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Imbluedalale · 17/10/2024 23:39

That’s just it really. I really need a cuddle but that’s not possible so can anybody just support me right now? My mental health is on the floor right now I’ve never felt as low it’s making me feel so ill

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Imbluedalale · 30/10/2024 19:57

Thank you ChoccieCornflake,
I’ve just had a nice bath and put a vitamin c face mask ok whilst I was layed in there so all fresh now. I’m back to resorting to washing my knickers in the sink again . Oh the joys .
This hotel is actually really lovely and quiet and you can hear all different types of birds on the morning flying over the lake .
lol 😂 I really wanna try your choccie cornflake cake now xx

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Ruralretreating · 30/10/2024 19:34

Have just been having a look at what council are supposed to do such as assessment of need, and a plan for securing housing. I’m no expert but I suspect they are not following the right steps. Shelter would be able to help. Do give them a call. england.shelter.org.uk/get_help

Ruralretreating · 30/10/2024 19:21

You are being incredibly strong @Imbluedalale . Keep believing in yourself and your spoon as we all do. I would suggest:

  • follow up tomorrow with the MPs assistant to ask if she got anywhere with St Leger homes
  • contact Phoenix as per MP suggestion if not done already
  • email Chief Exec of council as per great suggestion of PP
  • Have you tried any other charities such as Shelter or Women’s Aid?
  • Drink tea, eat whatever you can manage
It really is shocking that you are having to fend for yourself on this and find the strength to do it, rather than receiving the care and support that should be provided. I am outraged. But trying all avenues is worth it to get somewhere safe and suitable
Nottogetapenny · 30/10/2024 18:58

If you fall, we will pick you up.🌸 Like you said earlier, each day that passes is a day closer to seeing and getting your children back.
Hopefully tomorrow is a better day, for you A day that someone from the council will understand the importance of putting things in place and doing what they should have done, in the first place. 🌸😘

ChoccieCornflake · 30/10/2024 18:46

Massive hugs! As Apolloneuro said, it feels like you are fighting a massive battle because you are! And doing it very well too!!

If it helps everyone with the cornflake cake cravings, I made them once and they were dreadful! No idea how it's possible to mess up a cornflake cake, but trust me, I did! You really don't want any cornflake cakes associated with me! 😀

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Imbluedalale · 30/10/2024 18:23

Apolloneuro · 30/10/2024 18:16

Does anyone else want a chocolate cornflake cake every time @ChoccieCornflake posts? 😂

I’m so glad you said that Apolloneuro.
I have been craving one every since @ChoccieCornflake posts xx

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Apolloneuro · 30/10/2024 18:22

Right now, you’re safe xxx

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Imbluedalale · 30/10/2024 18:20

Apolloneuro · 30/10/2024 18:13

Don’t panic about that. That gives you tomorrow to email the Chief Executive, copying in your MP. Do that first thing in the morning.

For now bath and bed. Please try to eat a little something. It might settle your stomach. Watch Corrie in bed. Xxx

Ok I’ll try not to panic too much but I am and I can’t help it .
Right I’ll do a draft email tonight and send it in the morning and copy in the MP.
I will have a bath and try and eat something from the vending machine .
Thank you xx

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Imbluedalale · 30/10/2024 18:17

Munchyseeds2 · 30/10/2024 18:01

Have a bath, put your pj's on, get into bed and comfy and watch some TV or listen to music, you must be exhausted xx

Tomorrow is another day my lovely

Thank you Munchyseeds2,
I could cry with how lovely you have all been . I felt so many times since yesterday that I’m falling and all of you have helped prop me back up each and every time . I have told myself multiple times today ‘I can’t do this , I can’t do it’ and then I read one of your posts and it gives me strength until I fall again.
Thank you , words cannot express how thankful I am xx

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Apolloneuro · 30/10/2024 18:16

Does anyone else want a chocolate cornflake cake every time @ChoccieCornflake posts? 😂

Apolloneuro · 30/10/2024 18:15

Imbluedalale · 30/10/2024 18:14

Thank you so much ChoccieCornflake,
That truly means everything you saying that .
I’m going to run a bath and have a cup of tea. Just feel like I’m fighting a never ending battle every single day at the minute xx

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You feel like that because you are. It won’t be for ever and you are doing so well.

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Imbluedalale · 30/10/2024 18:14

ChoccieCornflake · 30/10/2024 17:59

You are going forwards, step by painful step, and please trust me you are awesome!

As to what kind of mum - the best kind, ie the kind that is trying her hardest to get well for them, and in the meantime has ensured they are safe and cared for, even thought that means she misses them hugely. You are a good mum, dealing with an awful situation, but a good mum nonetheless.

You have a lot of people fighting in your corner my friend, and the council know that, judging by their replies. I think between the police and MPs and everyone else, they will have to provide something better for you.

Have that bath and then have more tea!

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Thank you so much ChoccieCornflake,
That truly means everything you saying that .
I’m going to run a bath and have a cup of tea. Just feel like I’m fighting a never ending battle every single day at the minute xx

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Apolloneuro · 30/10/2024 18:13

Don’t panic about that. That gives you tomorrow to email the Chief Executive, copying in your MP. Do that first thing in the morning.

