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Neighbour reported my cousin’s car as abandoned

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M2BANTRIM · 15/10/2024 19:45

Hi y’all . So a cousin of mine went to Spain last week and she left her car legally parked outside my house . This morning I had someone come in from our local borough to say that the car was abandoned. I was so shocked and lost for words . The lady who came in was just doing her job and I mentioned it was my cousin’s car and that she is on holiday . So I know for sure it was my neighbour who reported as she has never taken a liking to us . I am black by the way and she cannot fathom that I am a homeowner in the neighbourhood she is in and she already told other neighbours that she suspected that my husband must be 'doing something illegal to afford that house and car '. Will I be unreasonable to call the borough and ask who made the call or I should let it go ?

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Hoppinggreen · 15/10/2024 21:21

M2BANTRIM · 15/10/2024 20:07

It wasn’t parked on the street . It was on my allocated parking space on my property

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Very odd, I have reported an actually abandoned car on a public road before and had no response
How did this lady get your number? A search of the numberplate would have brought up the car owners details surely?

ilovesooty · 15/10/2024 21:17

M2BANTRIM · 15/10/2024 20:07

It wasn’t parked on the street . It was on my allocated parking space on my property

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Even more remarkable thst they came and paid you a visit then. And no, they won't confirm who reported it.

ATenShun · 15/10/2024 21:17

StMarieforme · 15/10/2024 21:15

@ATenShun what you seem to have a problem with is the very possibility of it being racially motivated.

When put into context with what said neighbour has said previously about OP and her DH, it is a very great possibility that it was, indeed, racially motivated.

Without that comment, OP would not be as sure.

As they say in N Ireland catch yerself on!

Whatisthisifound · 15/10/2024 21:17

I doubt the council would agree to tell you who reported it.

Anyway, you know that it was your neighbour, you don't really need it confirmed.

Also, your neighbour is probably both racist and nasty. I would steer very well clear of her. Because I don't really see what else you can do.

If you think it's going along the lines of harassment, then you can keep a log of what has happened - dates, times, details etc etc and if it ever gets to the stage where it needs reporting, this will serve as evidence. I'd make a written note of what happened with the car.

StMarieforme · 15/10/2024 21:15

@ATenShun what you seem to have a problem with is the very possibility of it being racially motivated.

When put into context with what said neighbour has said previously about OP and her DH, it is a very great possibility that it was, indeed, racially motivated.

Without that comment, OP would not be as sure.

grasyas · 15/10/2024 21:14

You have the right to ask the council if you want to. But I doubt they will tell you who reported it due to confidentiality.

ATenShun · 15/10/2024 21:13

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StMarieforme · 15/10/2024 21:12

@Rarebitten that "sigh" comment is one of the nastiest things I've seen on MN.

It's racist by the fact the car was parked on OP's property and reported. If it had been parked on another neighbour's property the likelihood is that the car would not have been reported.

Can y'all stop insinuating that racism doesn't exist? Please.

PurpleFlower1983 · 15/10/2024 21:09

This happened to my now husband’s car when we first got together. He worked away a lot and there was one particular stint of around 3 weeks. The car was parked legally etc. but it was reported as abandoned. There was a car abandoned on our street once though, that got towed.

StMarieforme · 15/10/2024 21:08

@bergamotorange I totally agree with you. Weird for PO to vehemently question whether OP has had racially motivated attacks, be they verbal or physical.

I find OP's thread perfectly easy to follow and understand. It seems very plausible. And yes people do use Americanisms in language! Not the point of the thread!

Nomorelittlebabybum · 15/10/2024 21:07

Buy the shittist oldest cheapest caravan and park it in the space outside their house

ATenShun · 15/10/2024 21:03

taxguru · 15/10/2024 21:01

This. We've a car on our road - road tax ran out in 2020, MOT ran out in 2021. Got 4 flat tyres and weeds growing out of it. But council aren't interested and repeated reports from residents and parish council don't get any response.

