To lie about completing a fundraising challenge

I did a mile a day walk for Battersea. It felt dishonest though as some days I'd do that anyway. So I changed it to an EXTRA mile a day and made sure I did that. I didn't raise a huge sum but it was honestly come by and the money went straight to Battersea in full (some of these walks you have to promise huge sums and it's actually split between various charities with large amounts going to the organisers.)

Could it be a bend in the rules rather than a complete break?

I'm not completely sure how it all works but sometimes these apps etc can take a while to update. Is there a chance she really is doing the distance? Perhaps adding in non-run distances such as the walk to work etc

This!

We had a friend recently raising £20k for a charity bike ride. Him and his work mates were going to Africa from the UK to cycle for charity.

The £20k was just to pay for the trip!!!!!! Not a single penny of that was going to the charity. It makes me sick.

These "charity travel companies" are just money grabbing travel agents, it's nothing to do with charity.

If money is involved then she's actually committing fraud and you can report her to the charity she's doing it for because it can blow up on them if they are audited.

I suppose what I wish for you both is a peaceful outcome because right now shes lying and you hating. Neither are good but with gentle talks and some understanding you may be able to sort it out. Ultimately it’s up to you both though. I had this one friend didn’t like the other for telling lies, when I reminded my friend eh look you have told a porky or two in your time and actually she may just need a good friend like you right now they sorted it out. The one who wasn’t for bothering was the better person she oversaw her flaws, saw her own flaws and they had a good old laugh about the stupid stuff they did when younger. They aren’t bessie mates but actually good friendship overlooks peoples flaws and is just there no matter what. I just hope you find some peace around it and realise there at no perfect people out there. We all have our moments but ultimately love covers a multitude of sins x

She's just making herself look like an idiot. If I sponsor a person I always pay them a set amount as I don't care how many lengths they have swam or how mamy miles they have rowed on a rowing machine.

It’s not really about the race or the charity this issue you have with her is you think she lies and is a dishonest person and until you sit down with her and say look I don’t know why you do this you aren’t going to move forward in a positive way or get rid of your angst with her. You either have to have the conversation or accept her for her ways and let it go because it’s making you hate on her with it and that ain’t good for you or her. Is it worth it really? Like you say she could be insecure and surely a person who is insecure needs a good friend to help them feel more secure with guidance and support. I hope you find a way to feel better about this x

@Journeyintomelody you won't get any hate from me! It's all about the attention for some people. The same person for me isn't gracious in good or bad runs, so if they get a parkrun pb or a good time in an event they are all look at meeeee and the effort I put in. If they aren't happy there's always an excuse!

You sound like a good egg of a runner, doing your thing your way and you maybe need to detach a little from this persons posts! Or maybe do a little post every now and again when you've done something you're proud of, get yourself some social media likes 😊

Don't. It's a pet hate.
Years ago, I did the Moonwalk (26 miles, overnight), as part of a 'team'. The day before, two of the team pulled out, and left the other three of us to do it. We did it, and were proud of our achievement. However, the two who pulled out, didn't confess to it, and we thought they should tell their supporters, as money was given/pledged based on them doing it.
I've really thought differently about them since.

@Journeyintomelody I get it! Someone on my Strava double posts every run that they do then boasts about having the highest weekly mileage in our running club. And they do the same during running every day type challenges. Really irritates me even though it makes literally no difference to me, my running or my life!!

I think... it's not about the running, or the charity. She's just irritating you with everything she does because you don't like her anymore. That, I understand. But OP, it's probably time to sever ties with her because you're on the edge of pettiness here and that dislike is going to drive you right over the line. I know because I've been there 🤣 When the gradual creep of disliking someone grows and every post pisses you off.

Just unfriend her and have done with it.

I get it OP, and you have had some odd responses.

She is lying about her run distances to make herself look better. I would find it weird and off putting if any friend did this. I am full of admiration for people taking on a fitness challenge, and am happy to sponsor someone if its a charity I like and it's genuinely a big thing for them to train to do it, but fibbing about distances is not on.

Charity is all a bit rubbish as a concept anyway.

We could just all agree that we want the government to increase funding for cancer research and services for homeless people and that we'd increase income tax by 1p to pay for it and save ourselves a huge amount of bother.

No, obviously there’s nothing wrong with growing apart, but all your previous posts were about your irritation at her dishonesty and social media self-congratulation. Now you say she’s always lied about her own achievements. Why is it only really bothering you now, if you’ve been friends so long? What is it you find particularly triggering about the run inflation?

I prefer to donate direct to charities. It saves ambiguity and the get all the cash.

I give money via direct debit to charity. I'm not a fan of these performative charity events. Not as bad as friends of ours though who regularly post photos of them picking up litter on the beach and getting dozens of facebook replies rewarding them for being ao heroic and amazing. Why do they have to share their good deeds online all
the damn time?

Maybe she is sleep running!