For now bath and bed. Please try to eat a little something. It might settle your stomach. Watch Corrie in bed. Xxx

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Imbluedalale · 30/10/2024 18:12

BUT… they would have had no available accommodation for me tonight anyway

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Imbluedalale · 30/10/2024 18:09

WOW!
So the manager at the council has emailed my support worker to say that they have been told I’m staying at the premier inn until Saturday so they will look at it again on Friday and see if there is any accommodation available. I could honestly scream!

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Munchyseeds2 · 30/10/2024 18:01

Have a bath, put your pj's on, get into bed and comfy and watch some TV or listen to music, you must be exhausted xx

Tomorrow is another day my lovely

ChoccieCornflake · 30/10/2024 17:59

Imbluedalale · 30/10/2024 17:49

Thank you ChoccieCornflake,
I feel far from awesome I feel truly lost and worthless and not knowing wot direction I’m going right now . I don’t even know when I’ll see my children again. What kind of mum says that?
I feel terrified for the future and I feel terrified that my survival is based on the councils decision on where they put me when they have shown me nothing but disregard and lack of compassion and understanding. I’m terrified xx

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You are going forwards, step by painful step, and please trust me you are awesome!

As to what kind of mum - the best kind, ie the kind that is trying her hardest to get well for them, and in the meantime has ensured they are safe and cared for, even thought that means she misses them hugely. You are a good mum, dealing with an awful situation, but a good mum nonetheless.

You have a lot of people fighting in your corner my friend, and the council know that, judging by their replies. I think between the police and MPs and everyone else, they will have to provide something better for you.

Have that bath and then have more tea!

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Imbluedalale · 30/10/2024 17:50

AdmittowearingCrocs · 30/10/2024 17:40

The ones at the top don’t always know what the ones at the bottom are doing.
Copy your MP into the email too so he knows they are aware. Things might get moving then.
Tell him if you don’t get a satisfactory placement whilst waiting for a permanent home will go to the housing ombudsman! Good luck 🌞

[email protected]

https://www.housing-ombudsman.org.uk/contact-us/

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Thank you so much AdmittowearingCrocs.
That is so kind getting them details for me. I am very thankful xx

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Imbluedalale · 30/10/2024 17:49

ChoccieCornflake · 30/10/2024 17:40

You are awesome, and again I am lost for words at your awesomeness and fortitude. You have been dealt a dreadful hand, and you have not deserved any of that dreadfulness. What you have deserved is all the good stuff - the good things that happen to you, and that people do. Never ever forget that even in the shittest of shit times, you brighten the world for the people around you who care about you, and that is a rare rare gift.

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Thank you ChoccieCornflake,
I feel far from awesome I feel truly lost and worthless and not knowing wot direction I’m going right now . I don’t even know when I’ll see my children again. What kind of mum says that?
I feel terrified for the future and I feel terrified that my survival is based on the councils decision on where they put me when they have shown me nothing but disregard and lack of compassion and understanding. I’m terrified xx

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Imbluedalale · 30/10/2024 17:40

Munchyseeds2 · 30/10/2024 17:37

Have you had something to eat and drink lovely?
Are you able to use the shower?....might help you to feel a bit better xx

I’ve had a cup of tea thank you Munchyseeds2,
I’m still being sick unfortunately so I can’t stomach anything , feel like my tummy is in absolute knots.
I have a shower and a bath it’s got rails on it so I think I might run a bath soon to see if it makes me feel better xx

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AdmittowearingCrocs · 30/10/2024 17:40

Imbluedalale · 30/10/2024 17:27

Wow thank you so much AdmittowearingCrocs.
I will email him and tell him everything .
Im just hoping and praying somebody out there in the council can help me xx

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The ones at the top don’t always know what the ones at the bottom are doing.
Copy your MP into the email too so he knows they are aware. Things might get moving then.
Tell him if you don’t get a satisfactory placement whilst waiting for a permanent home will go to the housing ombudsman! Good luck 🌞

[email protected]

https://www.housing-ombudsman.org.uk/contact-us/

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ChoccieCornflake · 30/10/2024 17:40

Imbluedalale · 30/10/2024 17:34

Thank you ChoccieCornflake,
I honestly don’t know what I’ve done to deserve this . It’s heartbreaking.
I might not have my family and I might not have a home but what you lose you gain and I’ve gained a whole army of selfless wonderful amazing people and I’ll forever be grateful xx

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You are awesome, and again I am lost for words at your awesomeness and fortitude. You have been dealt a dreadful hand, and you have not deserved any of that dreadfulness. What you have deserved is all the good stuff - the good things that happen to you, and that people do. Never ever forget that even in the shittest of shit times, you brighten the world for the people around you who care about you, and that is a rare rare gift.

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Imbluedalale · 30/10/2024 17:38

Apolloneuro · 30/10/2024 17:35

I think the ladies on this thread should be running the bloody country!

Tuck yourself up in bed darling and try to get some sleep. Nothing more to be done today x

They definitely should be running the country!
I wish I could give each and every one of you a huge hug xx

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Munchyseeds2 · 30/10/2024 17:37

Have you had something to eat and drink lovely?
Are you able to use the shower?....might help you to feel a bit better xx

Apolloneuro · 30/10/2024 17:35

I think the ladies on this thread should be running the bloody country!

Tuck yourself up in bed darling and try to get some sleep. Nothing more to be done today x