If a council official has actually come out to look at it, I'd venture a guess that road tax, MOT or insurance has expired - they're really not going to waste their time on anything that's actually legally on the road. It's far easier for them to check online and stay in their office than to come out and look!

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I agree wholeheartedly. The powers that be can barely keep up with the untaxed uninsured cars driving about without worrying about parked ones.

ATenShun · 15/10/2024 21:02

bergamotorange · 15/10/2024 21:00

I am surprised you require 'proof'.
This is not a court of law.
What proof would you be wanting to see on an anonymous thread? Confused

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Just reading the thread. Point me out towards any actual racist incident. If there is none, then any claim of racism does a disservice to genuine racist incidents.

taxguru · 15/10/2024 21:01

GargoylesofBeelzebub · 15/10/2024 19:51

As if they would bother doing anything about a legally taxed, legally parked car. They don't even bother about untaxed cars.

This. We've a car on our road - road tax ran out in 2020, MOT ran out in 2021. Got 4 flat tyres and weeds growing out of it. But council aren't interested and repeated reports from residents and parish council don't get any response.

If a council official has actually come out to look at it, I'd venture a guess that road tax, MOT or insurance has expired - they're really not going to waste their time on anything that's actually legally on the road. It's far easier for them to check online and stay in their office than to come out and look!

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DreamW3aver · 15/10/2024 20:50

Things must be different in NI, certainly in my part of England there's no way the council would come out for a taxed legally parked car after any length of time

Things are very different in NI yes. I've lived in both NI and England, and the councils in England are awful.

PCOSisaid · 15/10/2024 21:00

The council won’t be able to tell you, but you should tell 111 a that a suspected racially motivated malicious report has been made about you/your address - sadly these numpty knuckle draggers like to escalate things and this may be the start of a series of harassment

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M2BANTRIM · 15/10/2024 21:00

bergamotorange · 15/10/2024 21:00

I am surprised you require 'proof'.
This is not a court of law.
What proof would you be wanting to see on an anonymous thread? Confused

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Exactly 😂

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bergamotorange · 15/10/2024 21:00

ATenShun · 15/10/2024 20:58

Where, anywhere within the OP's posts are there any actual proof of racism. All you have is that 'she thinks' she is experiencing racism based on third party gossip.

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I am surprised you require 'proof'.
This is not a court of law.
What proof would you be wanting to see on an anonymous thread? Confused

NC10125 · 15/10/2024 20:58

Ignore the car issue and the comments.

But make it your life’s work to encourage other black families to move into the neighbourhood every time a house is for sale. Extra points if it’s the house right next door to hers!!!

ATenShun · 15/10/2024 20:58

bergamotorange · 15/10/2024 20:53

I am surprised you require people to 'back it up' when it is something that happens all the time.

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Where, anywhere within the OP's posts are there any actual proof of racism. All you have is that 'she thinks' she is experiencing racism based on third party gossip.

redwinechocolateandsnacks · 15/10/2024 20:57

You can only report a car as abandoned if it does not have an MOT or insurance. Also the car generally has to be abandoned on the roadside for a number of weeks.

AmberAlert86 · 15/10/2024 20:57

Perhaps you could ring up council on the pretense of asking if the person that visited today was definitely a council worker? And then it can lead to enquiring if they can tell you who made the complaint as it seems so strange that someone would pay attention to the car parked in your space. Also you could explain that you have a tricky neighbour, and ask them for advice on what your next steps should be.
I hope you have CCTV, also hope your front garden and Xmas decorations are nicer than hers just to rub her nose in!

PeloMom · 15/10/2024 20:56

@Pandasnacks I said British as is it something cultural and typical in Britain.

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M2BANTRIM · 15/10/2024 20:56

ATenShun · 15/10/2024 20:51

No. I have a problem with claims of racism with nothing at all to back it up.

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Wow @ATenShun you need me to back up claims of racism that I experienced ? Wow just wow .

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