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Neighbour reported my cousin’s car as abandoned

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M2BANTRIM · 15/10/2024 19:45

Hi y’all . So a cousin of mine went to Spain last week and she left her car legally parked outside my house . This morning I had someone come in from our local borough to say that the car was abandoned. I was so shocked and lost for words . The lady who came in was just doing her job and I mentioned it was my cousin’s car and that she is on holiday . So I know for sure it was my neighbour who reported as she has never taken a liking to us . I am black by the way and she cannot fathom that I am a homeowner in the neighbourhood she is in and she already told other neighbours that she suspected that my husband must be 'doing something illegal to afford that house and car '. Will I be unreasonable to call the borough and ask who made the call or I should let it go ?

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Arran2024 · 15/10/2024 20:19

They won't tell you who reported it.

nottaotter · 15/10/2024 20:18

@M2BANTRIM she may well have seen your cousin leave the car, the neighbour also sounds like the kind of person who would notice a car and call the council anyway. Either way she sounds horrible and I would want to know as well who reported car.

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M2BANTRIM · 15/10/2024 20:17

BodenCardiganNot · 15/10/2024 20:15

What council is this??? I want to live there!

Well I don't want to dox myself but it is somewhere in Northern Ireland

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Pandasnacks · 15/10/2024 20:17

@M2BANTRIM the ones that you just answered...

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M2BANTRIM · 15/10/2024 20:16

Pandasnacks · 15/10/2024 20:13

That doesn't answer my questions at all, you already said that stuff.

What question

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BodenCardiganNot · 15/10/2024 20:15

What council is this??? I want to live there!

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M2BANTRIM · 15/10/2024 20:14

The person who came in had a uniform with the logo of the borough and same on the van she came in with . So I know for sure she came in from the borough . The car has been there on my property since last week Thursday . I never said anything about 24 hours and I do not know where the mention of 24 hours is coming from

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ArcaneWireless · 15/10/2024 20:14

@ATenShun

I’m with y’all….

Pandasnacks · 15/10/2024 20:13

That doesn't answer my questions at all, you already said that stuff.

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M2BANTRIM · 15/10/2024 20:12

Pandasnacks · 15/10/2024 20:08

That makes it even less likely that someone from the council came to view it in less than 24 hours to be honest. What was this woman's job role? Did you see her ID?

My cousin left it last week on Thursday and she will be back this week Friday . The car was legally parked on my property like I said . Tax and MOT are up to date on this car . Which is why I want to call tomorrow and ask

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ATenShun · 15/10/2024 20:11

Pandasnacks · 15/10/2024 20:08

That makes it even less likely that someone from the council came to view it in less than 24 hours to be honest. What was this woman's job role? Did you see her ID?

I agree, I have my doubts this is real. In a private space belonging that household, no way would anyone look into it unless the owner of the space complained.

Pandasnacks · 15/10/2024 20:08

That makes it even less likely that someone from the council came to view it in less than 24 hours to be honest. What was this woman's job role? Did you see her ID?

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M2BANTRIM · 15/10/2024 20:08

Pandasnacks · 15/10/2024 20:05

@M2BANTRIM my ethnicity is nothing to do with it. You've said she doesn't no it's your cousins car, so you've decide it's a racially motivated thing based on nothing, if she knew it was your cousins car I'd agree. But actually, you don't no who reported the car, and you don't no why it was reported if it even was. So let it go.

Do you mean 'no' or 'know ' ?? I’m confused

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M2BANTRIM · 15/10/2024 20:07

Ponderingwindow · 15/10/2024 20:02

How long are cars allowed to park on your street?

on ours they can’t be parked overnight, so a car left while someone went away for a week would definitely draw attention.

It wasn’t parked on the street . It was on my allocated parking space on my property

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Pandasnacks · 15/10/2024 20:05

@M2BANTRIM my ethnicity is nothing to do with it. You've said she doesn't no it's your cousins car, so you've decide it's a racially motivated thing based on nothing, if she knew it was your cousins car I'd agree. But actually, you don't no who reported the car, and you don't no why it was reported if it even was. So let it go.

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M2BANTRIM · 15/10/2024 20:03

CrystalSea · 15/10/2024 19:59

A car that is taxed and has a valid MOT and parked on a public highway will not attract a visit from the local council.

On what grounds?

That is exactly why I want to make the call on who called it in as abandoned . Hindsight is always 20/20 in that moment all I could think of was explaining that it was my cousin’s car and she was away on holiday and the lady was so nice and she said no worries we had received a call that there was an abandoned vehicle . The interaction lasted less than 10 minutes

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ATenShun · 15/10/2024 20:03

M2BANTRIM · 15/10/2024 20:00

We have had issues with her in the past but she is subtle with it and indirect . She also has said stuff about my family and I to other neighbours since we moved into our house . I’m not sure about your ethnicity but anyone who is ethnic in a predominantly white neighbourhood knows what I mean . The passive aggressiveness and the snide remarks are more than enough for me to know it it racially motivated

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You may be seeing racism where there isn't any. Most neighbours gossip. When your not there they talk about you, when she isn't there it's her turn to be talked about and so on. Don't sweat it.

Ponderingwindow · 15/10/2024 20:02

How long are cars allowed to park on your street?

on ours they can’t be parked overnight, so a car left while someone went away for a week would definitely draw attention.

Smithhy · 15/10/2024 20:01

How do you mean someone came in?

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M2BANTRIM · 15/10/2024 20:00

Pandasnacks · 15/10/2024 19:56

@M2BANTRIM if she doesn't no it's your cousins car then how do you know for certain this is a racially motivated jab at you?

We have had issues with her in the past but she is subtle with it and indirect . She also has said stuff about my family and I to other neighbours since we moved into our house . I’m not sure about your ethnicity but anyone who is ethnic in a predominantly white neighbourhood knows what I mean . The passive aggressiveness and the snide remarks are more than enough for me to know it it racially motivated

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CrystalSea · 15/10/2024 19:59

A car that is taxed and has a valid MOT and parked on a public highway will not attract a visit from the local council.

On what grounds?

VeryCheesyChips · 15/10/2024 19:58

I’d be more annoyed that the council had allocated funding to such a pointless visit to a legally parked car.

DaniMontyRae · 15/10/2024 19:56

M2BANTRIM · 15/10/2024 19:53

No she does not know it is my cousin’s car as we rarely speak . Tax and MOT are all up to date

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If there is no indication the car is connected to you then why do you think the neighbour complained because she doesn't like you?

Pandasnacks · 15/10/2024 19:56

@M2BANTRIM if she doesn't no it's your cousins car then how do you know for certain this is a racially motivated jab at you?

BodenCardiganNot · 15/10/2024 19:55

You are very lucky to have a council that is well staffed and funded and able to act so quickly on complaints!