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Rare few hours with husband at a spa... he hasn't asked me a single question

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SHAW82 · 17/10/2024 12:02

At a spa with my husband for a v v v rare few hours together without the kids. He's not asked me one question or shown any interest or curiosity. I have asked him questions and he's talked about himself. How does he expect us to connect?

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Maria1979 · 17/10/2024 12:18

Maybe he thought you were annoying for talking when he just wanted some togetherness in silence at the spa?

Detchi · 17/10/2024 12:16

I get it, but maybe he thinks that going to the spa IS the spending quality time together.

Foxblue · 17/10/2024 12:13

I'm guessing this might not be a difference in spa etiquette and you might be having a bit of a moment where you realise that this has happened your entire relationship...

TheYearOfSmallThings · 17/10/2024 12:10

I don't want to be interviewed at a spa, personally.

LunaMay · 17/10/2024 12:09

If you wanted to chat why didnt you go out for a meal or something? I would want to relax and switch off at a spa

Icanttakethisanymore · 17/10/2024 12:06

I am not sure I would expect questions... possibly just chat. I am now desperately trying to think about whether me and my DP ask each other many questions 🤔 We spend a lot of time together though as I WFH most days and he is a SAHD and we are parenting small children. Do you lead quite physically separate lives where there are lots of things he might not know about?

Seagall · 17/10/2024 12:06

Doesn't he know everything about you anyway? Dh and I would be chilling.

Maybe if you get off your phone you'll have a chance to connect?

SweetSakura · 17/10/2024 12:05

Maybe he wanted to go and just switch off and not chat?
I love DH but sometimes his endless chat makes me want to scream. In fact his need to chat at the spa has put me off going

MrsSkylerWhite · 17/10/2024 12:05

My husband would hate a spa (as would I). Did he want to go?

Grepes · 17/10/2024 12:05

I thought that was the point of a spa? I’d be pretty frustrated if I was trying to relax and my husband kept boarding me with questions!

Needmorelego · 17/10/2024 12:04

I assume he's relaxing.
Isn't that what spas are for?

ChaoticCrumble · 17/10/2024 12:04

I think I'd have to sarcastically say. "Oh as for me, I'm fine, yes, thanks." But only if it wouldn't cause an argument. Sometimes people need a prompt.

But it's a shame. My husband can be a bit like this. He does generally ask how I am but if I was to tell him about something that was bothering me on a Monday, he'd show interest at the time but never follow up days later. If he knew I had a personal goal, he'd be interested in the moment of talking, but not ask again.

Sigh.

Icanttakethisanymore · 17/10/2024 12:04

Birdscratch · 17/10/2024 12:04

I’d just be glad of the quiet. I am divorced though …

😂

AlleeBee · 17/10/2024 12:04

How has he responded to the questions you've asked him?

Birdscratch · 17/10/2024 12:04

I’d just be glad of the quiet. I am divorced though …