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To think the haste that some posters show to create a thread regarding the death of a celebrity is distasteful?

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Seventeenth17 · 17/10/2024 11:12

Some are in such a rush to be The One that announces the passing they can't even form a full sentence as the title.

It's a poor show.

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BillStickersWillBeProsocuted · 18/10/2024 08:23

LikeWhoUsesTypewritersAnyway · 17/10/2024 19:49

Oh get a grip FFS! It's a huge news story. People are going to report things about it, and interview people who knew him. Catch yourself on. Ludicrous overreaction! 🙄

Reporting the news is one thing - but the way the media is constantly clamouring to try to find something "new" to report is awful.

I saw one this morning "BRAKING NEWS - Liam Paynes cause of death confirmed"
There was never any doubt about the cause of death, but the fact it's been made offical is an excuse for them to put up another head line making it sound like they have something new and bait more clicks

XenoBitch · 17/10/2024 22:49

I see what you mean. Sometimes it comes across as a competition as to who can mourn the most.
TBH, I had no idea who this chap was and had to look him up.
What is ghoulish is all the speculation about his death. An inquest will sort that out.

Heatherjayne1972 · 17/10/2024 22:42

You’re not wrong

personally I find the ‘jokes’ worse. I’ve seen several ‘humerous’ jokes/ memes this evening
disgraceful

LikeWhoUsesTypewritersAnyway · 17/10/2024 22:31

Whenwillitgetwarm · 17/10/2024 21:26

I think this is an unnecessarily nasty comment. The mode of death doesn’t change the outcome. He lost his life and his family and friends have lost a loved one. Unless he purposely killed himself, he didn’t want to die. People do silly reckless things everyday, doesn’t mean they deserve to die. And nothing changes just because they’ve been on the telly.

Exactly. Vile comment from @QueenBitch666 Definitely has an apt name!

EgyptionJackal · 17/10/2024 22:17

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Whenwillitgetwarm · 17/10/2024 21:26

QueenBitch666 · 17/10/2024 16:12

Does anyone actually care about drug and alcohol fuelled sleb deaths? Fake competitive mourning. It's all a bit cringe

I think this is an unnecessarily nasty comment. The mode of death doesn’t change the outcome. He lost his life and his family and friends have lost a loved one. Unless he purposely killed himself, he didn’t want to die. People do silly reckless things everyday, doesn’t mean they deserve to die. And nothing changes just because they’ve been on the telly.

Whenwillitgetwarm · 17/10/2024 21:18

Heard about someone being woken up last night by a friend sending them a video of themselves crying. WTF?!!

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 17/10/2024 21:14

I hardly ever know who it is that they’re talking about.
Dame Maggie Smith being the notable recent exception.
Oh, and Alex Salmond.

ilovesooty · 17/10/2024 20:22

WillowTit · 17/10/2024 19:48

people want to share the news
they need to talk

Or want to speculate and gossip.

Cornercandy · 17/10/2024 20:17

Has anyone been on the website death list? It’s a list of 50 celebrities and well known figures such as politicians. A group of people decide who goes on it. For many years Prince Philip was the number one on the list. Most of the people listed are in their 90s and early 100s

ahemfem · 17/10/2024 20:14

I much prefer the measured and thought out tributes

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LikeWhoUsesTypewritersAnyway · 17/10/2024 20:05

westisbest1982 · 17/10/2024 19:58

You really are reaching, aren’t you? How the fuck would you know that the OP wants to be the first to post about something like this? Are you and others who’ve agreed with you mindreaders? No, thought not. But I guess it helps you make your strange point on your mumsnetty high horse and feel better.

Yeah this in spades. ^ As I said - batshit thread!

westisbest1982 · 17/10/2024 19:58

You really are reaching, aren’t you? How the fuck would you know that the OP wants to be the first to post about something like this? Are you and others who’ve agreed with you mindreaders? No, thought not. But I guess it helps you make your strange point on your mumsnetty high horse and feel better.

BobbyBiscuits · 17/10/2024 19:54

I don't mind someone reporting it on here. I saw it here before other media, in the case of Liam. If that's the most recent example. Then obviously immediately checked it was legit.
These celebrities mean a lot to many people, and if someone was young then it's shocking. So I don't blame someone for making a post about it.

