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Psychiatrist asked me to leave the room for 10 Minutes to talk to Dd

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Nomoreicecreamnow · 17/10/2024 22:33

Dd is 6 and over the summer developed anger and ocd after being ill. I’ve taken her to numerous Drs and they advised a child psychiatrist. I took her to a really nice lady and we had a very thorough two hour appointment. Towards the end, she asked if I minded stepping into the waiting room for her to chat to her alone, I felt a bit strange about it, but did it.
I’m just curious if this is normal procedure and what she would have asked Dd, I haven’t asked Dd as don’t want her stressed out
Dr and Dd seemed fine when I came back in and carried on as usual.

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Lougle · 17/10/2024 22:44

You can say no. DD2 (17) has a psychiatrist and he always asks to speak to her alone. She always shakes her head and I have to say "DD2 isn't comfortable with that". Every time, he comes up with a different way of slipping it into the introductions, and every time DD2 refuses.

It's his job to ask, and it's my job to respect DD2's wishes and refuse.

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Nomoreicecreamnow · 17/10/2024 22:43

@Twentybottlesofbeer I was fine with it, just wanted to check it was normal practice

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Nomoreicecreamnow · 17/10/2024 22:43

@BMW6 No, sorry, I mean if the psychiatrist had been a man? Would you want to leave them
alone in the room for 10 minutes? Or is that just over paranoid

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Twentybottlesofbeer · 17/10/2024 22:42

We took DS to a psychiatrist for anxiety and school refusal aged 8. (ins company wouldn't pay for counselling without it). He spoke to DS alone too. We were fine with it. It informed his report.

shivermetimbers77 · 17/10/2024 22:42

Very normal in my experience.

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Nomoreicecreamnow · 17/10/2024 22:41

@NeverDropYourMooncup What do they ask? So curious but don’t want to ask Dd
Never been through this before, I was surprised I suppose

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quarterofanonion · 17/10/2024 22:41

Please look into PANS PANDAS and consider posting in the PP UK charity Facebook support group

BMW6 · 17/10/2024 22:41

Nomoreicecreamnow · 17/10/2024 22:40

@BabyCloud Yes I was a bit taken aback, not being sexist, but her being young and kind I felt ok ish, but if it had been a male, would they ask the same? I wouldn’t have felt comfortable and would have said no

Of course you'd have been asked the same if you were male - in fact surely particularly!

Just realised you're talking of the psychiatrist being male? Either way of course your DD needs to be given an opportunity to speak without you present, or her Dad.

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Nomoreicecreamnow · 17/10/2024 22:40

@KrisAkabusi Yes I thought that as I was in the waiting room, just felt awkward

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Nomoreicecreamnow · 17/10/2024 22:40

@BabyCloud Yes I was a bit taken aback, not being sexist, but her being young and kind I felt ok ish, but if it had been a male, would they ask the same? I wouldn’t have felt comfortable and would have said no

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KrisAkabusi · 17/10/2024 22:39

They need to find out if you're the problem. Your daughter may be intimidated or worried about saying anything bad about you, in front of you.

BabyCloud · 17/10/2024 22:38

I wouldn’t have felt comfortable. 6 is so young. I can’t imagine a doctor would ever ask you to leave the room so why should a physiatrist be any different.

NeverDropYourMooncup · 17/10/2024 22:38

Seems reasonable that they'd want to ask safeguarding questions without you there.

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Nomoreicecreamnow · 17/10/2024 22:37

@BitOutOfPractice At 6 though?

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Nomoreicecreamnow · 17/10/2024 22:36

@Guavafish1 No, just them

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Guavafish1 · 17/10/2024 22:36

should be a chaperone too

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Nomoreicecreamnow · 17/10/2024 22:36

@BitOutOfPractice No, not the uk

Why is it odd?

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BitOutOfPractice · 17/10/2024 22:35

Of course it’s normal. Your dd is the patient. Though I have to say the whole thing is very odd. Are you in the uk?