To take all our washing to the launderette once a week to escape the daily washing nightmare?

Can you up it to weekly and would she agree to be a 'lady who does', ie does all that and cleans and sorts the washing?

Some cleaners wont tidy I know.

I also tidy up for ours!!!

Can you look into getting tumble drier,will be much cheaper in the long run and when I used to use a launderette it ruined our clothes- fine for towels and bedding etc.

You poor thing!!!!!!! Put some fake mouse droppings around his room 🤣

Of course you can complain. Or just not clean them. Just because you aren't working doesn't mean that they should renege on behaving reasonably.

You didnt answer OP if you can get a cleaner/tidier upper, Im guessing not if money is tight

Its not abormal, not exactly the norm either but its not so extreme that people are making out here

Theres another thread running at the moment with someone who has run up a manageable (in my view) debt that she cant get off a high interest rate for

The advice on there is to get another job until its all paid down, work extra shifts somewhere (where?).

Same advice on another thread running about someone running out of money for food for the next 10 days, can OP get a part time job and work some shifts!

This is what some people have to do it, it might be only for a few years but people are doing this up and down the country, in other countries too.

I’d focus on the issues that are making it worse.

Remove privileges until laundry is put away.

Don’t leave laundry in a place where cats can get to it (we have 5 cats, 1 who is elderly and poos everywhere).

@booksunderthebed

I have PTSD from having to use launderettes

• Are you taking medication?

Especially if she’s from Thailand…

My dds 12 and 14 often out their clean clothes into the washing basket. Does my head in!!!

They and dh leave their dirty clothes on the bathroom floor.

But I don't work so I guess i can't complain.

Probably the others have no clue to operate the washer.

I learnt to use the washer aged 8 when my parents were bedbound with 'flu.

Why are you doing all the grunt work at home plus working 70 hours per week?!

Laundrette is an option but there are also companies that do service washes delivered to your home.

I worked 60-70 hours a week for around 2 years. I don't understand why some people are shocked. I did get sick more frequently and felt quite burnt out towards the end but it's surely not that abnormal.

Even on minimum wage, with 140h/ week between you, you should be bringing home over £5000 a month. I really can't see how that's not enough even when £2k+ on rent

I've used laundrettes in the past and think they're fab. However - like others have said - I think it will not solve the issues at home.

How old are your kids? I've had to nag mine to put helping with laundry and chores, but they do get on with it now. I think what helps us is that when a load comes out of the tumble drier (or off the line if the weather is ok), I make the kids join me with folding it and putting it away (if they're not at school). It has to get done straight away (house is small and I get pissed off if it isn't put away). We also have to tidy stuff away as the robovac needs to be able to roam!! Luckily our cats don't wee/shit outside their litterboxes!!

Edited to add...the kids once tried to pretend they'd put stuff away (but hadn't) and then I found a load of folded clothes in the laundry basket. I put those folded/unused clothes back in their rooms.

I wouldnt get everyone to do their own but get everyone together and say you arent a skivvy. The clothes are clean. Tell them to take THEIR washing and show some respect to you.

In the nicest possible way. Get your cat sorted. There is no way they should be doing what they are doing

I'd go for the launderette wash this week.

While there, contemplate your life.
70+ hours a week working is not normal or healthy, might be short term manageable for one partner. But both? WHY? What do any of you get out of this?

Task sharing in a household. Why is no one doing it? This is low level management stuff, are you as inefficient at work? What has gone wrong? You shouldn't be having to live like this.

Get a coffee and a nice snack and have a good think about how you would like your life to be and how to start getting there. You are not meant to break yourself.

No food or drink bar water in the bedroom ever. I stuck to that rule break that rule you lose your phone, remote controllers.

It's the sorting and putting away that takes all the time. Bunging into the washing machine and transferring to the dryer are jobs done while the kettle boils.

Poor you OP. It’s an idea, but if the only relief you get from the drudgery is a couple of hours in a laundrette a week, then I would seriously be taking a good hard look at your life. I don’t mean this in a judgemental way, more to think if there is any way you could enjoy yourself a bit more. No idea how old your children are, but some laying down of rules if they are old enough wouldn’t go amiss. Nor would a discussion with your OH around seeing if you could both organise better, share the household chores more. I’d be tempted to stop working from home as well, at least getting out of the house would help. Are you including the household “work” in your 10 hours a day, or is this on top?

Dont mind doing the washing/drying BUT I'm not washing something worn for 20 mins and there is your clean washing its up to you to put it away. Want it washing now? Err no. You can hand wash it yourself otherwise wait until there is a suitable load. luckily nothing is left on the floor for days. It was put in the bin (waste) because you obviously didnt care. the message got through.

What do you mean?

I live in Hove which is horribly expensive. I know people who rent but they work sensible hours.

If you want to elaborate I am sure posters can help you. I’m assuming you don’t want to continue slaving away like this…

70 hour week is normal for the self employed and those who need two jobs to pay for everything.