To take all our washing to the launderette once a week to escape the daily washing nightmare?

A few years ago I went on holiday to America and I ran out of clean clothes so my husband and I took all of her clothes to a launderette where they washed and ironed them all for us - it was bloody lovely!

There is one by me that you drop off and collect. It was so busy I couldn't use them last week. I guess I'm not the only one then!

So you work 10 hours days 7 days a week, your DH works even longer hours. And yet you are both enabling your children to be so lazy that they won't even put away clean washing. Why??

You seriously cannot get your children, who live in your house where you pay for everything to put things away?

You don't have a laundry problem, you have a 'you and DH parenting' problem

I would take it all on q Saturday morning and pay for a service wash. Tell no one in your family, let them assume you are physically doing the loading and drying stuff. Then take yourself off to a nice cafe and have a lovely breakfast, lovely coffee . Have a mooch somewhere nice and then pick it all up at a time that suits you.

Go for it. Make your life easier. I have one DS and the washing is relentless

The laundry is the least of your problems. I would sort the actual issues out rather than go to a laundrette.

But why only his own washing, if she is doing absolutely everything else around the house, surely at least that - everyone’s washing could surely be his responsibility, at the very least?

Tell DDs that if that's their attitude they can do without clean clothes. Ditto DH, I think - if you wfh then home is your office. You are not the office cleaner and they should pull their weight.
Quick solution, don't do all the stuff they say is your job, just do your job and do your what provides you with clean clothes, food etc.

How old are your children? If they are over 13 then they need to do their own washing. Also husband needs to do his own washing too.

Yeah, make sure you aren't overloading it. It it a heat pump drier? That can take longer but they operate at a cooler temperature so it isn't necessarily chewing through the electricity at rate you might fear.

How old are the “lazy” people and why are you tolerating this?

I’m assuming they aren’t small children if you’re calling them lazy, they presumably have eyes and can see how much you and your DH are working. What haven’t you imposed some rules and consequences for basically sitting back and watching their mother do absolutely everything for them? I’m a SAHM, I have loads of spare time and I’d definitely get angry at the sheer disrespect of putting clean clothes back into the wash because putting them in a drawer was too much effort, or if cleaning up their own mess was apparently beneath them. And mine are primary age with SEN.

You don’t need a laundrette, you need to launch a rocket under your children.

so you work nearly 12hrs a day 6 days a week??? Oh well,

If they are under 5 then I think the lazy fucker label is a little mean. 😁

Sounds like it. Are you over filling it? I tumble all winter and it costs about £20 a month extra on top of normal energy costs, which is worth it to me. I use it at least 4x a week.

Definitely, do shop and launderette as suggested. Then leave it all for the lazy fuckers you live with to put away. Put your stuff away yourself, obv. They can't find clean clothes? You did all the washing on Saturday so if they put their clothes away they must have some.

Honestly, why are you doing 70 hrs a week and all the domestics? Are your DC under 5, does your DP work 24/7?

How many of you in the house ? Can you also maybe look at trying to reduce laundry - are the kids chucking clean jeans in the basket after just one wash for example?

Do you have an electric dehumidifier ? Speeds up drying time loads.

This has made me really angry. Why isn’t your partner doing half of all the household chores? You work 70 hours a week and on top of that all of the house work? The laundrette idea actually sounds great, but at the moment I don’t think that the laundry is the problem here.

This!

Why do you have a cat that shits on your clothes?

That's absolutely gross.

I'd get rid of the cat and then tackle the other problems.

Why are you living this life?

What is the reason you have to put in more than double the amount of working hours of a full time worker, and more than a varying range but lets say quadruple the hours of a part time worker?

Stop washing their clothes if they won’t put clean laundry away.

Stop making their dinners if they won’t load the dish wash, Clear the table etc.

Stop paying their phone contracts, giving lifts to clubs etc if they aren’t pulling their weight around the house.

have a clear rota up somewhere for the whole family to see. Teens and even young children are more than capable of jobs like loading and unloading the dish washer, emptying the bins, hoovering, general tidying.

I have a tumble dryer but it takes 5 hours. We had a separate washer and dryer growing up that took about 3. I don't use ours as I thought it cost too much?
Also it doesn't totally dry things. Maybe I'm putting it on the wrong setting.

Why don't you tackle their behaviour and build some better cleaning habits. I know you might meet resistance and it may take more energy initially than just doing it yourself, but it has to be better than this seething resentment that you have developed for your DH and children?

Nigella seeds look just like mouse droppings 😂

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Both dds and husband don't do anything as I'm in the house 24/7 (lots of issues). They say that's my job.