantly thank her and Sally the MP for their help. That will be really appreciated I know. Written thank yous are great because they can be referred to later on as evidence of the value of that role/person. Same for your support worker

Thank you Ruralretreating.
Im so so pleased with the news .
I can now concentrate on getting a home and getting my children back.
I will definitely email Dawn and thank her and Sally and my support worker and mental health team and cancer team . And all of you I can’t email you but THANKYOU xxxxxxx

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workingholiday · 01/11/2024 14:04

This has made my day. Well done to you Laura and all the wonderful people who have helped you.

Imbluedalale · 01/11/2024 14:03

Nottogetapenny · 01/11/2024 13:46

You should be so proud of yourself, you did it! Hope that it will make you feel less stressed and hopefully make you feel a lot better. Have a good weekend and try to eat something to build your strength up. 🌸😘

I am thank you so much Nottogetapenny.
Im shaking with shock I can’t believe it .
I want to give you all the biggest hug right now xx

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