Visitors after giving birth

First week after my section was pants only week (it was a heat wave to be fair). If you could handle me in my post-surgery pants and leaky breast bra then by all means drop by, if not then week 2 it is for you. No one complained because they cared about mine and the baby’s wellbeing and were kind enough to give us time to bond and settle rather than making my giving birth to our child all about them. We started seeing more family from week 2 and it was lovely and I felt like I had more to give. Also DD was still only 2 wks old, it’s not like they missed major milestones!

Is that how you operate your life? If you're comfortable whipping your breasts out to bf in front of your own mum then it's only fair for FIL to have a gawp too right? Don't want to offend the in-laws.

Im also pregnant with DC2, and plan on giving time slots to our immediate family. So I'll text my family when we get home and say "call between 2 and 3" and text my partners family and say "call between half 3 and half 4". This is what we did the last time and it worked well, everyone did adhere to it. We weren't strict on it or anal about it but just knew our immediate family would be anxious to see the new baby.

Ah they will be excited. I think the idea of them coming to the hospital is a good one if you don’t want them at home. I had 4 sections and actually liked having visitors because it broke the day up a bit. My MIL was housebound though so we always visited her on day 2.
Are they looking after your dd when you are in hospital?

Mummy and baby come first
If he wants to do the hosting maybe they can pop round for an hour while you have a nap upstairs ?
Or maybe they can get the shopping in for your or mop the floor or bring a takeaway over to help?

Think the hospital idea sounds good. As the nurses should chuck them out after a short time .

Do you have family? Will the same rule apply to them?

Probably not a popular view on here, but I think it's mean not to let the grandparents meet the baby asap. It's a special time for everyone and cutting people out just creates ill will. Obviously I'm not referring to abusive people but normal family relationships, which can have their ups and downs.

Letting them come to the hospital is a good way of letting them meet the baby but keeping the visit short.

If he won't prioritise your needs when you've just had a baby and gone through major surgery then when will he? He sounds pretty selfish really.

Cool. Will your husband be the host with the most, the next time he has a c section?! Bet he won’t be! So he needs to not be rude and accept during your recovery you might not want to putting on a full face of make up and making everyone’s drinks

For the record after my c section l wore pyjamas for the first week or so. C section site hurt plus could barely walk -legs were very swollen and stairs were hard. So didn’t do any hosting. People popped round briefly but that was it

Who’s having DD when you have your new baby?

If they do come, feel free to take the baby up to your room to "breastfeed" (and nap) after an hour.

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Why not invite them to visit in hospital? Get it over with then(short visiting hours!) it will be more acceptable to keep them away once you get home. Dh needs a swift kick in the nuts to remind him you won't feel comfortable sat around entertaining...

Is it worth having them visit once ahile you’re in hospital and you can make it easier to get them to leave? Your DH is being an arse calling you a toddler.

It seems a bit all or nothing and I think it’s a shame not to share the excitement. Can your husband not be VERY firm and clear about short visits only.