IntoTheOcean · 17/10/2024 19:52

LikeWhoUsesTypewritersAnyway · 17/10/2024 19:49

Oh get a grip FFS! It's a huge news story. People are going to report things about it, and interview people who knew him. Catch yourself on. Ludicrous overreaction! 🙄

I don’t think it is an overreaction. It’s awful. I find it sickening.

You don’t agree. Ok then.

LikeWhoUsesTypewritersAnyway · 17/10/2024 19:50

WillowTit · 17/10/2024 19:48

people want to share the news
they need to talk

THIS! ^

This thread is batshit! 😖

WillowTit · 17/10/2024 19:50

there were quite a few RIP threads for Maggie Smith
was that wrong?

LikeWhoUsesTypewritersAnyway · 17/10/2024 19:49

IntoTheOcean · 17/10/2024 19:47

ITV news just had a dreadfully poor taste piece with a smiley journalist interviewing one of his old teachers, who was gaily sharing photos and memories of him. Desperately trying to find some ‘exclusive’ about him to fill the news because actually his body is barely cold and the police haven’t concluded their investigations.
and there isn’t anything to say at this point other than he died and it’s tragic.

He died 24 hours ago.

Fucking disgraceful.

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Oh get a grip FFS! It's a huge news story. People are going to report things about it, and interview people who knew him. Catch yourself on. Ludicrous overreaction! 🙄

WillowTit · 17/10/2024 19:48

people want to share the news
they need to talk

LikeWhoUsesTypewritersAnyway · 17/10/2024 19:48

MissRoseDurward · Today 19:22

Why has anyone 'got' to start a thread? It's not compulsory.

Because they WANT to!

Because it's news. It's public knowledge and some people want to hear about it. If you and a few other clearly precious and fragile people don't wish to hear about it, that's too bad.

Maybe you (and the others agreeing with the OP) should steer clear of internet message forums, (and maybe the internet altogether,) seeing as you clearly can't cope with people posting certain things 'too soon!' 🙄

You do not have the right to police what people post, or how 'quickly' they post it when they find out a certain piece of news. As I said, if it bothers you SO much, just hide the thread as soon as you see it FGS!

IntoTheOcean · 17/10/2024 19:47

ITV news just had a dreadfully poor taste piece with a smiley journalist interviewing one of his old teachers, who was gaily sharing photos and memories of him. Desperately trying to find some ‘exclusive’ about him to fill the news because actually his body is barely cold and the police haven’t concluded their investigations.
and there isn’t anything to say at this point other than he died and it’s tragic.

He died 24 hours ago.

Fucking disgraceful.

tigger1001 · 17/10/2024 19:30

Once it hits the news sites then I suppose it's fair game.

But social media generally is the devils work in these situations. No thought given to the families had the news before it was all over social media last night. People forget there is a real human who has died white real family members who are grieving.

The thought of someone close to the deceased seeing it on social media, simply because people are in a hurry to break it (not talking specifically about Mumsnet) rather than being told officially is just beyond awful.

Yes it might be a celebrity to us but they are first and foremost a human.

MissRoseDurward · 17/10/2024 19:22

Someone's got to start the thread.

Why? Why has anyone 'got' to start a thread? It's not compulsory.

It's equally annoying when the BBC says 'tributes are pouring in' (pouring in to where?) and then proceeds to quote what a lot of minor celebs have posted on X. Cheap and lazy journalism by the BBC, and attention seeking from most of the people posting on X. If you were really close to the person who died, rushing to post on sm isn't going to be your first thought.

LikeWhoUsesTypewritersAnyway · 17/10/2024 19:11

Seventeenth17 · 17/10/2024 11:12

Some are in such a rush to be The One that announces the passing they can't even form a full sentence as the title.

It's a poor show.

YABU. It's news. It's public information. Someone's got to start the thread. Whether it's 5 seconds after it's announced on TV or the internet, or 5 minutes after, or half an hour after, what does it matter? What should be the required time in your humble opinion? 🙄

What is the etiquette according to @Seventeenth17 on starting a thread about a celebrity who has died...?! How long should one wait...........?

If you are aggrieved and butthurt that someone has started a thread about a celebrity who has just died because (in your opinion) it's 'too soon' to post it, then hide the thread. No-one's forcing you to open the thread, and read it.