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DH bought me a dodgy hairdryer!! AIBU?

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GreenDuck1 · 16/10/2024 09:23

Money has been really tight the last few
months, with loads of big expenses coming up out of the blue. My birthday is coming up and DH said he knew what he wanted to get me but that it was over £100. I tried to discourage him but he was adamant it was something I really wanted and that he really wanted to get it for me. This morning I looked on the credit card statement and there was a payment for £160 to a company name that I had never heard of. The company on the statement was actually their website. I thought this must be my gift from DH, and didn’t want to ruin the surprise, but alarm bells were ringing that he had bought from some random company, so I googled the company name and trust pilot. Straight away I saw that it’s only got 3 reviews all written in the last 3 days.

At that point, I went onto the company website, and they’re basically flogging fake Dyson hairdryers for £160. There is free worldwide shipping but returns are at your own expense… to the states! There is no part of me that wants this hairdryer and I think it’s one of these insta influencer type scams!

I spoke to my husband and was upset that we now have thrown £160 away on some tat! I do need a new hairdryer, but with money so tight, I’m upset that he didn’t take basic precautions when shopping online!

He is saying I’m really ungrateful. I’ve tried to explain that I’m just disappointed because I actually could have got an amazing hairdryer for much less money and I’m concerned that we’ve basically just thrown £160 away at a time when we really don’t have that kind of money to spare.

DH is now really upset with me.

AIBU?

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ComtesseDeSpair · 16/10/2024 09:30

I’m sure many of us have been taken in at some time or another by something which seemed like a bargain and turned out to be fake, a scam, or too good to be true. I can name at least two where I should have known better but didn’t put my thinking head on. (One of them takes pride of place on the shelf above my home office desk, reminding me.)

It’s only money, you can make more of it, and £160 isn’t life-ruining in the grand scheme of things. If you aren’t earning and things are a bit miserable you probably haven’t had many treats in a while - and your husband is aware of that and wanted to give you one. Just pitch it that way in your head rather than turning it into an argument.

INeedAnotherName · 16/10/2024 09:29

Wow, so he's happy to buy an electrical item from a dodgy company which could end up electrocuting and killing you? Or bursting into flames and burning you or your house down? Because that is the reality of fake goods.

Get him to cancel the order. I'm assuming he will have to pay custom tax before it can enter the UK postal system too. Has he thought of that?

ATuinTheGreat · 16/10/2024 09:27

LauritaEvita · 16/10/2024 09:25

I’m not understanding the ‘we’. If it was your gift, surely it’s his money and so it’s up to him how responsible he is with online purchases or not.

Surely it’s not that difficult to understand? Many married couples have joint finances - it’s perfectly normal to consider all money as the family’s money.

GreenDuck1 · 16/10/2024 09:25

LauritaEvita · 16/10/2024 09:25

I’m not understanding the ‘we’. If it was your gift, surely it’s his money and so it’s up to him how responsible he is with online purchases or not.

We are currently on one income and our money is shared.

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LauritaEvita · 16/10/2024 09:25

I’m not understanding the ‘we’. If it was your gift, surely it’s his money and so it’s up to him how responsible he is with online purchases or not.

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