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Fed up of women having to do it all

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indecisivewoman81 · 17/10/2024 18:35

Need a rant.

I'm so fed up of having to not only work full time but do all the school drop offs and pick ups, make all the meals in the house, do all the washing, take the kids to clubs, do the food shop and my DH just looks after himself.

He gets up, showers and goes to work...

If I die I want to come back as a privileged man!

I am exhausted from trying to do everything. I literally feel like I run from one chore to the next whilst trying to hold down a full time job in management.

Just lost my shit and we've had a massive row.

Apparently he works hard!

I said to him if I died what would you do? He said "well I'd have to do it"

And there ladies and gentlemen is it in a nutshell.

He doesn't feel he has to.

Fuck me I'm raging!!

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LoopyLooooo · 17/10/2024 18:43

And yet, you're giving him a free pass by bringing 'women' into it.

Women don't have to do it all.

It's all about boundaries. I refused to do it all in my first marriage so I divorced.

I re-married 3.5 years later and I absolutely don't do it all. I've been in my second marriage for over 23 years and we absolutely work as a team.

265IceCream · 17/10/2024 18:43

Sorry but this is just your DH. I sympathise as my exH was the same. I left him and found a better man. They do exist.

When i left exH, I swore I would only settle for a man who improves and adds positive things to my life, not one who drags me down and thinks my vagina better qualifies me to do EVERYTHING.

Simbaonedaythiswillallbeyours · 17/10/2024 18:41

This is why I am happier as a single parent.

Precipice · 17/10/2024 18:41

You don't have to do it all.

What is he adding to your life? You're basically living life as a single mother, only with him additionally adding to the burden, and with this dynamic being presented to your kids as normal.

JustTalkToThem · 17/10/2024 18:39

original response too snarky so removing it…

but yes, your husband sounds like a shit.