Wedding photos

There is real life and then there is social media. It is reasonable for your children to be in photographs which will be owned by their relatives, AND not want those same photographs of your children being shared on social media.

Choose other photos to put on Facebook, this is easily solved.

YABU I’m sure there are plenty of photos without the niece. Him paying for the photos is irrelevant.

I think there must be plenty of pictures for your brother to upload without the children in.
I also think if she feels that strongly about her children being in photos online she shouldn't have allowed them to be in so many. Contacting other guests afterwards isn't appropriate.

No because they won’t be able to order them… they can’t choose to buy them from the website.

Let me get this right - she actively encouraged the children to be in photos, even group photos? but now wants to ban any of those people in those groups from sharing them photos?

If she wanted that level of control, why the hell did she allow them to be in those photos in the first place?

If photos were taken outside the church it’s a public place and the parent has no say. I assume it’s a private link to a secure page and the photographer can remove after? Parent is being precious. If someone in the wedding party buys a group photo, what’s to stop them sharing online? Or general photos guests took of the day.

I think your brother is allowed to be a bit pissed off. His wedding is a huge deal to them and he understandably wants to share the expensive photos with friends. I also personally feel that this kind of response ( in ordinary circumstances- no adopted kids etc) is a bit ott with pics of fully clothed kids in family groups. But that’s her prerogative.
BUT I would have thought there must still be plenty of good pictures of him and his bride that do not contain the children that he can use for social media.
The important people will get to see the photos in person won’t they??

Easy, the faces can be blurred

If my sister requested no photo of her DC online, I’d respect that and ensure I don’t post pictures of sisters DC or blur their faces out.

She doesn't mind her kid being in family wedding photos, she just doesn't want them shared to strangers on the internet where they will stay forever, and she's been clear about this since they were born. So what exactly are you struggling with here? YABU

She should have reminded him on the day so they could have had pictures without these kids.

So you think someone else gets to override a parents reasonable request just because they paid for a fancy photographer?

Realistically he's probably got hundreds of photos I'm sure it's honestly no hardship not to share the ones containing his nieces.

I agree with the sister. I wouldn’t want them online either. Presumably there are plenty of other photos without them on.

People have a right to decide whether their or their children's photos are shared.

There's allsorts of reasons people might not want photos online.

What if she's had a stalker/abuser or something in the past and she's trying to avoid said person knowing what her kids look like. You wouldn't necessarily know about it.

it's really not necessary to have to share every single photo on social media.

No it's not but if someone wants to post pictures from their wedding they should be able to.

@Strawbsss get him to replace their faces with stickers

So you think his own nieces should be in any of the wedding pictures because she quite sensibly doesn't want images of her children online?

I think it's pretty shit personally that she had to remind people not to post photos if that's always been her stance. It's a wedding I suspect there were a huge selection of photos that didn't include the children that could be shared, it's really not necessary to have to share every single photo on social media.