Wedding photos

It depends. Is your sister normally easy-going and good to get along with...or is she given to wanting influence and control over proceedings?

I understand her stance because I don't put my kids out there either...but personally speaking, I wouldn't take issue with them being in a large group photo at a wedding.

That's why I ask.

By being in the wedding picture by implication you are consenting to it being shared or displayed in other locations, including online. Why did the mum allow them to be in a picture if she doesn’t want their image shared with anyone?

In a group photo of 200 people? Nope sorry that’s not the same as not wanting loads and loads of pics of just them on there. Literally every time you’re out in public you are probably in the background of someone’s pictures and end up on social media. Nobody will be looking at them or even notice them in the wedding pictures.

I agree.

It's very strange to me that people think the sisters viewpoint is not normal. It's a pretty standard thing to not want your children on social media.

You’re just a dick if you post a photo publicly online of anyone, adult or child, who doesn’t want it shared.

The sister’s behaviour is completely normal and rational, many parents don’t want their children shared online.

He still got married and had a nice day and those people still attended and had a lovely time. I'm assuming he's still happily married. So what's he moaning about? Not being able to show off on bloody Facebook??

Because he wants to post a group photo from his wedding?? You know, like a normal person. What is not normal is his sisters behaviour. If this is her stance then her kids can’t be in any pictures. She has no legal rights to her children’s image in any event

My photographer was brilliant he made sure everyone had a chance to get out the group photo if they didn't want it on the Internet and I had a couple of people who didn't want to be photographed so I just let him know. Your brother should have done that

What harm will befall the nieces if their photo is posted online (a photo where they are two out of 200 guests so nobody would be looking at them)? Will this stupid rule continue so that eg they can’t be in class photos because one of the parents might post a copy of it on their SM? It’s seriously ridiculous unless there’s a serial killer stalking them who will now be able to track them down.

Actually they do not. Once again a blatant misunderstanding of copyright and your rights.

As the sister does not own copyright to the photos she has zero say in what is done with them or where they are posted. Even if her sibling takes them down they will likely be posted elsewhere as photographers use photos as promotional tools.

The photographer holds full copyright and can rightly without permission post them anywhere he/she wants, use them for promotions, in advertisements, on Facebook, for competitions, in portfolios or anything else they choose.

The sister is not even the client so does not have the contract or any stance to complain of breaches. It is HER job to understand the laws of copyright but she cannot change them with a strop because she doesn't like them.

I'm not sure why you need to be in the middle. It's basically boiling down to the fact he thinks posting this photo on social media is more important than his nieces right to not be posted online. I'm genuinely surprised anyone thinks he's being reasonable to be honest.

It depends. If she has elbowed her way to the front of both of the photographs with the kids then I can see how that would be annoying, albeit not exactly unreasonable for her to not want her kids on facebook. If she is only in a few your brother can just take those few off facebook

He can share them 🙄. Just needs to be as a print copy or in real life. And of course she wanted her kids photographed.

Did you know people are now using ai to take the face of a completely clothed child and put them onto anything they want? So it's not ott in this day and age I'm afraid.

She sounds a bit precious to be honest. Should have made sure her kids weren't in the photos. Can't he share them on SM with those big smiley faces on her kids?

My kids aren't allowed in photos online. My husband and I don't post pictures of them at all. I think she should have told the photographer on the day so that could have staged photos with and without the kids. My family know not to post pictures of my kids.

She absolutely should have removed the children, however emojis isn't the end of the world for a photo on social media.

The sister should have removed the children from the photos before they were taken if she really feels this strongly about it.

I would be extremely pissed off too if I were your brother!

She shouldn't have let them get in photos if she feels so strongly about it. However what's the problem in just having them blurred out? Can't get my head around people who carry on like this over photos of their kids, but its really common on MN.